Me Time!

[MrsKiasu]

Coolkidsrock2\" post_id=\"2124399\" time=\"1701852719\" user_id=\"48901:

Thanks, am sharing from context that your DDs will be fine.

Think my kids are further academically at the same point in time. But they learned from young how to manage and deal with set-backs and disappointments, so I do not really need to worry about them as they know what they want and how to achieve it. And they know how to pick themselves up to move on.

Yours is a very good example. Both dh & I were all ready the see them fall and stand up and learn from there..but you know what. Now I m very scared of seeing them losing hope and slowly getting withdrawn. Maybe due to environment they growing up in..

[MrsKiasu]

Dd is down with flu already need take medication and sleep. One dd had headache 2days ago but recovered without medication.

[00skyblue00]

For your younger, all I want to say is, she should not be paying for the consequences of another’s action. This is her first attempt in secondary school and deserve to have a full chance too. Yes as parents, we have lots of anxiety and often pass anxiety to our children without realising. Since you are more experienced now, you should know what previously tried may need some tweaking. Those suggestions on setting ground rules by the other mums are useful. If need to, you can start sourcing for correct tutors (something I hardly suggest) too. But bottomline is we must know what is the problem, not just signing up. Maybe she needs more practices in doing sums etc and tuition provides that. Maybe you needed someone to mark her compo.


Also nothing is confirmed yet, since results are not out, better not act prematurely too.

That’s why we are here, to rant and maybe rave and express our worries among ourselves so that we can become calm and collected in front of our kids.

[00skyblue00]

Just read a sharing from MSH, quite good suggestion.

There will be no xizi and marking for sec sch chinese. Apparantly teacher asked the class to do daily writing of new words on their own. Will get my girl to start writing the words daily/weekly too, after sch reopens. On my part, I will check up on her as and when. It will take a while to become her routine.

Currently I asked her to read two articles per week on ZBschools and take down new words or phrases with meaning on her note book.

[sharonkhoo]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2124401\" time=\"1701853634\" user_id=\"43981:

Yours is a very good example. Both dh & I were all ready the see them fall and stand up and learn from there..but you know what. Now I m very scared of seeing them losing hope and slowly getting withdrawn. Maybe due to environment they growing up in..

Perhaps they need to be shown that if they work hard, they can improve. That kind motivate them and give them more self-confidence. But if they don't know how to work hard, or don't know how to do the right kind of \"working hard\", they won't get into this virtuous cycle. That's where a tutor might be the answer, especially if you don't want to be the disciplinarian to impose the rules on them. My husband is doing exactly that now with my nieces - filling gaps and making them practice, and hopefully get them into that virtuous cycle. He will stop at the end of the year, and my brother will have to find a tutor. Or I think all the gains over the past weeks will be lost.

[MrsKiasu]

After 2 nights troubling by it. Last night finally could feel the relief. Quite a surprise to me or most kids are like that..everything seems back to normal self. (I did tell her chg of CCA later will subject to vacancies).


Looked at the photos from hp on the day we started our holiday. There is only 3.5weeks left before school reopen. All kids must enjoy the remaining school holidays! Told myself must bring kids out more often also.

Very thankful to all mommies, my online friends :love:

[lee_yl]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2124373\" time=\"1701837708\" user_id=\"43981:

My dh got a surprise this morning when I told him I don't mind if dd were to be unhappy with me. I have explained to dd and I hope she could really understand me.

Told you right I am surprised by your recent posts, so it’s not unexpected that your DH is surprised too.
You are not your normal self !!!

Anyway, glad that your family has come to a conclusion.

[Liew Nga Wing]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2124430\" time=\"1701903734\" user_id=\"43981:

After 2 nights troubling by it. Last night finally could feel the relief. Quite a surprise to me or most kids are like that..everything seems back to normal self. (I did tell her chg of CCA later will subject to vacancies).

Looked at the photos from hp on the day we started our holiday. There is only 3.5weeks left before school reopen. All kids must enjoy the remaining school holidays! Told myself must bring kids out more often also.

Very thankful to all mommies, my online friends :love:

You finally achieve what you want - of course you are feeling relief now. But how the kid really feel? Actually, I did not argue with my mother.... I just let her scold me in front of all family members but swear to myself I will never talk to her. :mad:

[MrsKiasu]

lee_yl\" post_id=\"2124432\" time=\"1701908195\" user_id=\"17023:

Told you right I am surprised by your recent posts, so it’s not unexpected that your DH is surprised too.
You are not your normal self !!!

Anyway, glad that your family has come to a conclusion.

真的吗。。 i will be happy honestly. But I know next mth I will become softie again.

[sharonkhoo]

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2124434\" time=\"1701909312\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2124434 time=1701909312 user_id=195250]
You finally achieve what you want - of course you are feeling relief now. But how the kid really feel? Actually, I did not argue with my mother.... I just let her scold me in front of all family members but swear to myself I will never talk to her. :mad:[/quote]

I think the reaction of the child depends very much on the existing relationship with the parent. In MKS' case, I believe her daughter knows that any action her mother takes arises out of love, and concern for her future. Even if she feels upset or angry, it will only be for a short time.