What to do when kids don't complete homework on time?

[Ichigokun]

Anyway, Flowermama11, very few people don't cane their children even up to today.


Considering the fact that you have the patience to not cane your DD for ten years, you are really quite something

Every time my mom checks my bag and finds out I have not completed even ONE piece of homework, you can imagine...

[Flowermama11]

really? I thought v few ppl cane their kids today?


During our time, we would make big efforts to complete our homework and shiver at the thought of the teacher screaming down our neck if we don’t hand in the homework on time.

so i find it difficult to u/d why my DD can still "choose" to forget or not complete the hw on time. is it really true that spare the rod and spoil the child?

[smartmummy]

Yup its still true.spare the rod and spoil the child.i stopped my son from seeing fb by canning.he broke my rules so beated him and explained why i caned him.once in a while i took the cane when i can’t really control him.then he will listen.i caned from young so its not new.but if u never cane then she would think that u hate her.tell her clearly,last chance; if u found unfinished hw then u will beat her.

Let her to read any pshycologic book for kids’ discipline.some books in kids section really helpful.my son can listen the book than me.

[smartmummy]

For hw i didn’t’t check but he automatically do. He scared for teachers.always he bring little hw.so he can finish on time.but last year he didn’t’t finish his Mt hw,when i asked why, he said forgot,that time he got more hw.

[Sun_2010]

Flowermama11:

According to DD, she finds gep interesting n enjoys e prog. I've highlighted to her that attitude is v imp in gep n she could be asked to leave if she doesn't do her hw. Every time I talk to her, she says she knows the seriousness n will change. But before I know it, this thing starts again. Can really puke blood.


Sometimes I wonder, is it too much to expect a ten year old child to do hw on their own without being constantly pushed or reminded?

Each child is different, so guess there is no standard rule.

However I think this ownership should be encouraged from P1 onwards. Its there work and they should do it. They have their responsibility and if they fail to do it they need to face the consequence, which you define to her.Period.

I do not believe in the cane, but if you do then explain it to her. I prefer to withdraw priviledges.

I remember a post on homework that I found very useful ( think from this forum). I will hunt it out and repost it here.

[Ichigokun]

Actually you can just act and threaten to cane her first. If she doesnt obey then you use the cane.


Yes, my mom canes me alot since young. So I’m used to it. But as I grow older, the rounds of caning decrease.

You can slowly decrease your caning rounds if your DD improves.

Yeah, but, don’t go overboard, be lenient sometimes. For example if your DD has really improved and ocassionally just forgot to do her homework, then let it go.?

But if its continuous, use the cane.

[jedamum]

ownership of homework starts from P1?

agree and we have been instilling so since P1, but recently my P4’s definition of ownership is depending on the subject.
subjects he likes, he remembers. subjects he does not like, he will not remember 100%. too busy?

[manorway]

Reviving this old thread because I am trying to help a friend think of better solutions. Child is P5 this year. Very bright but we just cannot figure out why she is so disorganised. Kid has been getting a lot of complaints from different subject teachers of late work/not doing all pages of work because remembering wrong instructions/forgetting to bring work/missing questions etc. It is not because kid hates the teachers or the work.


At first, parents thought kid just had bad attitude. Thought her a lot of strategies like listing down all the homework on a book, keeping all homework in file, checking everything in bag etc… Usually it works OK for a few days, then it goes haywire again unless the parents nagged. How to make this sustainable? At P5, is it still normal that parents must nag?

[zac's mum]

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Reviving this old thread because I am trying to help a friend think of better solutions. Child is P5 this year. Very bright but we just cannot figure out why she is so disorganised. Kid has been getting a lot of complaints from different subject teachers of late work/not doing all pages of work because remembering wrong instructions/forgetting to bring work/missing questions etc. It is not because kid hates the teachers or the work.

At first, parents thought kid just had bad attitude. Thought her a lot of strategies like listing down all the homework on a book, keeping all homework in file, checking everything in bag etc... Usually it works OK for a few days, then it goes haywire again unless the parents nagged. How to make this sustainable? At P5, is it still normal that parents must nag?

Hi, you may want to look into whether she could be having executive functioning issues. Here’s an article below (plenty of other articles if u research more):

https://www.understood.org/en/articles/a-day-in-the-life-of-a-child-with-executive-functioning-issues

But before u worry too much…my boy at P5 last year had similar complaints, especially as homework load at P5 starts to get very heavy. Nagging did not work…teaching strategies did not work…what worked in the end for him? I sat down and *showed* him, every single tedious step, then made him *do* every single tedious step right in front of me. Every day after that for couple of weeks, I sat down and watched him do the steps. Just eye power, even if my hands or mouth itched to “help”. Some kids have been trained by parents since P1 with this tight structure; I had not done so & therefore he needed to be highly guided.

Some tools would be useful, eg. A different coloured pen/highlighter for each subject. A labelled coloured folder to slot in each subject’s worksheets (therr are tons in P5). No more kiam chye this way.

Now, more or less (!) we have gotten to the stage where I can say “any homework today? Please get it done now.” And I dont micromanage any more.

I do random spot checks on his work and his bag (to see how tidy it is). Of course praise if found to be good. If not there yet, then guide again.

If there are other warning signs, then by all means look into executive function disorder.

[Zeal mummy]

Perhaps at P5, the increased workload may overwhelm some kids … is there a significant difference or too much for her to do?


Conditioning takes place in about 28 days… so suggest, for your friend to guide her child for a longer period of time to achieve desired effectiveness.