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    • MrsKiasuM Offline
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      Dh and I speak dialect, Mandarin and English. We adults speak Mandarin (more) and English to our kids and kids usually reply us in English. When the sisters speak to each other it will be English. Think it is more to what they do in school ba.

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      • MrsKiasuM Offline
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        Once dd2 asked me for crash course Canto coz she volunteered to speak in dialect with elderly.

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        • lee_ylL Offline
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          Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2121456\" time=\"1698200323\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2121456 time=1698200323 user_id=195250]
          The type of languages which parents speak to their kids - is their own preference. For us, me, DH, BIL, SIL and even DS's biologically mother are all speaking mandarin to our kids. My Malay neighbor speak Malay to their kids, any problems?

          DH's grandparents or many of our ancestors were came from Mainland China and why we do not want to be associated with them? :scratchhead: I cannot believe a Malay in Singapore do not want to associate with Malay from Malaysia. Please don't differentiation people in Singapore. We have very helpful and hardworking colleagues came from PRC.

          Kids can always watch Channel 8 news when they are having dinner at home in the evening.[/quote]
          Well, our ancestors were from China but why did we not want to return to our ancestors’ land?

          The answer is obvious, we have moved on to become Singaporean Chinese, our identify is different and we no longer share many common values with the PRC Chinese.

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          • MrsKiasuM Offline
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            MyPillow\" post_id=\"2121468\" time=\"1698205845\" user_id=\"70594:

            the $10 package is very good value - 100GB!
            i also give my mum this - she can watch drama on hp till \"seow\" 😂
            Before we tried Simba, we always think along the bigger telco firms. Simba works well for us too. Now they always put mobile data on without worries.. yes data cannot finish de 😂

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            • MyPillowM Offline
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              MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2121453\" time=\"1698198690\" user_id=\"43981:

              Dd likes to read history but not the exam. She says it is very interesting to read.
              i think elective Hist is about - the cold /Korea war, Holocaust, Europe war etc,
              Pure Hist includes SEasia - heavy content

              my kids compare Pure Geo and Pure Hist - discovered pure Hist need to study an extra TB , so they opted Elective.
              one kid took Pure Geo, one elective Geog . SS / Elective Geog or SS/ Elec Hist - kids said higher disctinction rate , dunno how true, but true for my ds n his classmates. esp SS/ Geog

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              • Liew Nga WingL Offline
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                lee_yl\" post_id=\"2121476\" time=\"1698209934\" user_id=\"17023:

                Well, our ancestors were from China but why did we not want to return to our ancestors’ land?

                The answer is obvious, we have moved on to become Singaporean Chinese, our identify is different and we no longer share many common values with the PRC Chinese.
                Yes, we may not share all values with people from PRC nowadays but is it necessary to speak English instead of Mandarin so as not to be associated with them. There are Malaysian Chinese, Indonesian Chinese.....do all overseas Chinese have to stop speaking mandarin because they do not want to associate with people from Mainland China? 😄

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                • FunzF Offline
                  Funz
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                  Ancestors coming for China does not mean they speak Mandarin. If granma was still around she will say her mother tongue is Teochew.


                  My father speaks Teochew, Malay and English. My mum Hokkien, Malay and English. When they were in school they were taught English and Malay, and for my Dad during the Jap occupation, Japanese. They were not taught Chinese. Paternal grandma was from Swatow so she speaks Teochew, maternal grandma was Peranakan so she speaks Malay. My family do not speak Mandarin. We speak mainly English and Teochew. My 1st real exposure to Chinese was when I started Primary school, parents sort of forgot to enroll me for Kindergarten until it was time to register me for primary school, so I ended up attending only a few mths of kindy. I went to a school that does not allow students to speak in any other language except for English outside of their 2nd language classes. So for a family like mine, Chinese was tough. English was easy, natural.

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                    Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2121482\" time=\"1698214697\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2121482 time=1698214697 user_id=195250]
                    Yes, we may not share all values with people from PRC nowadays but is it necessary to speak English instead of Mandarin so as not to be associated with them. There are Malaysian Chinese, Indonesian Chinese.....do all overseas Chinese have to stop speaking mandarin because they do not want to associate with people from Mainland China? :siao:[/quote]
                    If a Singaporean Chinese doesn’t wish to be mistaken for PRC Chinese and there are good reasons for such a consideration, I would respect it. Why is there a :siao: icon there? Are you referring to my DH?

                    You may not recall but at the height of Covid panic, when PRC Chinese were deemed to be carriers of the ‘Wuhan’ virus in most countries, it would be prudent not to be associated (or mistaken) as PRC Chinese.

                    I see myself as a Singaporean Chinese, I am proud of my Chinese heritage but I don’t see a need to be associated or mistaken as a PRC Chinese!!!
                    PRC is neither my 祖国 nor does it have a special place in my heart.

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                      Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2121482\" time=\"1698214697\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2121482 time=1698214697 user_id=195250]
                      Yes, we may not share all values with people from PRC nowadays but is it necessary to speak English instead of Mandarin so as not to be associated with them. There are Malaysian Chinese, Indonesian Chinese.....do all overseas Chinese have to stop speaking mandarin because they do not want to associate with people from Mainland China? :siao:[/quote]
                      Not all ethnic Chinese who left China pre-1949 spoke Mandarin! Maybe only the highly-educated ones, but many migrants were not from that group. For many like my family, it's not that we have chosen to \"stop\" speaking Mandarin - there was no history of speaking Mandarin at all. My paternal side is Peranakan and have been in Indonesia/Sg (as far as I know) for about 4-5 generations - they spoke Malay and Hokkien. My maternal grandmother's family was in E Malaysia - they spoke Foochow and Malay. My maternal grandfather was from China and spoke Foochow. My parents went to English-speaking schools where they were discouraged from using other languages. We spoke, and speak, purely English at home. Even my grandparents' generation learned to speak English for survival, but not Mandarin. So what is my \"mother tongue\"? Certainly not Mandarin!

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                      • Liew Nga WingL Offline
                        Liew Nga Wing
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                        lee_yl\" post_id=\"2121486\" time=\"1698215708\" user_id=\"17023:

                        If a Singaporean Chinese doesn’t wish to be mistaken for PRC Chinese and there are good reasons for such a consideration, I would respect it. Why is there a :siao: icon there? Are you referring to my DH?

                        You may not recall but at the height of Covid panic, when PRC Chinese were deemed to be carriers of the ‘Wuhan’ virus in most countries, it would be prudent not to be associated (or mistaken) as PRC Chinese.

                        I see myself as a Singaporean Chinese, I am proud of my Chinese heritage but I don’t see a need to be associated or mistaken as a PRC Chinese!!!
                        PRC is neither my 祖国 nor does it have a special place in my heart.
                        Sorry for any offences, I have amended my post already.

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