Me Time!
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Everything have their own pros and cons.
I think the ones who are commendable are people like slmkhoo and Jennifer. They stopped work for many years for the sake of their kids and when kids are independent, they enter the workforce again. Not easy as people tend to be resistant to change and as we grow older, our appetite for challenges also diminish. -
I am fortunate that I have been able to get part-time work. I think society has to change how work is structured. Not everyone wants to or can work full-time and high-intensity, including people with young kids, sick family members, etc. At the same time, there is a need to get more locals to fill the vacancies if we don’t want too many foreign workers. Many people, not just older people, would prefer to do some work, but not 50 hrs a week. Unfortunately, most employers are just too stuck in a rut to redesign jobs to take into account these changes in society. I would like to see employers splitting jobs up so they can be done by part-timers, or allowing job-sharing. I’ve heard so many people tell me that part-time work means working just as much in less time for less pay - that’s not fair.
Employees also have to play their part by being responsible and taking work seriously (I do note that part-timers don’t always seem to take work seriously, or interpreting "flexi" to mean "no need to work if the boss isn’t there to see"). And older workers have to change their mindset that salaries must stay at a certain level or it "isn’t worth it" or "no face"; I don’t think there’s anything shameful in taking less responsibility, letting a younger person be the boss, and getting a pay cut so we can stay in part-time work for a few more years.
Since returning to the workforce at 50, almost all my supervisors have been younger than me, and I have definitely been paid a lot less than if I worked full time. But I am OK with that, and I definitely prefer to do some work than none. My parents retired at 55-60, and have had over 20 yrs of retirement - they seem to be OK with that, but I think it has been such a waste. -
Estéema\" post_id=\"1900100\" time=\"1551240656\" user_id=\"66413:
You hv 2 more years to wait? Not long lah. Look at it positively, yl hv to go thro PSLE 2 years in a row. You hv a breather & time to move to new home & enjoy before next PSLE comes along mah.laughingcat\" post_id=\"1900094\" time=\"1551240136\" user_id=\"3309:
WAH! yl, envious envious. Good life.
Actually I prefer quick quick at one go.
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laughingcat\" post_id=\"1900148\" time=\"1551254057\" user_id=\"3309:
You hv 2 more years to wait? Not long lah. Look at it positively, yl hv to go thro PSLE 2 years in a row. You hv a breather & time to move to new home & enjoy before next PSLE comes along mah.Estéema\" post_id=\"1900100\" time=\"1551240656\" user_id=\"66413:
[quote=laughingcat post_id=1900094 time=1551240136 user_id=3309]WAH! yl, envious envious. Good life.
Actually I prefer quick quick at one go. [/quote]You prefer quick quick, but yr DS2 not quick quick come to catch up with 哥哥 leh! 
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Agree with leeyi. I miss chit chatting with colleagues but love the carefreeness of a SAHM. Also, need to be careful with spending. If not, my “boss” will grumble…
Not easy for employees of our age. Bosses have higher expectations as we are more highly paid. We are given more projects and expected to guide our younger colleagues… -
going to make fried rice, pan fry salmon and blanched broccoli for dds…going to knead a dough to destress too.
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MyPillow\" post_id=\"1900138\" time=\"1551249023\" user_id=\"70594:
I agree with MP on this part. I think being your own boss and see your business grow is quite different from the mentality of a
i think being a salaried employee and running own business produce different outcome of mindset.
we work bcoz of the salary/bonus and vacation leave etc
Running own biz has its own satisfaction & achievement that salaried employee can't achieve and taste at all.
My runway is confirmed shorter as a salaried staff , unless i can think of a business to start up too ....dun think I have biz mind ... hmmm... back as a 打工女 :roll:
9am-5pm salaried worker. 工字不出头.
And for some people, they prefer commission-based jobs than a fixed salary 9am-5pm job. -
Cloud Cloud\" post_id=\"1900150\" time=\"1551254248\" user_id=\"160688:[quote=\"Cloud Cloud\" post_id=1900150 time=1551254248 user_id=160688]
Agree with leeyi. I miss chit chatting with colleagues but love the carefreeness of a SAHM. Also, need to be careful with spending. If not, my “boss” will grumble...
Not easy for employees of our age. Bosses have higher expectations as we are more highly paid. We are given more projects and expected to guide our younger colleagues...[/quote]
I think even if we need to 伸手要钱 and kena grumbled by our “paymasters”, it is still worth it. Because I can slap/kick my “paymaster” but I can’t do that to my office boss if he trampled on my ego. :rotflmao: -
slmkhoo\" post_id=\"1900112\" time=\"1551244582\" user_id=\"28674:
Yes, Kind of boring after a while. I have a helper at home to take care of all the household chores. I pay for her salary while hubby pays the levy. We split the cost cos both of us lazy to do housework.
Carefree, yes, but I think it gets boring after a while. I've been there, done that, too. After my kids were settled back into Singapore school with fairly long hours, I found that I was getting quite bored and aimless. I had been out of the workforce for 17 yrs. I've found that a 50-70% working schedule seems to be the optimum for me - I used to work from home mainly (which I enjoyed), but not many jobs are designed that way. Now I work 50% in an office, with some additional freelance work from home. Finances haven't changed much as what I earn hardly makes any difference to our household income!lee_yl\" post_id=\"1900105\" time=\"1551242997\" user_id=\"17023:
Though life is boring, at least it’s carefree.
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Pros and cons of being FTWM and SAHM. FTWM can chitchat with colleagues and go out with kakis during lunch. Quite fun. As a SAHM, if I overspend, I see black face from my paymaster, if you know what I mean.
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@LC, You have no intention to go back to work? My BFF rejoined the work force this year, after a gap of 14 years, after her youngest got into GEP.
I still do the housework, cooking etc, have some flexibility in working hours, but I like feeling that I am doing something constructive with my mind and my time. At 50yo, I felt too young to \"retire\", and having just turned 55yo, I don't think I plan to for a long time more.
But I am very sure I will not return to the work force. I don’t mind doing some part-time property investment related stuff though.
I have already made plans to ensure that even in the event, touchwood, say my paymaster sayonara first, I also don’t have to look for a 9am-5pm job. -
Am not ambitious and admit I don’t hv much fighting spirit. I just want to do my work and that is it. Such a simple request may not be easily met.
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