Me Time!

[janet88]

starlight1968sg\" post_id=\"1904073\" time=\"1553740266\" user_id=\"14025:

It is a feeling of emptiness; returning home which is an empty nest; loss of motivation or sense of direction. It takes quite a while to get used to it.

my life has been revolving around them since the day my first one was born...yes, born with that cleft lip and palate, it was all about him, running around KK seeing this doctor for the condition and ENT doctor for the ears.

next year he will be enlisting for NS leaving the younger one at home. she may be a girl but a feisty one, complete opposite of her brother.
I do need to keep an eye on her especially when she enters poly. this one has been a chilli padi since p1...and after hearing what my son tells me about his poly classmates, I know I would have to monitor her even more.

we want ME TIME, but not all the time.
we yearn for time away from the kids, but when we are away, we miss them and wonder what they are doing.

[sharonkhoo]

janet88\" post_id=\"1904142\" time=\"1553777734\" user_id=\"12950:

starlight1968sg\" post_id=\"1904073\" time=\"1553740266\" user_id=\"14025:

It is a feeling of emptiness; returning home which is an empty nest; loss of motivation or sense of direction. It takes quite a while to get used to it.

my life has been revolving around them since the day my first one was born...
we want ME TIME, but not all the time.
we yearn for time away from the kids, but when we are away, we miss them and wonder what they are doing.

That's why it's good to prepare early and gradually increase the amount of time involved in our own activities, not on the kids. Try to avoid sudden changes which can be hard to take. Once you are used to some time away from the kids, increasing the amount will be easier.

[janet88]

lee_yl\" post_id=\"1904101\" time=\"1553751174\" user_id=\"17023:

I am not worried about empty nest, by then, it’s almost time my hubby retires (he’s already in his 50s) and I have to nag at him.

Actually, I am more worried he will “leave early”. If spouse leaves suddenly, can also suffer from empty nest syndrome. DH kind enough to ask me to go find another companion after his passing.

we have been staying at our new place for just 9 months.
guess what, he is already thinking of downsizing :faint:
I told him, 'no way. I'm enjoying the shiok feeling of a new flat. it was so hard to get it.'
then he told the kids to apply for flats in Tengah when they get married. he will tutor and send the grandchildren to and fro. :roll:

[starlight1968sg]

Janet

You may change when your kids grow up. It is better to hv a small empty than a big empty nest

[MrsKiasu]

slmkhoo, you have planned well…could manage all the transitions smoothly.


leeyl, agree with you lor it is the companionship no much of xiaoxianrou or wat la…

[MrsKiasu]

janet88\" post_id=\"1904145\" time=\"1553778307\" user_id=\"12950:

lee_yl\" post_id=\"1904101\" time=\"1553751174\" user_id=\"17023:

I am not worried about empty nest, by then, it’s almost time my hubby retires (he’s already in his 50s) and I have to nag at him.

Actually, I am more worried he will “leave early”. If spouse leaves suddenly, can also suffer from empty nest syndrome. DH kind enough to ask me to go find another companion after his passing.

we have been staying at our new place for just 9 months.
guess what, he is already thinking of downsizing :faint:
I told him, 'no way. I'm enjoying the shiok feeling of a new flat. it was so hard to get it.'
then he told the kids to apply for flats in Tengah when they get married. he will tutor and send the grandchildren to and fro. :roll:

Janet, yr dh got plan on what to do next time already..

[MyPillow]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1904154\" time=\"1553782930\" user_id=\"43981:

slmkhoo, you have planned well..could manage all the transitions smoothly.

leeyl, agree with you lor it is the companionship no much of xiaoxianrou or wat la..

:rotflmao: Xiao xian Rou is just a joke la , dun think a snr woman look for such r/ ship

Frankly , do u think u will find a companion - let’s say already in 60s after spouse pass?
For myself - been thinking casually abt it after leeyl post - I do not know at the moment , but another thought is can’t forget the spouse lei , after living n loving for so many decades...
Next is if our parent finds a companion , can we as kids accept ? Is the r/ship out of money or real care / love ... hmmm ... ?

[MrsKiasu]

MyPillow\" post_id=\"1904156\" time=\"1553784145\" user_id=\"70594:

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1904154\" time=\"1553782930\" user_id=\"43981:

slmkhoo, you have planned well..could manage all the transitions smoothly.

leeyl, agree with you lor it is the companionship no much of xiaoxianrou or wat la..

:rotflmao: Xiao xian Rou is just a joke la , dun think a snr woman look for such r/ ship

Frankly , do u think u will find a companion - let’s say already in 60s after spouse pass?
For myself - been thinking casually abt it after leeyl post - I do not know at the moment , but another thought is can’t forget the spouse lei , after living n loving for so many decades...
Next is if our parent finds a companion , can we as kids accept ? Is the r/ship out of money or real care / love ... hmmm ... ?

jk jk here too

on companion..I never thought of it for myself but gave it a thought after talking abt this..for dh ..last time I feel no la, I will still feel jealous even gone but now I would think dont want dh to live miserably too..just hope that it only comes with blessing from the children..maybe let my kids be truly independent before need sharing the love of their dad? touc wood touch wood, just hope we could live happy, long life and healthy la
for our parents, when I was young I wont like..but now I changed my mind..why not as we do not have time for them.. yup of course worry their money got cheated, I think very normal worries..

[sharonkhoo]

janet88\" post_id=\"1904145\" time=\"1553778307\" user_id=\"12950:

we have been staying at our new place for just 9 months.
guess what, he is already thinking of downsizing :faint:
I told him, 'no way. I'm enjoying the shiok feeling of a new flat. it was so hard to get it.'
then he told the kids to apply for flats in Tengah when they get married. he will tutor and send the grandchildren to and fro. :roll:

Well, it's something to bear in mind. You won't need to seriously consider it for quite a few years yet as even your son has many years to go before becoming truly independent. Even for us, though we are almost certain to downsize eventually, it won't be for several years yet. And my kids are older than yours.

We are definitely not offering to tutor or chauffer any grandkids! Emergency services only.

[janet88]

starlight1968sg\" post_id=\"1904147\" time=\"1553778998\" user_id=\"14025:

Janet
You may change when your kids grow up. It is better to hv a small empty than a big empty nest

I guess so.
maybe he knows I won't be able to clean a big place when I am old.
but the BTO with 1 room and 1 hall is small for 2 people.