Me Time!
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the fear of hooking to games. My fear of unwarranted physical contact.
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laughingcat\" post_id=\"1950612\" time=\"1575021014\" user_id=\"3309:
Ditto - fear of Me Too.
the fear of hooking to games. My fear of unwarranted physical contact.
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Coolkidsrock2\" post_id=\"1950618\" time=\"1575023511\" user_id=\"48901:
haha I fear Me Too, accident coz dds not those very street smart/alert type, habit, now like some of you say into gaming, etc etc..lastly the detachment from me
Ditto - fear of Me Too.laughingcat\" post_id=\"1950612\" time=\"1575021014\" user_id=\"3309:
the fear of hooking to games. My fear of unwarranted physical contact.
Prefer study in public locations.
my side, I book function rm too..let's see how is secondary. I do hope not much meeting up needed or use the email etc..
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Black Friday sale just shopped during noon break and after work… happy day… retail therapy
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MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1950621\" time=\"1575024653\" user_id=\"43981:
haha I fear Me Too, accident coz dds not those very street smart/alert type, habit, now like some of you say into gaming, etc etc..lastly the detachment from me
Ditto - fear of Me Too.Coolkidsrock2\" post_id=\"1950618\" time=\"1575023511\" user_id=\"48901:
[quote=laughingcat post_id=1950612 time=1575021014 user_id=3309]the fear of hooking to games. My fear of unwarranted physical contact.
Prefer study in public locations. my side, I book function rm too..let's see how is secondary. I do hope not much meeting up needed or use the email etc..[/quote]I do not recall much gatherings or group study in lower secondary. Quite a bit of time spent on CCA but am happy with the engagement as it means less time for mischief. Girls are usually sufficiently matured enough by upper secondary to manage their studies.
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I preferred to have my kids meet their classmates in school rather than at their homes. Anyway, they tend to "meet" online nowadays and discuss and co-write stuff from home. You should encourage kids to do that if they can’t meet in school - safer, saves travel time, and you can keep a (distant) eye on things.
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MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1950522\" time=\"1575000853\" user_id=\"43981:
You should draw up a set of rules and principles for going to people's homes. For my kids, I only allowed it if I knew the parents and felt they were generally trustworthy. For a first time, I might even go with my child and stay for a while first. For things like parties and group gatherings, I would be less strict, but would tell my kids to make sure they arrived and left with others, so they were not the only one there.
I been thinking about dd taking public trpt recently as dd kept wanting to do that..so hearing dh thinking same, I m happy actually. I know it is good to let kids be independent in this area but personally I feel I would like to delay as much as possible for dd to have more open contact with her surroundings and outside ppl. Actually, I been quite reluctant to let her go friends house alone but somehow felt difficult to say no as the mom asked me and dd kept saying I want I want..but I told dd next year onwards I would be be stricter in this aspect liao.. I don't want it to turn to habit or think it as something very light issue..yeah for younger one, I refused few times for just dropping kiddo for playdates..I know I may be seen as anti social and gal's circle of friends sure affected but I just feel that I should do that. I told them to spend as much time with each other first..to me, building up a stronger relationship between siblings and us as a closer family unit are more important..strengthen this first before others...I think I m towards the extreme side yeah..
For project work etc, I would tell them to meet in school. I discouraged meeting at fast food places etc, but sometimes it can't be helped if everyone else insisted. But this was when they were at least upper sec and older. And they can \"meet\" online easily now, so not much excuse that they must meet at someone's house.
Public transport - again, have rules. It makes it much easier to deal with kids if you have clear rules. My kids were allowed free reign on public transport during the day, but that didn't mean they didn't have to seek permission first (when younger) or keep me informed (even after they were in JC). When going to unfamiliar places, they would have to text me when they arrived, and when they left. We had restrictions on being out at night. Breaking rules meant grounding. -
Not encouraged to go friends’ house for projects, are we talking about primary school?
Sec school i feel is ok so long we know who the friends are.
My hb’s sec school good friends used to go over to his house for regular holidays stayovers (he said). He still recount those times fondly. Now they all uncles already and still meet up few times a year. They/the parents knew one another’s parents though. Those were the days when they studied in nearby school so everyone stayed within vicinity. -
jedamum\" post_id=\"1950712\" time=\"1575081487\" user_id=\"159:
I would think secondary school age is just as \"risky\". I would still want to know more about the family (eg. who has access to the house, is there usually a responsible adult there, what the general house rules are, etc). Yes, quite restrictive, but better safe than sorry.
Not encouraged to go friends' house for projects, are we talking about primary school?
Sec school i feel is ok so long we know who the friends are.
My hb's sec school good friends used to go over to his house for regular holidays stayovers (he said). He still recount those times fondly. Now they all uncles already and still meet up few times a year. They/the parents knew one another's parents though. Those were the days when they studied in nearby school so everyone stayed within vicinity. -
slmkhoo\" post_id=\"1950743\" time=\"1575094955\" user_id=\"28674:
Absolutely agree!
I would think secondary school age is just as \"risky\". I would still want to know more about the family (eg. who has access to the house, is there usually a responsible adult there, what the general house rules are, etc). Yes, quite restrictive, but better safe than sorry.
Sec still need to watch & teach kids for their safety. Best if they’re on neutral grounds in school. Owise, Rotation & If at condo facilities (function room, study room, etc) like laughingcat does, still better than within house as kids might close door unless there is a responsible parent & house rules to hv discussion with open bedrm door or living room. Must agree no online gaming, solely project work.
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