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[sharonkhoo]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2124559\" time=\"1702083778\" user_id=\"43981:

Thanks ladies.

Will chk with SUSS. Seems their certs are only day courses not to continue to degree. And from the preliminary findings.. the 2 yrs btw O and degree need to be bridged unless go by the Adult Learners then need 25yo+4yrs working experience.

Btw, when we say 3 out of 10 Poly/MI to local Uni. That means 3 in 10 from Poly/MI can go local Uni right ..not the 3 of 10 students in local Uni are fm Poly yea..coz if latter then out of 10 in local Uni students, 3 fm Poly, 3 fm MI then bal 4 fm A+IB, doesn't sounds right.

SUSS has full- and part-time undergrad courses. But she will need A levels/IB/Poly diploma to apply. I would strongly advise you to send her to some academic course for at least 2 years before going to university - going to university too young will make it hard for her to cope socially, even if she manages academically.
https://www.suss.edu.sg/programme-finder?page=1&area=all&schools=all&t=Programmes&types=deg,dft&sort=date&keyword4ProgrammeCourse=

For the stats, your first case is the correct one. About 30% of MI/Poly students get into local universities.

[zac's mum]

Been busy past few days with my own stuff. DS cooked scrambled eggs for breakfast on his own & washed up everything…lunch he walked out to dabao from coffeeshop for both of us. It feels so nice to have a reversal of roles when he’s finally at this age, he take care of me when i’m bz studying

[phtthp]

These few days, a lot of people hit covid

[starlight1968sg]

phtthp\" post_id=\"2124567\" time=\"1702097708\" user_id=\"35251:

These few days, a lot of people hit covid

Yes, some hv covid symptoms but ART negative.

[Estéema]

Imp75\" post_id=\"2124516\" time=\"1702012652\" user_id=\"2358:

For parents w girls studying overseas, how do you feel comfortable allowing her to stay overseas for 5y? Does anyone follow and stay for a couple months? Is this even possible if child is staying in uni dorm? Are you worried child may not eventually return post graduation. Is it correct to say that application has to start around sep even before A levels to avoid losing a year? Just want to understand the considerations of an overseas education.

Was just having a conversation with a dear frd with 2 special needs girls & youngest going to Melbourne & he’s really concern for her.

I highlighted a few points :-

1. Help the young person build some life skills to function independently when away fr comfort of home - cook, super-marketing skills, attire hygiene, etc (I rmbr bringing my own iron & cooker). In my recent trip to London, I brought a special sauce for frd’s child as he misses his mum’s soya sauce chicken. I wld do some recipes with your child of their favourite so that they’ll find ways to do a nice meal to overcome homesickness. Comfort meals, homesickness can seriously affect their adjustment & moods. Set a request for regular calls to be initiated by yr young individual. Always stay in touch but don’t over-demand. It’s a good chance for the young person to find their independence & navigate their life. Just occasionally pop in.

2. Have conversations now of difference in culture - westerners think 18 yo ladies shld be liberated & not under parents’ constant control/instructions. Rmbr they’ve the tattoo, drugs/vaping & color hair, etc culture. Even innocent

My roommate dyed her hair green & blue just before her exams & by late Oct, her exams ended & parents got her tickets to return SG. She panicked & needed help to dye her hair back to black. “My mum will kill me if I go back in this colors! Fri night dormitories drinking session can hv gals getting dopes. A frd went with her besties thinking they’ll watch each other’s back. Her bestie was suggested to go get special door gifts & they left their drinks at the lounge seat but little did they realized the guys doped their drinks! If these are not your concerns then no worries. Each parent manage according to their personal/family values.

3. If yr child hv no driving skills, get them to use their time to learn now. It’s a chicken & egg thingy. Some prefers to get their license overseas as they perceive it’s easier to pass, some prefer to get their license so they can hit the ground running once they’ve settled. In big countries, it can render a Sporean child miserable not able to drive to get their grocery and ricochet to homesickness and then depression. I’ve seen many girls land themselves in relationships with guys who drives as they’re the most popular.

4. If yr young is studious kind, hopefully will develop good company. The last thing yr child wants is to feel lonely in a big place & yearn for company & no end with all sorts of activities that’ll distract her fr studies. I had a Sporean girl who goes for weekend making tho she doesn’t know the game well coz she got no other frds & one guy came to me to draw him away fr his gambling. He was so desperate coz he had gambled away money parents sent for his fees & living expenses, even tho I told him the only thing I can involve him is my Sunday church & ChinaTown timsum with my church frds.

5. BGRs - this is the most delicate time for most girls. Only a small number escape involvement with bgr and majority don’t last & many go home broken-hearted when long-distance relationships don’t flourish. But guess that’s part of growing up. I wld allow for some space for that part of maturing into adulthood. What we need to sensitize is for our young ladies to learn to be emotionally strong & build resilience & learn to protect themselves. I must point out that peer pressure is gonna be very strong. I had once a whole unit of 6 girls harbouring bfrds overnights for months (only sorting out ‘cleverly’ to position the boys as visitors in living rooms when dormitory mistress do her monthly checks)! Nighttime groaning are very disturbing for those in nearby units! Hahaha, I lived to tell such stories.

Generally, girls are more vulnerable when exposed to overseas & different cultures & when navigating greater adjustment curve. Just share only a small part of my observations.

[Estéema]

zac's mum\" post_id=\"2124566\" time=\"1702097577\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=2124566 time=1702097577 user_id=53606]
Been busy past few days with my own stuff. DS cooked scrambled eggs for breakfast on his own & washed up everything…lunch he walked out to dabao from coffeeshop for both of us. It feels so nice to have a reversal of roles when he’s finally at this age, he take care of me when i’m bz studying [/quote]

Congratulations! :congrats:

Your boy is maturing & bldg his lifeskills for yr enjoyment & leaving u peace-of-mind he can care for himself. Give him extra hugs 🤗 as I did when mine got into cooking & baking! Our latest winter holiday had him preparing b’fast for us & we visited a frd’s girl at her rented home & they both cooked up a storm!

[lee_yl]

lee_yl\" post_id=\"2124543\" time=\"1702041839\" user_id=\"17023:

Then again, I think it is perfectly fine to get a degree from a private institution as long as the degree is recognized here. A few of my cousins studied in private Uni and they are earning a respectable income. Only Civil Service is more fussy about where and how the degree is obtained, not the private sector.

Maybe i should clarify what I mean. What I meant by degree obtained via Private institutions are distance learning degree courses with private educators like Kaplan.

Yes, of cos Civil Service do recruit overseas Uni grads. In PSD’s eyes, there is a difference between a graduate from Cambridge / Oxford vs some other less reputable overseas Universities, not to mention those with overseas degree obtain via private institutions here. PSD is still very fussy with where and how the degree is obtained. Therefore, I feel that we should not generalise that Civil Service employs overseas degree graduates.

For Stat boards, they have more flexibility and we see more liberal employment guidelines, including the employment of foreigners (PRC Chinese, South Asians….)

[00skyblue00]

For employment of foreigners, whether stat b or private sector, the same rules apply, recruitment will have to demostrate there is no local taking up the job before it is given to foreigners and certain percentage of locals to be met. This is my understanding but I am not in HR.


If the private uni listed in the further studies on polytechnic webpage, they should be recognised. There are suggested further studies for the courses in poly one can choose from.

[00skyblue00]

On sending children overseas, I think 16yo are still impressionable. Unlike 18+, and where the university environment is very different from high schools. Students in selected uni are more serious in studies and there is greater mix of students from everywhere and hence regardless of nationality or race, they have a common mindset compared to high schoolers where many are prepared to stop pursuing education after graduation. The selected overseas uni in UK may have scholars from european countries where they govt send own scholars to the UK. Those europeans I met are no less kiasu than we asians and are brilliant people. They are equally competitive but not in some toxic ways.

In high schools, some may encounter being picked on due to our \"accented\" English (singlish), by kids and adults. Likely caused by incomprehension, not necessary discrimination. (If we are not speaking in BBC english, they do not understand us, it is a fact nothing to do with sophistication. Just like some of those from the north speak with such strong accent from those in london.) But in uni, there is good mix of europeans and asians, it would not be so prominent. By 18+yo, we know how to find our own friends and have more faith of our own strengths and more resilient.

Tree vs three, access vs excess.... the nicer ones will just look puzzled but did not say anything. ...haha.... intonation accuracy is just critical as spelling.... I always fiind how they say words fascinating like \"bottle\" in the british way... :love:

[MrsKiasu]

Dd just recovered fm flu too. She says suspected covid (her first) coz she feels kinda foggy brain and first time have such thick mucos flu. Another dd says same as what she experienced 3mths ago. She took total 2 panadol and 3 zrytec and few vit c. Both dds sharing a bed and we all living as we do normally…Again it is one by one getting it at different timing.