All About Parenting Teenagers
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SG_KP1\" post_id=\"2097572\" time=\"1676375738\" user_id=\"188234:
Lol. In fact, I prefer my kids to Always have their own opinions, bear the consequences of their actions, & only come to me when they need advice or support
I have been reading up about getting a dog. Seems like there's a lot of similarities with humans!
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Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2097580\" time=\"1676379162\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2097580 time=1676379162 user_id=195250]
Owners need to train their dogs to obey simple basic commands, so that they do not run amok and start biting people who walk past.
Why need the dog to obey or follow a cue? The dog is a live animal, it has its own feeling, needs and thinking.[/quote]
Children however are not exactly wild animals and have the capacity to speak out their opinions lol. -
Lol. When I bump into the neighbourhood canines with my dd, their owners will often issue some commands, & I would always exclaim, "Omg, the doggies are more obedient than you!!" then she glares at me & we have a good laugh
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Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2097580\" time=\"1676379162\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2097580 time=1676379162 user_id=195250]
Just a child, obedience is partly for safety. It will be safer for the dog (and child) if they have learned basic rules, and they will come or stop on command. A sensitive and caring master (or parent) will also take cues from the dog (or child) and understand when it/he is tired, unwell, not in the mood, etc.
Why need the dog to obey or follow a cue? The dog is a live animal, it has its own feeling, needs and thinking.[/quote] -
Since we are on the topic of puppies, let me share a dog versus cat joke which my teen showed me recently:
Dog’s point of view:
This person feeds me, shelters me, loves me, takes care of me every single day. Wow, he must be God!
Cat’s point of view:
This person feeds me, shelters me, loves me, takes care of me every single day. Wow, I must be God!
My prayer is that my teen never behaves like the latter (and he knows my opinion on that). -
My DH always said parents is the mountain of the kids when DS was small. Kids learn from their parents and can always search help and support from parents when in need. I am not a good mother but DH is certainly a good father.
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sky minecrafter\" post_id=\"2097581\" time=\"1676379770\" user_id=\"130531:[quote=\"sky minecrafter\" post_id=2097581 time=1676379770 user_id=130531]
Same for me, but this has to adjust depending on age of the child and the potential downsides. Some risks may be too great (non-recoverable with permanent/severe consequences) depending on age or ability. It's a balancing act for the parent.
Lol. In fact, I prefer my kids to Always have their own opinions, bear the consequences of their actions, & only come to me when they need advice or support ;-)[/quote] -
There has to be some hard rules that children have to be made aware of and expected to follow especially when they are young. That is for their safety. Then there are values that we explicitly tell them and model for them, those will be their guiding poles as they navigate their way through their various stages of growth and development.
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Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2097580\" time=\"1676379162\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2097580 time=1676379162 user_id=195250]
1st on the list, safety
Why need the dog to obey or follow a cue? The dog is a live animal, it has its own feeling, needs and thinking.[/quote]
2nd so that they do not become a menace/nuisance to others.
Would a puppy know how to navigate a busy road? If you are out with your puppy and it does not know how to obey the wait rule, you will have a puppy at risk of being run over or causing a traffic incident. Even if you have a leash, it will be pulling and straining against it and dashing left and right, here and there on the leash if not taught to walk properly on leash. Am sure you have seen people with a dog on leash and you wonder if it is the person walking the dog or the dog walking the person. Puppies are curious and like to explore and the way they explore is by sniffing and even chewing on the item. There are many things that are poisonous to them, they can also choke, so we have to teach them to obey rules and boundaries and to drop things that they pick up if they are dangerous to them.
If you are out with your dog and it is does not obey the sit stay command, it will be off after any other animal, kid, whatever, because that is what it feels like doing, and because there is no one to divert his attention away from the object of his focus, he needs to act and he thinks he is being a good doggy by doing that.
I had a very protective and possessive silky terrier, if I did not train it, it will attack anyone who comes near me. But a 'down' command from me and it will back off. A 'stay' command will allow the person to get nearer to it for it to get a sniff and get familiar with a person who is considered 'safe'. -
Funz\" post_id=\"2097616\" time=\"1676422413\" user_id=\"6230:
I agree with Funz and slmkhoo.
There has to be some hard rules that children have to be made aware of and expected to follow especially when they are young. That is for their safety. Then there are values that we explicitly tell them and model for them, those will be their guiding poles as they navigate their way through their various stages of growth and development.
It is indeed a balancing act with teens especially when opinions are valued and explicit/implicit rules need to be followed. We try our best.
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