Me Time!

[janet88]

starlight1968sg:

Janet
How about giving your process a specific and agreed time withduration as her own time, and the rest will be \"work\" time?
During her own time, it will be your ME or rest time.

she is supposed to plan her own schedule...but with so much homework, she just doesn't have time to do so.
I want to give her ME TIME too, but there are subjects like math, POA and physics which she requires help from hubby...but he is busy with tuition until 9+ daily. it's only weekend noon onwards when he has time for her. son is busy with his workload and can't coach her.

[MrsKiasu]

MyPillow:

MrsKiasu:

That is what dh says too..that day we went to east coast to play sand then to bedok hawker to eat..dh says go wherever also never mind, got to have a break.

chill ,... i dun go crazy with my kids work ..my own outside work already drive me nuts - But at least i got PAID + bonus ..But i am a bit angry at times, or every other day with ds . my dh said i may get old easily, ... manage n adjust our expectations are key to quality ageing i have given kid resources, its time they manage themselves at upp sec , else how to go tertiary - we cant be there all the time to \"watch and hawk\" at them ... i still do nag to remind them - else they will behave like 没政府 - i dun allow this to happen

oh ya... i miss those days going ecp play sand n eat nearby parkway hawker or east coast hawker .... where di my time go now... like more busy as kids grow too (??)

I was getting myself all ready for dd this year in fact and suddenly I feel soo free in a way..feel not needed at all it seems..so now every day I find something to bake..bake in smaller batch can finish by next day so can bake again..learning to cook too..realised not been cooking much so like everything going to start again..suddenly feel that like never get so close to understand dd2..take this opportunity to sayang dd2..I m also gain more peace with myself..kinda up to dd/her fate etc la..I cant even get near her in studies unless chers call up then I know what happened and do my part to send the msg..

[laughingcat]

Estee, woah...your DH so romantic. Valentine on cruise. :love:


zac'mum, dun worry so much. It's only the beginning. You will get the hand of it soon. Yes can totally feel you on the mad rush after work. I used to cringe over the mad rush, the constant nagging of the boys doing homework. The constant checking of the work schedules, home schedules, school schedules and daily homework schedules. Stay strong. You will get there once you lay out the schedules.

[janet88]

laughingcat:

zac'mum, dun worry so much. It's only the beginning. You will get the hand of it soon. Yes can totally feel you on the mad rush after work. I used to cringe over the mad rush, the constant nagging of the boys doing homework. The constant checking of the work schedules, home schedules, school schedules and daily homework schedules. Stay strong. You will get there once you lay out the schedules.

when there is a schedule in place, it's easier. however, it may get a little tricky when exams are near because other than getting daily homework completed, you would need to see that the kids' revise as well.

[laughingcat]

Janet, have a heart to heart talk with your dd on the help she needed other than your DH on the school related. This might help to reduce the unnecessary "waiting time" or specify a weekly schedule between your DH and DD.


I feel that should give teenagers some time out otherwise watched over them too tightly will have repercussion.

[laughingcat]

janet88:

laughingcat:

zac'mum, dun worry so much. It's only the beginning. You will get the hand of it soon. Yes can totally feel you on the mad rush after work. I used to cringe over the mad rush, the constant nagging of the boys doing homework. The constant checking of the work schedules, home schedules, school schedules and daily homework schedules. Stay strong. You will get there once you lay out the schedules.

when there is a schedule in place, it's easier. however, it may get a little tricky when exams are near because other than getting daily homework completed, you would need to see that the kids' revise as well.

When nearing to exam time, tweak the weekly schedule again.

For us, the kiddos have been trained to stick to the home study schedules. So when nearing to the exam, we have another schedule on the revision portion.

[janet88]

laughingcat:

Janet, have a heart to heart talk with your dd on the help she needed other than your DH on the school related. This might help to reduce the unnecessary \"waiting time\" or specify a weekly schedule between your DH and DD.


I feel that should give teenagers some time out otherwise watched over them too tightly will have repercussion.

she definitely needs breathing space. we have discussed subject workload.
on weekdays, she would get homework done and for questions she can't handle, she will put them aside until hubby returns home. these 3 weeks, she is having graded tests (CA1). after this period, we will resume our Saturday evenings out.

[Estéema]

laughingcat:

Estee, woah...your DH so romantic. Valentine on cruise. :love:


zac'mum, dun worry so much. It's only the beginning. You will get the hand of it soon. Yes can totally feel you on the mad rush after work. I used to cringe over the mad rush, the constant nagging of the boys doing homework. The constant checking of the work schedules, home schedules, school schedules and daily homework schedules. Stay strong. You will get there once you lay out the schedules.

LC,
Nice to see u’re back in the Forum with us.

@ Zac’s mum You might try taking pics of hmwk or ask peer parents for help. I rmbr one year, one peer FTWM mum asked for a pic of Chinese 听写 list as they were out on weekend booked hotel celebrating National Day. In the rush, she forgot & child was panic coz the new week will be tested. These are what frds in class chtgrp are for. :grphug:

S’times, I see kids & parents having worksheets or textbook at Toastbox or public areas doing hmwk & learning for exams. These days kids start early using public areas with parents sipping coffee at Starbucks or Pizza place. My family do not hv such habits tho. I know of one FTWM have both her kids brot to a quiet cafe near her office so she can intermittently run down to supervise their work before they head home for dinner. Not easy, hence I’ll always respond & watch for FTWM who need anything or any help.

[phtthp]

janet88:

laughingcat:

Janet, have a heart to heart talk with your dd on the help she needed other than your DH on the school related. This might help to reduce the unnecessary \"waiting time\" or specify a weekly schedule between your DH and DD.


I feel that should give teenagers some time out otherwise watched over them too tightly will have repercussion.

she definitely needs breathing space. we have discussed subject workload.
on weekdays, she would get homework done and for questions she can't handle, she will put them aside until hubby returns home. these 3 weeks, she is having graded tests (CA1). after this period, we will resume our Saturday evenings out.

Instead of relying on your husband to teach your daughter, since he is so tired by the time he reach home after a hard day of work outside, why not get your Sec 3 daughter to book appointment with her respective subject Teachers, clarify whatever doubts (concepts not clear) she have ?

At Sec 3, she is big (old), mature enough, to handle independen learning, asking of questions herself. The sense of ownership of learning, must come from she herself. As a mother, you cannot study on her behalf, because you are not the one taking exam. She is the student, she ought to take responsibility, of her own learning. She is already in Sec 3, not a P1 kiddo who need hand holding. She need to take ownership, of her own learning. She must be willing, want to learn on her own, too.

[starlight1968sg]

Parents know their kids the best and they are their best advisers.


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