All About Full-Time Maids

[shine_fs]

liuhao:

sorry could not suggest you what to do but currently i am having similar issue...


my new fil maid( 24 married with one yr old son) has been staying with us for 1 week. issues (similar as yours) so far:

- agreed during interview and first day in agent office that no hp is allowed as stated in house rule and she said she had no hp. however after arrived in our house and checked her belongings, found a secret handphone with sim card. i took the hp and kept it for now. but i am not happy. she is dishonest in the first day!

- yesterday evening (7th day), she asked me whether can have her hp. i was quite angry and told her it's not allowed. i told her that you can go ahead to find another employer if you want but here in my home, hp is not allowed. she acted blur and after a while, asked me again for the hp to sms. it really made me mad.

- spent lots of time grooming herself. everytime we asked her to go out with us to do casual marketing, we wait for her for so long at door step but found she went to have shower and change new clothes! we wait for her for 15 mins before she gets ready. told her twice dont do that but still she will go showering everytime! my previous two maids never did that!

- acting blur all the time. most of the time when i say sometime to her, i never know if she really understand me or not. no feedback/reply/acknowledge. i have been trying to speak really slow, clear and loud.

- missing home all the time, everyday wants to call home. finished one sunshine phonecard within 3 days (50mins). today asked me to buy another for her. she will pay by herself though. although so far not affect her work yet...

contract says i cant send her back util 14 days. she does not make big mistake apart from these issues but so far i am not very comfortable. still dont know what to do yet.

but if i send her back to againt due to above reasons, who will pay the transfer fee?

Liuhao, sorry to hear about it.

You can't send her back but it din say you can't change maid, right? At the meantime, you choose your maid 1st. Once everything settle then send your maid back to your agency.

The maid will charge another 2 mths for transfer

[hquek]

liuhao:

- spent lots of time grooming herself. everytime we asked her to go out with us to do casual marketing, we wait for her for so long at door step but found she went to have shower and change new clothes! we wait for her for 15 mins before she gets ready. told her twice dont do that but still she will go showering everytime! my previous two maids never did that!

I'm being notti and a bit curious. If you just leave the house while she's preening herself....can?

[shine_fs]

hquek:

liuhao:

- spent lots of time grooming herself. everytime we asked her to go out with us to do casual marketing, we wait for her for so long at door step but found she went to have shower and change new clothes! we wait for her for 15 mins before she gets ready. told her twice dont do that but still she will go showering everytime! my previous two maids never did that!

I'm being notti and a bit curious. If you just leave the house while she's preening herself....can?

I will tell my maid what time we will leave home and make sure she is ready by then. If not she will have to stay home...too bad...

[liuhao]

think i will give it another week to see. it will be 14 days by that time. i am testing my limit...

shine_fs:

liuhao:

sorry could not suggest you what to do but currently i am having similar issue...

my new fil maid( 24 married with one yr old son) has been staying with us for 1 week. issues (similar as yours) so far:

- agreed during interview and first day in agent office that no hp is allowed as stated in house rule and she said she had no hp. however after arrived in our house and checked her belongings, found a secret handphone with sim card. i took the hp and kept it for now. but i am not happy. she is dishonest in the first day!

- yesterday evening (7th day), she asked me whether can have her hp. i was quite angry and told her it's not allowed. i told her that you can go ahead to find another employer if you want but here in my home, hp is not allowed. she acted blur and after a while, asked me again for the hp to sms. it really made me mad.

- spent lots of time grooming herself. everytime we asked her to go out with us to do casual marketing, we wait for her for so long at door step but found she went to have shower and change new clothes! we wait for her for 15 mins before she gets ready. told her twice dont do that but still she will go showering everytime! my previous two maids never did that!

- acting blur all the time. most of the time when i say sometime to her, i never know if she really understand me or not. no feedback/reply/acknowledge. i have been trying to speak really slow, clear and loud.

- missing home all the time, everyday wants to call home. finished one sunshine phonecard within 3 days (50mins). today asked me to buy another for her. she will pay by herself though. although so far not affect her work yet...

contract says i cant send her back util 14 days. she does not make big mistake apart from these issues but so far i am not very comfortable. still dont know what to do yet.

but if i send her back to againt due to above reasons, who will pay the transfer fee?

Liuhao, sorry to hear about it.

You can't send her back but it din say you can't change maid, right? At the meantime, you choose your maid 1st. Once everything settle then send your maid back to your agency.

The maid will charge another 2 mths for transfer

[liuhao]

yea good suggestion. i will do that next time for sure. she will get mad wen found we left her but let her be...


every morning her bedroom got strong perfume smell

hquek:

liuhao:

- spent lots of time grooming herself. everytime we asked her to go out with us to do casual marketing, we wait for her for so long at door step but found she went to have shower and change new clothes! we wait for her for 15 mins before she gets ready. told her twice dont do that but still she will go showering everytime! my previous two maids never did that!

I'm being notti and a bit curious. If you just leave the house while she's preening herself....can?

[hquek]

liuhao:

yea good suggestion. i will do that next time for sure. she will get mad wen found we left her but let her be...


every morning her bedroom got strong perfume smell

But you DID tell her that you were leaving in 5 min....if she's late for plane, you think the plane will wait for her?

Anyway, general observation. When I issue instruction, maid can be very blur. But when I say things about her, she is suddenly very sharp. :stupid: :stupid:

[liuhao]

i think in that she will be on time. what i am not comfortable is she just can not go out without showering and nice cloth, no matter how short is the distance or how urgent is the work. even myself wont do showering just for that. she looks like a noblewoman rather than maid.

shine_fs:

hquek:

[quote=\"liuhao\"]- spent lots of time grooming herself. everytime we asked her to go out with us to do casual marketing, we wait for her for so long at door step but found she went to have shower and change new clothes! we wait for her for 15 mins before she gets ready. told her twice dont do that but still she will go showering everytime! my previous two maids never did that!

I'm being notti and a bit curious. If you just leave the house while she's preening herself....can?

I will tell my maid what time we will leave home and make sure she is ready by then. If not she will have to stay home...too bad...[/quote]

[hquek]

liuhao:

i think in that she will be on time. what i am not comfortable is she just can not go out without showering and nice cloth, no matter how short is the distance or how urgent is the work. even myself wont do showering just for that. she looks like a noblewoman rather than maid.

Not surprising lah. I look more like a maid besides my maid - she is very 'gu-niang'. But that's just her.

[shine_fs]

liuhao:

i think in that she will be on time. what i am not comfortable is she just can not go out without showering and nice cloth, no matter how short is the distance or how urgent is the work. even myself wont do showering just for that. she looks like a noblewoman rather than maid.

At 1st did you tell her how many times she can bath?

For me, I told my maid : Morning, afternoon and night = 3 times.

Maybe she is used to her style leh......u need to tell her your house rules..and what can and can't.

Like perfume...I don't allowed cos she is looking after my kids....

[shine_fs]

hquek:

liuhao:

i think in that she will be on time. what i am not comfortable is she just can not go out without showering and nice cloth, no matter how short is the distance or how urgent is the work. even myself wont do showering just for that. she looks like a noblewoman rather than maid.

Not surprising lah. I look more like a maid besides my maid - she is very 'gu-niang'. But that's just her.

My 1st maid who worked for my 2 weeks was like that...she dress up when gg to nearby NTUC. Like I am the maid lor.....