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    • L Offline
      liuhao
      last edited by

      daily, weekly, monthly brain washing session about what is the right way and wrong way doing this/that and keep an eye on the maid all the time. her maid never dares to talk to other maids downstairs. otherwise a more comprehensive session will be conducted. the purpose is let the maid think as she thinks and worry as she worrys. basically, transferring her thinking/idea to the maid brain. plus constant reward when doing right and punishment when doing wrong. haha


      she told me sometimes she forgot the daily brain washing session and keeps quiet watching TV. then her maid got panic and thought why ma’am does not give me "tutorial" this evening, i must have done something seriously seriously wrong… hehe

      according to her, the critical time is first 6 months when loan is not full paid. after that it will be too late.

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        liuhao
        last edited by

        actually i think there are tons of stories of sending maid back in this thread. you can pick up one story every day and tell the maid. explain in great details and ask for her feedback. that will do for at least the first 2 months...


        i plan to do that. 😄

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          liuhao
          last edited by

          my colleague will come down to my house and give me a \"tutorial\" this sunday evening, before new maid arrives. hehe...

          LKVM:
          My MIL brainwash maid every now n then still she dare to keep HP without letting us know :stupid: :stupid:

          My MIL also told bout singapore system of canning still she dare leh :!:

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            thebusybee
            last edited by

            I've been brainwashing my ex-maid but she just trust other maids and nobody else.


            If we tell her strictly no contact with other maids, it's kinda cruel right? As she sees other maids in the market, downstairs with old folks, naturally they will chat. We did not prohibit her from talking to others, but i constantly remind her what can/cannot be said to other maids, also what is right/wrong doing as she's quite a naive person, first time working overseas.

            Just 2 weeks ago, this maid #4 of mine, got caught hiding a Banglah man in her bedroom on a Saturday morning 10+am!!! FIL saw a man dashing out from her room while he turned his back to wash up in the kitchen area, FIL shouted at him and I was woken up by the loud noise. (DH & DS also in our room sleeping)

            How daring can she be, with many people in the house!! She's the last person that I thought will do such act.

            We sent her back home 2 days later.

            I feel so relief without an outsider in the house, we are now trying out a PRC neighbour to help out in housework. We will most likely be engaging part time house keeping service till we find a better maid, or no live-in maid at all. (It's less than 5% chance we can find a good maid)

            For those looking for maid, wish you good luck!



            look out for my next post on another horrifying story......

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              thebusybee
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              Around the same time that I caught my maid earning extra bucks from Bangladesh man, this incident happened to my friend’s friend.


              This employer stays opposite of the in-laws. Each household has a maid. As a preventive measure to allow too much interaction between the 2 maids, they install a cctv outside the main door of each flat, pointing at the corridor area. Each camera can see the bottom of the main door and opposite flat’s main door.

              This employer just got a new maid for couple of months, so the new maid is not allowed to hold the gate’s key.

              On a weekend morning, this female employer woke up, did a routine scan of her recorded video, she found out a horrifying scene…

              Her maid was having a sexual transaction with a Bangladesh man while the whole family was sleeping in the middle of night.

              Can you possibly guess how they did it without the maid getting out of the flat???

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                liuhao
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                nope...how?


                anyway, really terrible story you have. but then again, same thing could happen to many other employers without being caught.

                thebusybee:
                Around the same time that I caught my maid earning extra bucks from Bangladesh man, this incident happened to my friend's friend.

                This employer stays opposite of the in-laws. Each household has a maid. As a preventive measure to allow too much interaction between the 2 maids, they install a cctv outside the main door of each flat, pointing at the corridor area. Each camera can see the bottom of the main door and opposite flat's main door.

                This employer just got a new maid for couple of months, so the new maid is not allowed to hold the gate's key.

                On a weekend morning, this female employer woke up, did a routine scan of her recorded video, she found out a horrifying scene...........

                Her maid was having a sexual transaction with a Bangladesh man while the whole family was sleeping in the middle of night.

                Can you possibly guess how they did it without the maid getting out of the flat???

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                  thebusybee
                  last edited by

                  That’s why the employer was so shocked and terrified by what she saw…


                  She saw the maid clinging on the gate, and the man just did it THROUGH THE GATE!!! Don’t forget that she has 2 angles of view from the 2 cameras!!

                  How DESPERATE can one be…
                  …for money and needs…

                  The employers handed the footage to the police.



                  liuhao,

                  You are right! I believe there are many transactions between maid and other foreign workers, behind employers’ back.

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                    verykiasu2010
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                    reading all these stories about filipino maids just make me feel "justified" in my "prejudice" of not having a filipino maid


                    all my maids are from Indo (1st one 5 years, 2nd one 5 years, 3rd one 4 years, now fourth one less than a year)

                    all 3 previous ones returned to Indo after so many years away from home

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                      mathsparks
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                      I've had more filipina maids than indon ones coz of lang issues. and most of them are ok lah. Close one eye can le. Kids are big so as long as they keep house clean and cook well and do the grocery shopping, I'm happy enough le.


                      But, of course, when kids are young, choosing a good maid is very 伤脑筋but most of the time like lucky draw, or is it like chocalates..you'll never know what you're gonna get. :lol:

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                        moonee
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                        LKVM:
                        Well my experience says...


                        Even the new maids the fresh ones are the same.. they will 1st agree no HP and off day soon when they meet other maids they want it.. at my home i have my IL's and still we caught her hp twice :!: she used to go to bathroom quite often...

                        So moral of the story even fresh maids are the same agree agree day 1 then change

                        all wanna keep HP

                        All wanna have off

                        Even if someone at home they will find ways of doing their stuff :stupid:

                        I agree with u fully... fresh ones, ex-spores all wanna hv H/ps... all claim they need to keep in touch with spouse or kids. Most of the filipinas keep 2 h/ps, one with starhub card and the other contains pinoy card. Its amazing how they can spend more than half their salary on phone cards, thats why they got to do more than 2 yrs in spore b4 they can actually make money. When we hold on to the phone, they will use other maids phone and pay them or buy one and keep with d other maid or they will get another maid to sms for them. Ai yah , hope they burn their brains out.

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