Me Time!

[MrsKiasu]

slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2072862\" time=\"1656724299\" user_id=\"28674:

I suppose you really like the cooking and preparing food, even though it makes you tired. So maybe focus on the good feelings, not the negative? If you don't like the food prep, then maybe just do less, or don't do. Schools here have canteens!

When we were living overseas, I had to prepare lunches for my kids every day because there was no canteen, but I don't really like cooking. So I simplified it a lot - very simple stuff, repeated every week, and often just cooked extra for dinner to serve as lunches the next day. If my girls said it was boring, I told them that it was the best I could do, and they were free to do more for themselves if they wanted to. That shut them up! For recess, they brought prepackaged snacks like muesli bars, crackers, etc. No prep needed on my part. But when we were in Singapore, I told them that canteens were there for a reason - so that mothers' didn't need to pack lunches!

My rule is that if I don't like doing something, I will just do the minimum, or pass it on to the kids themselves if they are old enough. I will find a way so that I won't be constantly tired and stressed by it. If I really can't find a way out (e.g when the kids were really too young), then I try to look on the bright side that I'm doing something good for the family. It's better for myself and the atmosphere in the family overall, and the kids become more independent and thoughtful about others' needs. I think your kids are old enough now that you can cut back a bit (unless you really like doing all that you do).

That is true..we must focus more on the good feelings! I have been cooped for too long..that certainly affecting my thinking process in a way. I could feel both and and your dh are doing something you all like..and that's my my hope too, after the kids are more grown up.

In boarding school all were prepared..including food. That was when dd at slimmest coz she will poured awayt the leftover food when no one was looking.

Been doing the same things esp cooking for so many years already..kinda achieved some \"efficiencies' already I think lol.. so don't feel it a great hassle now. But of course in time to come we all may need to expect simpler home cooked food or more dabao.

You are right..the good feelings..maybe like what dh suggested I will explore some some places for exercises nearby. I feel esp important to get myself out from the house else I will continue doing what I been doing esp cooking.

[MrsKiasu]

It seem not easy for me to ‘get rid’ of my ‘what to cook’ mind…When I went to ntuc yesterday, I got so excited…saw trotter will think of eh so long never cook vinegar trotter le…so bought the vinegar…I m going to cook that today.

[Liew Nga Wing]

Toomuchlaundry\" post_id=\"2072858\" time=\"1656723590\" user_id=\"197996:

Going to see the renovations today. They just finished the demolition. A lot of debris, so not bringing the kids. Will take the little one for his final immunization later. Then a hike to work out the weekday stress for the hubby.

Once you have moved to the West, can come to my house to play mahjong

The little one still cannot take the vaccination for Covid 19, right? Try not to bring him to crowded area. Hiking is good for releasing stress but I am too lazy to do so. Committed to a werewolves games at Bukit Merah this afternoon and will going down soon.

DH will be working night shift this evening, no need to take care of him. :imcool:

[Imp75]

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2072846\" time=\"1656700692\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2072846 time=1656700692 user_id=195250]
Enjoy your celebration dinner this weekend.[/quote]

Thanks. We can't wait so we arady went last night.....

[bbbay]

slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2072862\" time=\"1656724299\" user_id=\"28674:

So maybe focus on the good feelings, not the negative?

Pardon me, but what if that good feeling doesn’t last? Wouldn’t it be better to learn to be at peace during both good or bad feelings? Good /bad feelings are both part of us as human. ?

[sharonkhoo]

bbbay\" post_id=\"2072874\" time=\"1656727487\" user_id=\"175278:

Pardon me, but what if that good feeling doesn’t last? Wouldn’t it be better to learn to be at peace during both good or bad feelings? Good /bad feelings are both part of us as human. ?

I don't mean that we should all be Pollyannas! I just wanted to point out that focusing on the good that we are doing will give rise to good feelings, which will take the \"sting\" out of the bad. I didn't mean to imply that there would be no bad feelings. It's a matter of changing focus, and of course, changing the circumstances if that is possible.

And feelings don't last, both good and bad. It's just that it's harder to focus on good feelings because, as humans, we tend to taking good feelings for granted and dwell on the bad. Religious beliefs have a part to play - if you believe in a loving deity who allows bad to happen for good reasons, you are more able to accept the bad and focus on the good, even though you may not like the bad.

[starlight1968sg]

My favourite sweet corn in ntuc has raised its price to $1.45 (from $1.35)

A box of frozen onion rings costs $4.45 (from $3.95)
What is going on?

[MrsKiasu]

starlight1968sg\" post_id=\"2072879\" time=\"1656729832\" user_id=\"14025:

My favourite sweet corn in ntuc has raised its price to $1.45 (from $1.35)
A box of frozen onion rings costs $4.45 (from $3.95)
What is going on?

Ikr ..news on petrol price coming even tho not much (I dunno yet) that itself a good news. At least there is a 'cut' on the increasing rate. And we start seeing after promo price may somehow looks like b4 price increase.

[MyPillow]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2072870\" time=\"1656726015\" user_id=\"43981:

It seem not easy for me to 'get rid' of my 'what to cook' mind..When I went to ntuc yesterday, I got so excited..saw trotter will think of eh so long never cook vinegar trotter le..so bought the vinegar..I m going to cook that today.

A big pot lei ,Your kids eat vinegar trotter?
We dun , only eat a little bit pork knuckles sometimes .

[starlight1968sg]

MyPillow\" post_id=\"2072887\" time=\"1656731264\" user_id=\"70594:

A big pot lei ,Your kids eat vinegar trotter?
We dun , only eat a little bit pork knuckles sometimes .

During the wkends and if not going out for lunch or dinner, I would cook a big pot say curry or chicken tonic soup for lunch and dinner. I will supplement a dish of stir fry veg or steam salmon.