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00skyblue00\" post_id=\"2095551\" time=\"1674113063\" user_id=\"143605:
I would say that our kids going through school in Singapore, regardless top school or not, will personally know of many friends and schoolmates who are receiving help for mental health struggles - it is not uncommon to hear of self harm. There will be kids who thrive, and those that do not, in every school.
Don't think any posts are meant to be broad stroke. We are all just parents and common people; can only share our observations and experiences.
Know two cases personally to share.
One from top ip sch, killed oneself in upp sec. Asked for transfer to neighbourhood sec sch, but was not successful.
Mum was in denial and several years of suicide support group but family has been broken since.
Another also from top ip sch. Heavily tuition to get in. Went thru depression in ip sch for the whole time there. Low self esteem. Lucky, dad words pulled child conscious. Child said. managed to graduate after retention in year 6. Grad from uni and started working. Now, don't even tell ppl he or she was from that sch.
In both cases, child got depression. -
Anedotes and generalisations aside, perhaps the lesson here is, whether RI or MI, we as parents should try to watch out for our kids health and well-being, how they are coping acacdemically and in non-academic ways, and be alert to support or intervene as the situation warrants. Things can go amazing or awry for any child in any place.
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doodbug\" post_id=\"2095553\" time=\"1674113426\" user_id=\"13281:
Yes, my older girl taught me to give up the Sg ideals which my brother and I achieved without too much stress and I used to regard as a given. I learned that my priority had to be my child's overall well-being, not her achievement. Parents have much more impact on kids than any school- it's a terrible, yet wonderful, responsibility.
Anedotes and generalisations aside, perhaps the lesson here is, whether RI or MI, we as parents should try to watch out for our kids health and well-being, how they are coping acacdemically and in non-academic ways, and be alert to support or intervene as the situation warrants. Things can go amazing or awry for any child in any place. -
slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2095557\" time=\"1674117164\" user_id=\"28674:
Totally agree! Let’s try to prioritize our children’s well-being. Starting today.
… I learned that my priority had to be my child's overall well-being, not her achievement. Parents have much more impact on kids than any school- it's a terrible, yet wonderful, responsibility. -
doodbug\" post_id=\"2095552\" time=\"1674113305\" user_id=\"13281:
Agree with this too. There are such incidences in other countries, cities and foreign schools too. Let’s prioritize our own sanity and our children’s well-being. Have a good support network with family & friends and seek each other out often.
I would say that our kids going through school in Singapore, regardless top school or not, will personally know of many friends and schoolmates who are receiving help for mental health struggles - it is not uncommon to hear of self harm. There will be kids who thrive, and those that do not, in every school. -
That’s so sad. We must triy our best to constantly remind ourselves what’s more important to us.
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MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2095564\" time=\"1674123828\" user_id=\"43981:
Yes, agreed.
That's so sad. We must triy our best to constantly remind ourselves what's more important to us.
Do tell some KSP parents/individuals not to be too obsessed with Scholarships award. -
MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2095564\" time=\"1674123828\" user_id=\"43981:
No Choice, because we are having \"a competitive education system\" in Singapore and students \"have to compare themselves against others to better oneself\".
That's so sad. We must try our best to constantly remind ourselves what's more important to us.
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Another choice is to compare with yourself and not others. If you score 70 during last exam, aim to score 75 in next exam, regardless whether other score 90 or not. And, if you score 90 last exam, try scoring 92 in next exam, regardless other can only score 80. This way , 智强不息, no matter what goes on around you.
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