How much is enough for retirement in Singapore?

[MrsKiasu]

MyPillow\" post_id=\"2059571\" time=\"1645524444\" user_id=\"70594:

The key point is keep our self n minds active
But stroke can cause dementia too, our late aunt suffered this. So does not mean that active mind or play mahjong keep dementia away. It’s still abt keeping cholesterol , bp in healthy range

Dementia people has good memory of the long deep past , but cannot remember things that just happen a while ago. My mil plays 4d Diligently, insist to cook almost daily meals for family , in her 80s - this keep her mind n mental math good … hahaha , sometimes a bit “ 4d gila”

The 4d mutation, her way arh..alternatively go do psle Maths.

You mentioned Apple Pay, I have not tried that..need Apple hp?

[Estéema]

MyPillow\" post_id=\"2059571\" time=\"1645524444\" user_id=\"70594:

The key point is keep our self n minds active
But stroke can cause dementia too, our late aunt suffered this. So does not mean that active mind or play mahjong keep dementia away. It’s still abt keeping cholesterol , bp in healthy range

Dementia people has good memory of the long deep past , but cannot remember things that just happen a while ago. My mil plays 4d Diligently, insist to cook almost daily meals for family , in her 80s - this keep her mind n mental math good … hahaha , sometimes a bit “ 4d gila”

My mum had it reversed - she had dementia, then much later a year she had her 1st stroke then within 10 months, she had a 2nd stroke.

[MyPillow]

starlight1968sg\" post_id=\"2059535\" time=\"1645511197\" user_id=\"14025:

Dementia is getting more common in the elderies. I let my 80+ years old do worksheets meant for kids
These worksheets include simple math sums, join the dots, trace the lines, number pattern, colouring, word search etc.
I am unsure if he has dementia. As he grows older, he behaves like a kid. At times, he would enjoy doing worksheets. Other times, he would do less. I told him to do a few pages per day to keep his mind alert.

Back to retirement, nobody knows if dementia or even cancer would strike when old. This is the period we need money the most bec all the existing medical benefits from office are gone when retired.

Keep reasonable sum to buy reasonable medical insurance . Now medishield is life time , buy gov hospital plan not ex . If too old to treat then no need to suffer , just aged naturally
But saw my late granny cancer is mid 80s , v pain n sad . … i feel until mid to late 70s , is just nice

[MyPillow]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2059572\" time=\"1645525264\" user_id=\"43981:

The 4d mutation, her way arh..alternatively go do psle Maths.

You mentioned Apple Pay, I have not tried that..need Apple hp?

No la , over kill n no joy to do math sum lei !
4d got lots mutation , my mil knows v well
She got talent in it , we also dunno much n the calculation of win prizes money .. hahaha ..

Yes Apple Pay wallet need Apple Hp
Android also have , I think now security should be tight . We rec sms for every wallet transaction n can see live on Apple wallet app.

[Estéema]

MyPillow\" post_id=\"2059581\" time=\"1645529118\" user_id=\"70594:

No la , over kill n no joy to do math sum lei !
4d got lots mutation , my mil knows v well
She got talent in it , we also dunno much n the calculation of win prizes money .. hahaha ..

Yes Apple Pay wallet need Apple Hp
Android also have , I think now security should be tight . We rec sms for every wallet transaction n can see live on Apple wallet app.

DH says Apple uses USD pymts? I wanted to use hp for son’s MRT top-ups, but DH says using credit card deductions can be messy & hard to track. Haiz! Wh hes got so much blockage I’ve no idea.

[Liew Nga Wing]

Estéema\" post_id=\"2059574\" time=\"1645525503\" user_id=\"66413:

My mum had it reversed - she had dementia, then much later a year she had her 1st stroke then within 10 months, she had a 2nd stroke.

I feel sad to hear that.

[sushi88]

Estéema\" post_id=\"2059526\" time=\"1645508428\" user_id=\"66413:

I do Sudoku daily!

I was a victim to my mum’s dementia for some years, as the only caregiver to her but being accused of abandonment or abuse when I was a young in corporate life that I had to give up my job to care for her 24/7 for awhile fr balancing the stress workfront & homefront. One time, she went out returning home only 3 days later brot home by the men in blue! All those days I was worried sick where to find her. 😥

Sorry to hear what you have been through. I know it is tough to care for someone with dementia. The deterioration can be pretty fast and hence confusing for the care-giver as well.

[ChiefKiasu]

The stroke I had 3 years ago made me forget what I'm talking about even in my normal conversations. It is just a blank. It happens less often now, but it is still happening. I have to learn different strategies to overcome it... eg. I won't forget if I write it down. The good thing is that it only happens if I'm speaking; writing seems ok. Phew.


But if I'm arranging for a meeting... you better make sure I actually put it down in my calendar... otherwise...

[Liew Nga Wing]

ChiefKiasu\" post_id=\"2059598\" time=\"1645542605\" user_id=\"3:

The stroke I had 3 years ago made me forget what I'm talking about even in my normal conversations. It is just a blank. It happens less often now, but it is still happening. I have to learn different strategies to overcome it... eg. I won't forget if I write it down. The good thing is that it only happens if I'm speaking; writing seems ok. Phew.

This also happened to my boss who is same age with me and didn't have any stroke before. He will suddenly forget what he is talking about when he is talking to my colleagues. However, he is so lucky to have me sitting beside his cubicle so that he can ask me what he has said before. I will repeat what he has said to him so that he can continue his conversation with my colleagues.

[Estéema]

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2059594\" time=\"1645540400\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2059594 time=1645540400 user_id=195250]
I feel sad to hear that. [/quote]

I was crying in my heart when not many ppl u’stood what geriatric care was about & why my mum does all the odd things which we know today this dementia thing renders to life. I’m not sure if I’ll be prepared if MIL heads that way, but at least I’m more aware how to cope better now on hindsight.

sushi88\" post_id=\"2059596\" time=\"1645541432\" user_id=\"100857:

Sorry to hear what you have been through. I know it is tough to care for someone with dementia. The deterioration can be pretty fast and hence confusing for the care-giver as well.

Thank you for your kind thoughts.

It was very tough back in the 80s. Our society wasn’t prepared for it back then. Imagine mum used to accused me not giving her money for food & telling everybody around neigbourhood I don’t care for her. Thankfully, some neigbours are enlightened based on her s’times repetitive monologue & when she goes out to buy food or to the wet mkt. These are ppl who match their sharp observations to her claims & some started chatting me up. Imagine the tears of being u’stood then & comforting neigbours who offered to look after her whenever she spends her time out with the neigbours. We were all baffled thereafter coz she wld accused me of collaborating with them to ‘fix’ her!

Now, when I see someone struggling with dementia elderlies, I’ll go to the very ends to help.

So, recently, managed to persuade a frd to release her current helper who physically abused her dementia mum after getting her a Mynmar helper to take over. She was initially in self-denial to release coz she had been stressed for more than 2 years as caregiver, so she fear left with no help. That’s when I discovered there’re so many Mynmar girls alr got their passports ready since last Dec. now I’ve a few at hand to help others.

My learning journey must be made worthwhile and to count in my life.