All About Full-Time Maids

[Estéema]

janet88\" post_id=\"1928237\" time=\"1565652579\" user_id=\"12950:

Estéema\" post_id=\"1928209\" time=\"1565615638\" user_id=\"66413:

janet88,
Be cordial & tell her u hv yr houserules, and reinforce hp usage only after her work are all done after dinner.

Be firm that u expect her to be considerate whether she is a guest or a helper - considerate to yr daughter’s space and use of her room when she is doing hmwk, tuition. She is to use the room only for sleeping. If she need to use her hp use it in the living room or kitchen area whichever u set for her. Like lee_yl indicate she’ll be back to yr mum soon.

esteema,
I have always thought when treating a person well, he/she will reciprocate.
unfortunately she has forgotten she is a domestic helper and sleeping in my daughter's room is really giving her too much face. she is always in the room and forces my daughter out. anyway, I will bring her to the agency until parents return. this domestic helper has forgotten her status.

janet88,

I agree. Any decent human being will treat each other well. Just that not all reciprocates with gratitude, esp if they only think of their needs. That’s the reason why we need to be firm, without mistreating them, just to keep the line btwn eyer & eyee clear. That way, eyer gets the respect and feel the love without being taken for a ride. Sorry for my crude descriptions.

[Angelique]

Janet88.


I think it goes beyond you being nice to your parents helper …she is being quite rude and using your daughter’s perfumes and lotions without asking is …amount to stealing. Just because it’s not money and jewellery she is taking doesn’t make it right. I’m shocked your daughter is ok about someone else touching her things ! my girl will be really angry and say something.
Using phone… ok to a point but it’s not polite to be so loud it can be overheard.
Overall, shocking behaviour, she should be thankful to have such kind people to work for.

[janet88]

Angelique\" post_id=\"1928385\" time=\"1565678874\" user_id=\"117268:

Janet88.

I think it goes beyond you being nice to your parents helper ....she is being quite rude and using your daughter’s perfumes and lotions without asking is ..amount to stealing. Just because it’s not money and jewellery she is taking doesn’t make it right. I’m shocked your daughter is ok about someone else touching her things ! my girl will be really angry and say something.
Using phone.. ok to a point but it’s not polite to be so loud it can be overheard.
Overall, shocking behaviour, she should be thankful to have such kind people to work for.

my daughter is definitely no ok.
after 1 week staying here, her true colours showed up.
anyway, I've returned her to the agency yesterday right after it opened in the morning.
my daughter has several tests coming up and homework...at 9pm, the maid shooed her out of the room :mad: she has clearly forgotten the room is not hers :censored: this was the last straw. no way can I tolerate this.

[Avon]

Hi! My helper’s passport is due on 30 oct 2019. Does anyone know who sld be paying for the renewal? Read from MOM website that employers are not obliged but can pay out of good will and others saying that it’s stated in the renewal contract that employer has to pay for it.


Can we also get the helper to do the collection on her off day too ?

Any advice is deeply appreciated ! Thanks !

[Estéema]

Avon\" post_id=\"1929624\" time=\"1566017493\" user_id=\"180590:

Hi! My helper's passport is due on 30 oct 2019. Does anyone know who sld be paying for the renewal? Read from MOM website that employers are not obliged but can pay out of good will and others saying that it's stated in the renewal contract that employer has to pay for it.

Can we also get the helper to do the collection on her off day too ?

Any advice is deeply appreciated ! Thanks !

When I select helpers, I usually ensure they hv at least 3-5 years validity in their passport. When they do their new passport in their home country, it is very much cheaper & less hassle. I rmbr my first Indo girl (who was with me for 6 years) had to renew at her embassy & I was caught unprepared when the embassy staff insisted that I show them a copy of contract with terms as per stipulated by Indo regulations. I had to take their copy, find a lawyer to notarized it before rushing back to embassy. I wldn’t do that anymore.

I usually just pay for their renewal as it is not expensive and I renew their passport only coz they worked well in my family. So far I’ve not encountered any passport renewal that is costly except my pino girl once told me it is expensive to do in SG but very cheap to do back in her country.

I don’t think the helpers can do their passport on their off-days, assuming it’s Sundays u’re talking abt. Even if it’s a Sat, most embassies do not perform passport renewals. I rmbr some will need time to process, hence specifically mornings to submit all ppt photos, doc & pymts, afternoon to collect prejnted new ppt.

[janet88]

Angelique\" post_id=\"1928385\" time=\"1565678874\" user_id=\"117268:

Janet88.

I think it goes beyond you being nice to your parents helper ....she is being quite rude and using your daughter’s perfumes and lotions without asking is ..amount to stealing. Just because it’s not money and jewellery she is taking doesn’t make it right. I’m shocked your daughter is ok about someone else touching her things ! my girl will be really angry and say something.
Using phone.. ok to a point but it’s not polite to be so loud it can be overheard.
Overall, shocking behaviour, she should be thankful to have such kind people to work for.

at parents' place, she only gets to use the mobile phone at night. at my place, she is very rude and simply has no respect.
she told the agency I didn't stop her from singing and using the phone. for me, I will only say it once if the maid goes overboard. when she started blasting the songs, singing loudly and talking while cooking, she knows I am aware and I did hint it's too loud. the Myanmar translator told her even if I didn't say anything about her phone usage, she should have known it's overboard. anyway, she is sitting at the agency everyday waiting for a new employer.
i suspect her change of behavior is due to her friends' brainwash...that i'm not the employer and as such there is no need to behave when staying at my place. obviously she doesn't know i have the authority to return her to the agency.

[Angelique]

at parents’ place, she only gets to use the mobile phone at night. at my place, she is very rude and simply has no respect.

she told the agency I didn’t stop her from singing and using the phone. for me, I will only say it once if the maid goes overboard. when she started blasting the songs, singing loudly and talking while cooking, she knows I am aware and I did hint it’s too loud. the Myanmar translator told her even if I didn’t say anything about her phone usage, she should have known it’s overboard. anyway, she is sitting at the agency everyday waiting for a new employer.
i suspect her change of behavior is due to her friends’ brainwash…that i’m not the employer and as such there is no need to behave when staying at my place. obviously she doesn’t know i have the authority to return her to the agency.
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@Janet88
My last Myanmar helper was like that…rude!
I employed Myanmar girls before but never encountered a girl who was so rude as my ex maid, she rolled her eyes, laughed and made noises while I was speaking to her.
Never greet no body, angry why I’m not giving her WiFi even though it was agreed at the beginning and agent told her as well. After 1 week she got upset and demanded to speak to agent to change employment.
She only cleaned 1 room, iron. Cooking was v bad so I got take outevert day and looked after my boy myself.
She complained that was heavy work, told me she can’t finish contract in 2nd week and don’t want to complete loan. I hired new maid, Fillipina although I’m aware they are demanding, I just couldn’t handle training another maid and maid being too dumb to follow. Soon as my ex maid found out I hired new maid she told me she changed her mind and will try to finish her contract if only I extend her off day time!
I’m sooo happy she is gone!. I lost money but really gotta decent maid now who worked 14yrs for 1 employer and only left as children are now adults.

I wish you luck Janet. Hope you get a good maid for your parents sake.

[janet88]

Angelique\" post_id=\"1929882\" time=\"1566131939\" user_id=\"117268:

@Janet88
My last Myanmar helper was like that....rude!
I employed Myanmar girls before but never encountered a girl who was so rude as my ex maid, she rolled her eyes, laughed and made noises while I was speaking to her.
Never greet no body, angry why I’m not giving her WiFi even though it was agreed at the beginning and agent told her as well. After 1 week she got upset and demanded to speak to agent to change employment.
She only cleaned 1 room, iron. Cooking was v bad so I got take outevert day and looked after my boy myself.
She complained that was heavy work, told me she can’t finish contract in 2nd week and don’t want to complete loan. I hired new maid, Fillipina although I’m aware they are demanding, I just couldn’t handle training another maid and maid being too dumb to follow. Soon as my ex maid found out I hired new maid she told me she changed her mind and will try to finish her contract if only I extend her off day time!
I’m sooo happy she is gone!. I lost money but really gotta decent maid now who worked 14yrs for 1 employer and only left as children are now adults.

I wish you luck Janet. Hope you get a good maid for your parents sake.

that WAS my parents' maid.
don't know why she changed 360 degrees after a few days. she is darn rude and have no sense of respect.

[starlight1968sg]

I may hv to get one for my father who lives alone.

He fell a few times and now still in a community hosp for rehab. Therapists strongly recommended to get a maid. Besides the costs, am concern with the associated prob with maids that I hv to deal with.

[Coolkidsrock2]

There are (some) maids with nursing qualification and they may be more suitable for your dad.


Guess you will be interviewing them? If your dad’s condition is such that more is required from them, may be good to be upfront with them so that expectations match. No point spending time and money to have them quit on you when they discover it is not what they thought it to be.