$350k for 1 child?
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HyperKiasu:
yes, most normal family will probably get the kids to save and earn their colleage fees. But when emphasize individualism, and freedom they tend to forget about their parents. I think that is whAt Tam is saying.tamarind:
I prefer not to follow the western style of unconditional love like \"The Giving Tree\" by Shel Silverstein. I would rather my kids learn from the http://tamarindvillage.blogspot.com/2010/03/books-about-filial-piety.html books
i dun agree here.
most westerns start to earn a living at much earlier age than Chinese....
they emphasize individualism, independence more than we do.... -
buds:
buds, WOW! u actually keep ALL receipts!! I am impressed!
Tam darling, i keep ALL receipts in my BIG book since the first time they
enrolled in kindy. :evil: How? Track secure anot? :lol:
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Maybe Tuition from Pri to JC for all subjects will be about 100k.
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buds:
buds,
Tam darling, i keep ALL receipts in my BIG book since the first time theytamarind:
I told my kids that I am keeping track of how much I pay for them now, and in the future when they start work they have to pay me back
I know many parents will criticize me for being calculative, but it is only my way of telling my kids not to take things for granted.
enrolled in kindy. :evil: How? Track secure anot? :lol:
No one has a right to criticize others cos we all have our own way of doing
things especially when it comes to raising our children. :hugs:
Children SHOULD NEVER take things for granted. That's definitely a start.
That's why before the girls sleep each night, i remind them to count their
blessings. This way they reflect and learn to appreciate even the littlest
things in life. And... the simplest things in life CAN be rewarding more
than we know it.
Wow I like your style of keeping ALL receipts
Thanks for your support ! -
tree nymph:
yes, most normal family will probably get the kids to save and earn their colleage fees. But when emphasize individualism, and freedom they tend to forget about their parents. I think that is whAt Tam is saying.[/quote]tree nymph is right.HyperKiasu:
[quote=\"tamarind\"]I prefer not to follow the western style of unconditional love like \"The Giving Tree\" by Shel Silverstein. I would rather my kids learn from the http://tamarindvillage.blogspot.com/2010/03/books-about-filial-piety.html books
i dun agree here.
most westerns start to earn a living at much earlier age than Chinese....
they emphasize individualism, independence more than we do....
In \"The Giving Tree\" by Shel Silverstein, the tree which symbolizes the parent, gives everything to the boy that it loves. The tree expects nothing in return, the boy just keep asking more and more until the tree is only left with a stump. I am only referring to this unconditional love.
In the west, individualism and independence mean that when the kids grow up, parents may never see them again. I heard that many westerners plan to spend their last days in old folks home (there may be exceptions, I am not trying to make a general statement). -
tree nymph:
tree nymph,
Actually I feel that by been obedient and study hard is been a filial as a school going kid. And when we start working, we still should respect them and take care of them, and this is also been filial. I truly think you are doing very well and setting good examples for your kids.
:celebrate:[/list]
I agree with you. I do hope to set good examples for my kids
When I give allowance to my mother, I purposely let me kids see me handing over the money to my mother This is to teach them that children should support their parents when they grow up. They may not turn out the way I hope for in the future, but I must at least try to teach them.
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tree nymph:
yes, most normal family will probably get the kids to save and earn their colleage fees. But when emphasize individualism, and freedom they tend to forget about their parents. I think that is whAt Tam is saying.[/quote]But western parents when they become grandparents won't take care of grandchildren like many chinese grandparents do....HyperKiasu:
[quote=\"tamarind\"]I prefer not to follow the western style of unconditional love like \"The Giving Tree\" by Shel Silverstein. I would rather my kids learn from the http://tamarindvillage.blogspot.com/2010/03/books-about-filial-piety.html books
i dun agree here.
most westerns start to earn a living at much earlier age than Chinese....
they emphasize individualism, independence more than we do.... -
tamarind:
In the west, individualism and independence mean that when the kids grow up, parents may never see them again. I heard that many westerners plan to spend their last days in old folks home (there may be exceptions, I am not trying to make a general statement).
i dunt agree again
i dun think westerns may never see their children again when children are grownup. even so, they won't feel too much disheartened.....
THe whole culture value system differs from ours. and they dun think there is anything wrong to spend their last days in old folks home.
only eastern feel upset about this....
The fact is many western ppl when they are getting old, they are still very active and very happy and still full of life like young kids !!
their old folks home is much better than what u have seen here !! -
talking about "Giving Tree", i would like to share two real "giving tree" here: one is a giving tree of a mother, and the other is a giving tree of a child:
1)
one man i know for more than 20 yrs married and migrated to Canada. Intitially it took more than 9 mths for him to land a job in the new country, his parents kept on remitting money to support him. later on they also joined the man’s family to take care of the two babies from their births for more than 5 yrs… to suport them to buy property in Canada, the parents sold their own local property!.. in the end, the 忘恩负义 man and his wife kena kicked out the old parents who later on were helped by local Chinese community to find a place to live and the parents missed the two kids very much but their son forbid them to visit their grandchildren…
2)
one man a 24 孝, kept on giving whatever he had to his No. 1 Mother In the World since he was a freshman in U. He was awarded overseas scholarship. After grad, he kena 省吃检用 gave 2/3 of his earning to his mother and his sister. His sister 大手大脚 type, her shoes cost a few hundred $, her cloth never below $100… When the man married, his ring was only $10 but when his sister married, his mother asked for over $2k necklace as gift…the man’s wife quarell a lot with him about the money issue… but the man is very stubborn and kept on saying his mother is the No One Mother In the World so he should repay his mother unconditionally… -
tamarind:
that looks a bit 夸张
I agree with you. I do hope to set good examples for my kids
When I give allowance to my mother, I purposely let me kids see me handing over the money to my mother This is to teach them that children should support their parents when they grow up. They may not turn out the way I hope for in the future, but I must at least try to teach them.
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