In-law problems?

[Tiny]

hi,


Just believe that human come to this world and have some designed path for each of us to go through.
Fully utilize and appreciate what we have and thankful to people around us. Any things that cannot be controlled just accept it sincerely, go through it without any blames and hope that it won’t repeat in our next life.

[MLR]

Quick update about my friend J....


During my visit (about 40 mins), her ILs treat her very nicely, getting her tonic soup served to her and told me how thankful they r to her for bearing them a grandson that they have been praying for.... I tried to asked J about breast feeding infront of ILs, and they said that it would be too tiring for her and nowadays formula are just as good a breastmilk... They even thank me for visiting J and lucky for J to hv such caring friend like me, etc....such hypocrites .

J seems prety ok for now, just taking it easy.... in preparation for her nite operations :evil:
I managed to smuggle about 10 packs of her froxen milk home to store in my freezer, cold store service, anyone ....... HAHAHA

[buds]

MLR:

Quick update about my friend J....


During my visit (about 40 mins), her ILs treat her very nicely, getting her tonic soup served to her and told me how thankful they r to her for bearing them a grandson that they have been praying for.... I tried to asked J about breast feeding infront of ILs, and they said that it would be too tiring for her and nowadays formula are just as good a breastmilk... They even thank me for visiting J and lucky for J to hv such caring friend like me, etc....such hypocrites .

J seems prety ok for now, just taking it easy.... in preparation for her nite operations :evil:
I managed to smuggle about 10 packs of her froxen milk home to store in my freezer, cold store service, anyone ....... HAHAHA

Suweeet!

I'd do the same had it been my friend.
She's one tough cookie and you're one
great friend.

Here's to ya!
:celebrate:

[MLR]

Hiya buds,


Thank you. I m getting use to your lovely compliments. Like u say, its just wat a friend can do....

:celebrate:

[buds]

Don't mention it.

Good to have more
friends.... than adversaries.
:lol:

Anyways, nice to be of your
acquaintance, MLR. And btw
from our postings here, i'm
thinking you are more to ripe
than old. Having a person
come from mixed marriage
usually results in a child with
broader horizons and more
open minded. Your child will
benefit from both you and hubs
culture..

I gotta go send kiddie for CCA.
Chat agn soon. Chowz!
Cheerios.
:celebrate:

[thebusybee]

re PILs....


I'm considered lucky to meet a good MIL (in 70s), considered her a more domineering person - same as DH, while me the opposite. If 2 strong characters meet, definitely will have conflicts

What I can derived from personal experience is that - If you grow up in extended family (3 Gen with aunts /uncles visiting often), you most likely learned from your mums how to handle these people. To think that some of our MILs had gone thru worst in-law issues, we're much luckier.

buds,
I admired your tolerance, perseverance and courage. We always wished things in life are smooth and I believe if things are too easy in life, one won't appreciate what we have.

Above are views from someone brought up with traditional values.... I'm old school..

Recently learn about 'DiZiGui' 弟子規- Standards for being a good student & child,
then came to realized those are the values we learn from our elders. I'm sure to pass these good values/practice on to my child/ren.

You can get a copy from Popular $6.90, it has pinyin & simple explanation in Chinese. I do have a pdf copy with detailed explanation in Eng, translated by guess what - a college in Australia! Can PM me if anyone interested.

FYI : I co-habit with then bf & family, sort of know PILs' characters & habits before got married and been staying under same roof for nearly 10 years. Because of the way I brought up, I'd like my children to help take care of their GPs when they are older coz i really missed my late grandma and her involvement during my childhood days...

[buds]

thebusybee:

buds,
I admired your tolerance, perseverance and courage. We always wished things in life are smooth and I believe if things are too easy in life, one won't appreciate what we have.

Above are views from someone brought up with traditional values....
I'm old school...

Yeah. Challenges before victory matures us in the long run and its a more
deservingly satisfying end relationship. Having said that not all turn out
with the silver lining eventually..

[pinkmeru76]

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My daughter is currently 16mths, i am planing to send her to MMI tampines for a full day programme. I have been staying with my in laws ever since i got married. My mother has been taking care of my daughter after my 3mths leave till i return from work. She does not allow me to bring my daughter out without her around. Thus my daughter stays at home everyday except sat the whole family will out together.

I am sending my daughter into childcare cos she watches tv(taiwanise drama mainly) at home everyday. And she is able to enter N1 next Jan.
And i want her to join a mth playgrp before she enters N!.

However, my mother in law have e wrong feeling that i do not want her to look after my daughter. Even after i try to explain the suitation with her. She just continue to slam doors n showwing me a black face.
I am still working as a receptionst 5 n half days a week.

[heutistmeintag]

pinkmeru76:

[Moderator's note: Topics merged.]


My daughter is currently 16mths, i am planing to send her to MMI tampines for a full day programme. I have been staying with my in laws ever since i got married. My mother has been taking care of my daughter after my 3mths leave till i return from work. She does not allow me to bring my daughter out without her around. Thus my daughter stays at home everyday except sat the whole family will out together.

I am sending my daughter into childcare cos she watches tv(taiwanise drama mainly) at home everyday. And she is able to enter N1 next Jan.
And i want her to join a mth playgrp before she enters N!.

However, my mother in law have e wrong feeling that i do not want her to look after my daughter. Even after i try to explain the suitation with her. She just continue to slam doors n showwing me a black face.
I am still working as a receptionst 5 n half days a week.

hi Pinkmeru76, firstly I am a dad. For controversial issues, I would be the one who broach the subjects with my parents and I manage their expectations etc. My wife stays out of it to avoid potential conflicts. So far, we still have conflicts but I am sure minimized by reducing the opportunities for controversial discussions.

So, you should consider letting your hubby handle some of these issues. Just my 2 cts worth.

[vfong1]

pinkmeru76:

[Moderator's note: Topics merged.]


My daughter is currently 16mths, i am planing to send her to MMI tampines for a full day programme. I have been staying with my in laws ever since i got married. My mother has been taking care of my daughter after my 3mths leave till i return from work. She does not allow me to bring my daughter out without her around. Thus my daughter stays at home everyday except sat the whole family will out together.

I am sending my daughter into childcare cos she watches tv(taiwanise drama mainly) at home everyday. And she is able to enter N1 next Jan.
And i want her to join a mth playgrp before she enters N!.

However, my mother in law have e wrong feeling that i do not want her to look after my daughter. Even after i try to explain the suitation with her. She just continue to slam doors n showwing me a black face.
I am still working as a receptionst 5 n half days a week.

Maybe can send her to the 3 hrs playgroup instead of childcare? At least she can bring her to school rather than whole day with the childcare?