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MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2069481\" time=\"1654224423\" user_id=\"43981:
You are not alone.
Sometimes we may feel very weighed down.. I was like that for many years. I can be happy talking here.. that is one of my output. I know my issue. But most time I m all tied down. All just not in sync.
For years even tho my children are with me, I always miss the stages that just past coz even I m with them yet I m not... a bit complex.
Think the way out is to know your issue, if can go tackle it ..but I also tried not to stress myself too hard..for my side, once I found my strength I will go do it for certain period..thereafter I will tell myself, I had done it..I will put everything to rest and really enjoy myself. That's what I told myself.
Hence working helps me to keep myself occupied and feel worthy.
For kids, when they grow up, we grow old. More things will become beyond our control. -
MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2069474\" time=\"1654221197\" user_id=\"43981:
My older girl, when she got lost (and she has!) would panic and phone us instead. So in our \"debriefs\", we would talk about how she could have prepared better, what sorts of things she could have done instead of panic (phoning us is of course a good solution, but we would prefer that it's not her first reaction!). Over the years, she has got much better, and is able to plan her own route sometimes (she still asks for help). All kids learn and grow; give your daughter time and training, and she will be fine.
She is not afraid, she seems to be enjoyingthe exploring.. I m more of the 'worry' she taste more freedom, like it and request more of it. Not very frequent is ok tho. Guess my stage now is worry they having wings.
But one thing arh..why is she still so clumsy..mrt stn also can miss..next time go out to work, I worry for her.
In the debriefs, ask your daughter to suggest why she made the mistake, and how to avoid such things in the future. For MRT, your daughter could have gone back into the station and taken the train to the correct station, for instance. Or she could have checked the name of the station before getting off the first train, or whatever. If your daughter has a data plan, teach her to use Google maps. If she doesn't have data, there is a good app called Maps.me which you can check even if you don't have data. Bus routes are a bit more complex to check and use.
If you do this with your daughter, she will learn to survive much better than if you don't let her try (and sometimes make mistakes). Kids who are kept in cocoons are more likely to get lost even when they are of working age. And no-one can be correct every time; even we adults get lost sometimes when going to a new place. Learning to recover from a mistake, or learning to prepare to avoid mistakes, are useful skills.
If her a taste of freedom makes her want too much of it, that is a discipline issue. Just because she won't get lost is not a good reason for her to ask to go out excessively. Just set your rules, explain why she can't have total freedom, and be firm. -
Just wondering if the age for exit permit was raised in recent years??
Getting my passport done then realised I might need to seek exit permit for boy turning 12.
ICA and CMPB websites say age 13 and above then need.
I somehow remember my brother needing to get one before overseas holiday at age 11/12… -
zac's mum\" post_id=\"2069492\" time=\"1654240154\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=2069492 time=1654240154 user_id=53606]
It's been 13 for quite a long time. I recall 13 as the age when we were living overseas >10 yrs ago - other families mentioned it even though I don't have boys.
Just wondering if the age for exit permit was raised in recent years??
Getting my passport done then realised I might need to seek exit permit for boy turning 12.
ICA and CMPB websites say age 13 and above then need.
I somehow remember my brother needing to get one before overseas holiday at age 11/12…[/quote] -
MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2069481\" time=\"1654224423\" user_id=\"43981:
I don't know what you are th issues you have to face but there is no perfect in this world. It is always be \"你看我好，我看你好‘’，I envy you as you have a car, can drive, have give birth to 2 dds, stay in Condominium. You envy me got full time job with bonus, surrounded by many friends, having eating and boardgames events every week....ask yourself if your stress come from your insist of perfect or the principles in your mind. DH got legs and dds got wings, what can we do? Put your leg into their shoes, do you want more freedom from parents when you were young? Did you ever miss any MRT station? Of course, I got my own problems...may be could share here later.
Sometimes we may feel very weighed down.. I was like that for many years. I can be happy talking here.. that is one of my output. I know my issue. But most time I m all tied down. All just not in sync.
For years even tho my children are with me, I always miss the stages that just past coz even I m with them yet I m not... a bit complex.
Think the way out is to know your issue, if can go tackle it ..but I also tried not to stress myself too hard..for my side, once I found my strength I will go do it for certain period..thereafter I will tell myself, I had done it..I will put everything to rest and really enjoy myself. That's what I told myself.
Just think we are fortunate people living in Singapore...not a refugee running to other countries like people in Ukraine now. -
Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2069548\" time=\"1654311683\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2069548 time=1654311683 user_id=195250]
A few years ago I missed MRT station. Trying to go City Hall, didnt pay attention, was on phone and went to Raffles Place. :rotflmao:
I don't know what you are th issues you have to face but there is no perfect in this world. It is always be \"你看我好，我看你好‘’，I envy you as you have a car, can drive, have give birth to 2 dds, stay in Condominium. You envy me got full time job with bonus, surrounded by many friends, having eating and boardgames events every week....ask yourself if your stress come from your insist of perfect or the principles in your mind. DH got legs and dds got wings, what can we do? Put your leg into their shoes, do you want more freedom from parents when you were young? Did you ever miss any MRT station? Of course, I got my own problems...may be could share here later.
Just think we are fortunate people living in Singapore...not a refugee running to other countries like people in Ukraine now.[/quote] -
Toomuchlaundry\" post_id=\"2069550\" time=\"1654314246\" user_id=\"197996:
Same thots. S’times were on hp & missed buses, Grab or stations. It happened to DS too in his 1st, until I had a good chat with him. His learning curve improved to perfection now. Thankful coz I know some parents hv it hard when kids keep missing buses or stops.
A few years ago I missed MRT station. Trying to go City Hall, didnt pay attention, was on phone and went to Raffles Place. :rotflmao: -
It happens. Even until now. DS will occasionally miss his stop because he fell asleep on the bus or train. Happened recently.
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My dd blur la. I thought she know which mrt stn to alight…so didn’t remind her again…but also can walk home de… I asked her and she told me the mrt stn …you know which one…the starting point…really arh…dunno is ok…but look up can see already right the name of stn…
just psle exam…the very first time she tried…she rather walked home and luckily managed to get home. -
Dd1 is going out with her friend… Maybe good to let her explore abit more on her own. Not very conscious with the surroundings.
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