In-law problems?

[DesertWind]

janet_lee88:

DesertWind,

I agree with you...only son here and DIL offer them to stay with her, yet not interested. Got son, grandchild and a maid leh...how come she not keen ah ???
:?

Given this GOLDEN opportunity, I think hubby's parents will not miss it...esp since my hubby is favourite son and furthermore favour grandson (that is my son who is the one and only boy). His mother doesn't like granddaughters and is obvious showing it.

Hi JanetLee,
I can only say my MIL values her privacy and wants her own flat and be the \"mistress of this house\". Also although she wants us to visit but she does not want to be burdened with all those \"duties\". And although she loves her son but staying with DIL is a different matter. She kept saying she is old already and can't do much when I did not even ask her to do anything at all.

Anyway my ILs have the reserves and currently in good health to take care of themselves so we don't have any issues at the moment.

So I will value the privacy and freedom in staying away from IL as well!

:celebrate:

[janet88]

Hi DesertWind,

If she is in good health and wants to be the MISTRESS of the house as compared to staying with you, then I guess you get to enjoy being the mistress of your house too.

My mum doesn’t want to stay with her DIL too…bcos she isn’t comfortable doing so.

[Jennifer]

janet_lee88:

Hi DesertWind,

If she is in good health and wants to be the MISTRESS of the house as compared to staying with you, then I guess you get to enjoy being the mistress of your house too.

My mum doesn't want to stay with her DIL too...bcos she isn't comfortable doing so.

I told my boys that I would not live with them after they marry. So they better save enough n buy a place of their own. Looking after these two monkeys is enough. I don't wish to look after their wives too :lol:

[DesertWind]

Jennifer:

I told my boys that I would not live with them after they marry. So they better save enough n buy a place of their own. Looking after these two monkeys is enough. I don't wish to look after their wives too :lol:

Hi Jennifer,
I think you have hit the nail on the head! That is probably exactly my MIL's attitude too! HA...HA...HA....!!!! :rotflmao:

:celebrate:

[shine_fs]

Jennifer:

I told my boys that I would not live with them after they marry. So they better save enough n buy a place of their own. Looking after these two monkeys is enough. I don't wish to look after their wives too :lol:

I told my two boys the same thing :lol: But, by then the HDB or Condo will be much higher $$$$.....dunno they can afford not :?

[Jennifer]

shine_fs:

Jennifer:

I told my boys that I would not live with them after they marry. So they better save enough n buy a place of their own. Looking after these two monkeys is enough. I don't wish to look after their wives too :lol:

I told my two boys the same thing :lol: But, by then the HDB or Condo will be much higher $$$$.....dunno they can afford not :?

We went looking at some new development recently. Really terrible- so small yet so expensive. Hubby said maybe the next generation hv to go live in M'sia.

[janet88]

Jennifer,

I told my son the same thing too…don’t expect me to look after, wash up, cook for you AND your wife. Study very hard now, or else you won’t be able to afford a HDB flat…don’t even talk about condo.

[auntieM]

I worse, tell DS don't bring gf home.. ...go XX81.

What I actually meant was don't cohabit 'unofficially' and expect us to 'take care of things' for you..

[janet88]

auntieM:

I worse, tell DS don't bring gf home.. ...go XX81.

What I actually meant was don't cohabit 'unofficially' and expect us to 'take care of things' for you..

auntieM,
I dare not think of the cohabit issue...as parents, we have to teach them correct values from young, and reinforce as they grow. Have self respect for themselves as well as gf/bf. I will tell my son, 'Boy, pls work very hard to buy own flat. I don't want to wash up after you and your wife.'

[LOLMum]

guess that’s what some mils are doing now. they prefer to live on their own and not look after the grandchildren all the time. i can understiand because they have done their fair share of looking after chidren and it is time for them to enjoy life even if they are not doing anything.