Me Time!

[MrsKiasu]

00skyblue00, the non desirable outcome was referring to elder gal. Yes A1 and that’s may be all. We talking abt difficult going to Poly.

[MrsKiasu]

Coolkidsrock2\" post_id=\"2124381\" time=\"1701841686\" user_id=\"48901:

Agreed with you about kids being fully engaged.

Similarly told kids that they will need get a scholarship if they want go overseas. DD got it and \"announced\" she would be leaving for overseas, any discussion was not so relevant since it was funded.

That is such a good news!! Congratulations to ckr2 dd.

[MrsKiasu]

slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2124383\" time=\"1701842311\" user_id=\"28674:

Asking for a friend, and posting here as there was no response on the Autism thread.

Does anyone have a recommendation for a good private psychologist who can do the assessment for Autism? For a teenager. Thanks!

Slmkhoo, I always wonder if confirming it still helps?

[sharonkhoo]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2124392\" time=\"1701846420\" user_id=\"43981:

Slmkhoo, I always wonder if confirming it still helps?

You mean ASD? It helps if you need to get accommodations, support etc. My daughter was offered some accommodations for exams (which we found didn't help anyway, so didn't use them), but more importantly, she was cut a bit more slack when she had difficulties in school and university (like misunderstanding instructions, having issues with group work, etc), and eventually got help in finding a job.

Some parents just want to get a professional diagnosis to get confirmation of the fact. Or they want to get professional therapy. Some will stop there and prefer not to ask for accommodations if they don't really need to. We didn't really need confirmation, but we realised that if we wanted accommodations and help, we needed the formal diagnosis.

[fy2000jp2]

slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2124383\" time=\"1701842311\" user_id=\"28674:

Asking for a friend, and posting here as there was no response on the Autism thread.

Does anyone have a recommendation for a good private psychologist who can do the assessment for Autism? For a teenager. Thanks!

i've pmed u. yr mileage might vary.

[Coolkidsrock2]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2124391\" time=\"1701846002\" user_id=\"43981:

That is such a good news!! Congratulations to ckr2 dd.

Thanks, am sharing from context that your DDs will be fine.

Think my kids are further academically at the same point in time. But they learned from young how to manage and deal with set-backs and disappointments, so I do not really need to worry about them as they know what they want and how to achieve it. And they know how to pick themselves up to move on.

[MrsKiasu]

Coolkidsrock2\" post_id=\"2124399\" time=\"1701852719\" user_id=\"48901:

Thanks, am sharing from context that your DDs will be fine.

Think my kids are further academically at the same point in time. But they learned from young how to manage and deal with set-backs and disappointments, so I do not really need to worry about them as they know what they want and how to achieve it. And they know how to pick themselves up to move on.

Yours is a very good example. Both dh & I were all ready the see them fall and stand up and learn from there..but you know what. Now I m very scared of seeing them losing hope and slowly getting withdrawn. Maybe due to environment they growing up in..

[MrsKiasu]

Dd is down with flu already need take medication and sleep. One dd had headache 2days ago but recovered without medication.

[00skyblue00]

For your younger, all I want to say is, she should not be paying for the consequences of another’s action. This is her first attempt in secondary school and deserve to have a full chance too. Yes as parents, we have lots of anxiety and often pass anxiety to our children without realising. Since you are more experienced now, you should know what previously tried may need some tweaking. Those suggestions on setting ground rules by the other mums are useful. If need to, you can start sourcing for correct tutors (something I hardly suggest) too. But bottomline is we must know what is the problem, not just signing up. Maybe she needs more practices in doing sums etc and tuition provides that. Maybe you needed someone to mark her compo.


Also nothing is confirmed yet, since results are not out, better not act prematurely too.

That’s why we are here, to rant and maybe rave and express our worries among ourselves so that we can become calm and collected in front of our kids.

[00skyblue00]

Just read a sharing from MSH, quite good suggestion.

There will be no xizi and marking for sec sch chinese. Apparantly teacher asked the class to do daily writing of new words on their own. Will get my girl to start writing the words daily/weekly too, after sch reopens. On my part, I will check up on her as and when. It will take a while to become her routine.

Currently I asked her to read two articles per week on ZBschools and take down new words or phrases with meaning on her note book.