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    • EstéemaE Offline
      Estéema
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      starlight1968sg\" post_id=\"1938702\" time=\"1569844517\" user_id=\"14025:

      Esteema
      Is MOM's requirement on medical check up the same for all FDWs?
      Typically, normal tests are for urine (check for pregnancy) & blood (will normally be sent to central blood test centre for various communicable diseases & receive results the following week). The incoming girls’ first checkup will normally incl X-rays (tests TB) hence will cost more (ard $67+).

      For those existing tests, I think SATA’s charges is more costly. Ard $41, which incl blood & urine tests only. That’s why I suggests yr neighborhood clinics, but every clinic price varies.

      Hope abv helps.

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      • lee_ylL Offline
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        janet88\" post_id=\"1938204\" time=\"1569649281\" user_id=\"12950:

        Funz\" post_id=\"1938038\" time=\"1569583693\" user_id=\"6230:

        Indon. 40+ yrs old. No experience, higher education than most with a pretty decent command of English. As a person she is very pleasant. Very pious. So much so that going to church takes precedence over her work.

        I am not one who micro manages and I hate to have to repeat myself. I guess it is just not a good fit.

        I know of a friend who used to have Indonesian maid. stubborn like crazy.
        always steaming Chinese sausages every morning...husband kept quiet thinking it was wife's instruction.
        actually it's to fry tulip sausage for breakfast. told her MANY times but just don't get into her head.

        Hahaha. Sounds like my helper. Don’t know whether it’s being stubborn or simply absent minded.

        The other day, I was furious over a mistake my helper made so I chided her. Helper replied loudly, “Yes, I know mam, how many times must you repeat !?” I was taken aback and told her, “You don’t be rude! Reminded you not to xyz for the past 1.5years, have you listened?” :roll:

        What to do? Want employ maid, have to close one eye. I look at her good points, e.g. fast worker, v hardworking and her cleanliness level is there. Just tell ourselves, there is no perfect maid.

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        • starlight1968sgS Offline
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          There are no perfect employers too

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          • Coolkidsrock2C Offline
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            lee_yl\" post_id=\"1938765\" time=\"1569858001\" user_id=\"17023:

            janet88\" post_id=\"1938204\" time=\"1569649281\" user_id=\"12950:

            [quote=Funz post_id=1938038 time=1569583693 user_id=6230]Indon. 40+ yrs old. No experience, higher education than most with a pretty decent command of English. As a person she is very pleasant. Very pious. So much so that going to church takes precedence over her work.

            I am not one who micro manages and I hate to have to repeat myself. I guess it is just not a good fit.

            I know of a friend who used to have Indonesian maid. stubborn like crazy.
            always steaming Chinese sausages every morning...husband kept quiet thinking it was wife's instruction.
            actually it's to fry tulip sausage for breakfast. told her MANY times but just don't get into her head.

            Hahaha. Sounds like my helper. Don’t know whether it’s being stubborn or simply absent minded.

            The other day, I was furious over a mistake my helper made so I chided her. Helper replied loudly, “Yes, I know mam, how many times must you repeat !?” I was taken aback and told her, “You don’t be rude! Reminded you not to xyz for the past 1.5years, have you listened?” :roll:

            What to do? Want employ maid, have to close one eye. I look at her good points, e.g. fast worker, v hardworking and her cleanliness level is there. Just tell ourselves, there is no perfect maid.[/quote]动气伤身

            Maybe try another response \"Yah lor, you also know I say many times but you still do wrongly. You not malu? You see the children. They also no need say so many times to learn. I also malu to say so many times.\"

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            • FunzF Offline
              Funz
              last edited by

              lee_yl\" post_id=\"1938765\" time=\"1569858001\" user_id=\"17023:


              Hahaha. Sounds like my helper. Don’t know whether it’s being stubborn or simply absent minded.

              The other day, I was furious over a mistake my helper made so I chided her. Helper replied loudly, “Yes, I know mam, how many times must you repeat !?” I was taken aback and told her, “You don’t be rude! Reminded you not to xyz for the past 1.5years, have you listened?” :roll:

              What to do? Want employ maid, have to close one eye. I look at her good points, e.g. fast worker, v hardworking and her cleanliness level is there. Just tell ourselves, there is no perfect maid.
              Haha. So she admits that she knows not to xyz yet did not follow instruction. I would ask her if she knows then why did she not follow instruction?

              For my current helper, her not following my instructions has lead to a few near fires, a few times when I was home to discover in time, 2 unsalvageable burnt pots when it happened when I was not around. The dog suffering and having to be on a long course of antibiotics which also means :moneyflies: for us, not once but twice in the short 4mths that she has been with us.

              Aside from this issue, the other issue is DH simply does not like her and has been complaining about her a lot and we almost ended up arguing. I have no idea why DH is so unhappy with her. His incessant complains about her gets to me sometimes and I will try to reason with him which ends up him being unhappy with me cos he thinks I am siding with her. Really not worth arguing with DH over a helper. I think this is the bigger reason why I am leaning towards letting her go.

              She has her strengths and I appreciate that. She does not slack in her duties and does it rather well. She does have certain OCD tendencies which I find funny and will tease her about it. For her I will let her transfer as I think she can be a good help. She will however be more suited in a household with someone who is at home more.

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              • FunzF Offline
                Funz
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                Terminating my helper’s contract with immediate effect. Will still allow her to transfer as I still think she can be a decent worker with supervision.


                Basically what happened this morning brought foward my decision. She brought the dog out at 7am and was uncontactable for over 3hrs. We could not find her anywhere around the estate. I had to drop all my work to find her and the dog. She is not supposed to bring the dog out of the estate as she does not know how to control him despite me teaching her many times. She needs only to bring him for his toilet runs which takes no more than 10mins max.

                When we found her I was fuming mad but she was still laughing and telling me aiyoh mam notty dog lah dun want to go home. Anyways it will be difficult for her to work with me now.

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                  Funz\" post_id=\"1939319\" time=\"1569988337\" user_id=\"6230:

                  Terminating my helper's contract with immediate effect. Will still allow her to transfer as I still think she can be a decent worker with supervision.

                  Basically what happened this morning brought foward my decision. She brought the dog out at 7am and was uncontactable for over 3hrs. We could not find her anywhere around the estate. I had to drop all my work to find her and the dog. She is not supposed to bring the dog out of the estate as she does not know how to control him despite me teaching her many times. She needs only to bring him for his toilet runs which takes no more than 10mins max.

                  When we found her I was fuming mad but she was still laughing and telling me aiyoh mam notty dog lah dun want to go home. Anyways it will be difficult for her to work with me now.
                  how long has she been with you ?

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                  • FunzF Offline
                    Funz
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                    4mths. She is lucky DH is not around.

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                      SHAWNN
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                      Funz\" post_id=\"1939344\" time=\"1569996305\" user_id=\"6230:

                      4mths. She is lucky DH is not around.
                      did she cause any drama when you told her to pack and go ?

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                      • EstéemaE Offline
                        Estéema
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                        Funz\" post_id=\"1939319\" time=\"1569988337\" user_id=\"6230:

                        Terminating my helper's contract with immediate effect. Will still allow her to transfer as I still think she can be a decent worker with supervision.

                        Basically what happened this morning brought foward my decision. She brought the dog out at 7am and was uncontactable for over 3hrs. We could not find her anywhere around the estate. I had to drop all my work to find her and the dog. ...
                        Reminds me 9 years’ ago my new Indo maid took 3 hours fr my home which is under reno to our condo (5 min walk) and claimed she got lost. There were other signs - very slow in her work, always forgetting my instructions, etc, etc. We alr decided to terminate her services but was gonna wait till reno over.

                        Then on that year’s National Day fly-past DH calling for kids to position at verandah & he said clearly she was pretending she can’t so her work when she heard DH she ran super fast surpass our kids to position herself. We sent her straight home w/o transfer telling her if she hv no heart to work, don’t come to Spore & waste eyers’ time & money. We always send problematic maids home on last minute notice, so they can’t do much harm to family. Good thing only 2 had to be sent off this manner so far engaging helpers.

                        It is very expensive to hv our things break, clothings burnt, airfare, FDW Insurance & medical all costs money. She must be sent home to reflect rather than we transfer her out, as I don’t really want my conscience to be pricked when these girls find it too easy to transfer & better still get salary increases. I can’t live with myself if I hear they caused harm to ano family fr their nonchalant behaviour. Leaving pot burning is very dangerous indeed. Mine did that too.

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