Perverts
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Heyya insider, brings to mind the FHM pick-up lines advert...
(on TV)
\"Is your father a baker? Cos you've got great buns..\" :evil:
Cos i'm sure you have some hawt buns there that got the
men's eyes goin' all crossed. :lol:
Ok.. sollie sollie.. if that was a bad pick up line on my part
as well. I can understand why you set up this thread cos
from reading your entries in the other molestation thread,
(btw mods.. mebbe can merge the other one here as well)
i can sense (mebbe i'm wrong) that though the unpleasant
experience has since passed though not too long ago, the
realization of what had hit you is now sinking in deep and
left an undescribable feeling in you.
All the what the f's and why didn't i's come to mind through
the mental analysis... not that one personally wants to
analyze but it just comes naturally. The indignant feeling....
bu gan yuan is there somehow and wishing there was at
least one retaliating response (from you) somehow to allow
some form of closure on the day it happened. Cos like you, i
am also outspoken... can be loud and drama if i want to... &
can be calm and collected most times.
The first reaction to being molested is a gasp. Of shock... and
the feeling entails with silence not of fear but of utter disbelief.
The lack of response is not to be deemed as consent, but more
of sheer shock. Usually too, by the time reality sinks in & we're
back in the moment... too late to react. Especially if by someone
we know personally... cos it cannot be pre-empted at all...
I dunno... just a feel... or call it a hunch if you please... cos i
have BEEN THROUGH it. A helluva invasion of personal space
and privacy of physical and mental state. Frankly, these
experiences are not and will not be something one can easily
find peace with... or mebbe it was just me. I had a horrific 1st
time molestation in my teens with someone i looked up to and
something i NEVER told anyone... EVER before. I do not feel
comfortable talking about here either in case there might be
someone who knows me personally cos i definitely know this
predator. Until today after 7 children, HE has not been able to
look me in the eye. Karma? Like what hquek said... well, it cud
be... cos he damn well knew what he did.
He has since migrated with his family, but we do hafta meet on
special functions here or overseas. Our relationship remains
stoic-ly one-word conversation as a matter of courtesy but
the guilt in his eyes each time i do see him (which is extremely
very rare) somehow is how he has to pay for the misdemeanour..
ermmm... for his entire life. It's the i won't hell forgive you attitude
from me you may call it.... He gets uneasy when his wife chats me
up too.
The thought of him only came to mind with the existence of your
thread.. I remember Detol-ling my entire body scrubbing the skin
on my body so hard my skin felt it tore in fire. I cried. I was so
confused. I was too naive. I didn't know how to face up to it then
being a conservative teen in a conservative family.
While i never really found peace with myself over what happened
cos he took advantage of me... of our relationship... my trust... &
the trust of everyone we knew around us... i have slowly... and i
really mean slowly.... learnt to let it go. Cos from our years of
having to bump into each other, he has to live with it for the rest
of his life. And i suppose in my case, from the circumstances i'm
in, i am contented with it. Nothing is more punishing than self-
consumed guilt.
In contrast to your mostly bun-molestations... mine were more
bold... mostly were to my upper assets. :roll: To think that i
thought to cosmetically make it a cup bigger... :politebleah:
Guess, mebbe not lah hor.
I voted for more than a few times on your poll. Will share more
details on how i learnt from those experiences and became more
alert to similar predators on another nite..
In the meantime, chin up... eyes peeled... and knees on standby,
insider! http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php -
i hope my 2 DD dun have to go thru dat
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10 years ago when I'm still quite chio
:oops: walking across the street using the overhead bridge at about 10pm in a rainy day holding an umbrella. While I was walking down the stair, I saw something moving underneath with in between trees. Out of curiosity, I kept looking at that spot and to my horror 1 bloody indian man was shaking his thingy (pant unzip) and was smilling at me.
& I tell you, I'm not one of those that can be bullied. I quickly keep my umbrella (turn into a tongkat) and threaten to beat him but shouting \"OEI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!\" ... to his horror, he quicky ran away without looking back! I was panting actually, instead of walking home I ran to my live afraid that he may come after me..
Come to think of it, not sure what will a child do if this happend in front of their very eye..
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KS_me:
KS_me,10 years ago when I'm still quite chio
:oops: walking across the street using the overhead bridge at about 10pm in a rainy day holding an umbrella. While I was walking down the stair, I saw something moving underneath with in between trees. Out of curiosity, I kept looking at that spot and to my horror 1 bloody indian man was shaking his thingy (pant unzip) and was smilling at me.
& I tell you, I'm not one of those that can be bullied. I quickly keep my umbrella (turn into a tongkat) and threaten to beat him but shouting \"OEI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!\" ... to his horror, he quicky ran away without looking back! I was panting actually, instead of walking home I ran to my live afraid that he may come after me..
Come to think of it, not sure what will a child do if this happend in front of their very eye..
:udawoman:
The truth is , most of these peverts are spineless B*******
Ok, I dont use this word often, but they deserve it.
I was just reading up on some posts above, and i felt that women, regardless of race and culture feel the same abt molest. The need to scrub urself clean as if it was in any way our fault. Our logical mind screams - i am a victim, but something withing makes us the guilty, i wonder why??? The pain, the humiliation, the anger - only one who has undergone understands.
As parents- we need to equip our kids to deal with such situations. While I would'nt ever want such a thing to happen to DD ( or DS for that matter) , statistics shows that few girls are spared.
Yeah, its important to talk and get it out of the system
To all peverts - take that :nunchuk: and :nunchuk:
That feels good now
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Two schools on alert
http://www.straitstimes.com/BreakingNews/Singapore/Story/STIStory_538216.html
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