Me Time!
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For employment of foreigners, whether stat b or private sector, the same rules apply, recruitment will have to demostrate there is no local taking up the job before it is given to foreigners and certain percentage of locals to be met. This is my understanding but I am not in HR.
If the private uni listed in the further studies on polytechnic webpage, they should be recognised. There are suggested further studies for the courses in poly one can choose from. -
On sending children overseas, I think 16yo are still impressionable. Unlike 18+, and where the university environment is very different from high schools. Students in selected uni are more serious in studies and there is greater mix of students from everywhere and hence regardless of nationality or race, they have a common mindset compared to high schoolers where many are prepared to stop pursuing education after graduation. The selected overseas uni in UK may have scholars from european countries where they govt send own scholars to the UK. Those europeans I met are no less kiasu than we asians and are brilliant people. They are equally competitive but not in some toxic ways.
In high schools, some may encounter being picked on due to our \"accented\" English (singlish), by kids and adults. Likely caused by incomprehension, not necessary discrimination. (If we are not speaking in BBC english, they do not understand us, it is a fact nothing to do with sophistication. Just like some of those from the north speak with such strong accent from those in london.) But in uni, there is good mix of europeans and asians, it would not be so prominent. By 18+yo, we know how to find our own friends and have more faith of our own strengths and more resilient.
Tree vs three, access vs excess.... the nicer ones will just look puzzled but did not say anything. ...haha.... intonation accuracy is just critical as spelling.... I always fiind how they say words fascinating like \"bottle\" in the british way... :love: -
Dd just recovered fm flu too. She says suspected covid (her first) coz she feels kinda foggy brain and first time have such thick mucos flu. Another dd says same as what she experienced 3mths ago. She took total 2 panadol and 3 zrytec and few vit c. Both dds sharing a bed and we all living as we do normally…Again it is one by one getting it at different timing.
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I have more worries on dd’s clumsiness and sometimes not that focus on her surroundings. Minus these she can be sometimes be seen as quite ‘smart’ in reasoning/analysing things. BGR I think they maybe able to take extra care of own body…I feel. Just hope to buy some years for her to mature abit more.
Right now we do not have much choice. Just go on any path available to obtain a degree first. -
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Congrats zac's mom..nice and cosy feeling right. Dd2 follows jiejie when go out dabao. So far she only go seven eleven alone to buy things on way home.
Been busy past few days with my own stuff. DS cooked scrambled eggs for breakfast on his own & washed up everything…lunch he walked out to dabao from coffeeshop for both of us. It feels so nice to have a reversal of roles when he’s finally at this age, he take care of me when i’m bz studying
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Was just having a conversation with a dear frd with 2 special needs girls & youngest going to Melbourne & he’s really concern for her.
I highlighted a few points :-
Agree with your points below.
1. Help the young person build some life skills to function independently when away fr comfort of home - cook, super-marketing skills, attire hygiene, etc (I rmbr bringing my own iron & cooker).
Have been without helper for more than 5 years and kids had to help out, so very familiar with 持家 by the time DD left. DS will only go after NS, if he decides to go. Not a specific concern for us.
In my recent trip to London, I brought a special sauce for frd’s child as he misses his mum’s soya sauce chicken. I wld do some recipes with your child of their favourite so that they’ll find ways to do a nice meal to overcome homesickness. Comfort meals, homesickness can seriously affect their adjustment & moods.
DD eats out or do takeaway.
Set a request for regular calls to be initiated by yr young individual. Always stay in touch but don’t over-demand. It’s a good chance for the young person to find their independence & navigate their life. Just occasionally pop in.
This is what we do.
2. Have conversations [color=#000000]now[/color] of difference in culture - westerners think 18 yo ladies shld be liberated & not under parents’ constant control/instructions. Rmbr they’ve the tattoo, drugs/vaping & color hair, etc culture. Even innocent
My roommate dyed her hair green & blue just before her exams & by late Oct, her exams ended & parents got her tickets to return SG. She panicked & needed help to dye her hair back to black. “My mum will kill me if I go back in this colors!
I smilingly referenced her as \"a tree\" when she did that. Told her not to do blue as it will be 水淋头 or red to 火烧脑，inauspicious. Best keep to black to symbolise 发财 which is auspicious. No further plans to colour or dye hair again.
Fri night dormitories drinking session can hv gals getting dopes. A frd went with her besties thinking they’ll watch each other’s back. Her bestie was suggested to go get special door gifts & they left their drinks at the lounge seat but little did they realized the guys doped their drinks! If these are not your concerns then no worries. Each parent manage according to their personal/family values.
Have heard of friends' kids clubbing and partying even when here. My kids are not very sociable, but have still specifically warned kids of dorm drinking and drugs. Also gambling, vaping, etc. So far, do not get the sense of much social events. Everybody is busy studying, group studying still on-going at midnight when I called, or doing own things/internships/community engagement to build a better profile for international job placement application.
3. If yr child hv no driving skills, get them to use their time to learn now. It’s a chicken & egg thingy. Some prefers to get their license overseas as they perceive it’s easier to pass, some prefer to get their license so they can hit the ground running once they’ve settled. In big countries, it can render a Sporean child miserable not able to drive to get their grocery and ricochet to homesickness and then depression. I’ve seen many girls land themselves in relationships with guys who drives as they’re the most popular.
DH had a bad car accident when young, so will only allow them to take driving licence when they are older, hopefully more stable. But this is very specific to us, agree that being able to drive when overseas is better.
4. If yr young is studious kind, hopefully will develop good company. The last thing yr child wants is to feel lonely in a big place & yearn for company & no end with all sorts of activities that’ll distract her fr studies. I had a Sporean girl who goes for weekend making tho she doesn’t know the game well coz she got no other frds & one guy came to me to draw him away fr his XXXXX. He was so desperate coz he had XXXXX away money parents sent for his fees & living expenses, even tho I told him the only thing I can involve him is my Sunday church & ChinaTown timsum with my church frds.
DD visited the farmer markets, museums and galleries on her own when she has time. Also watched serials in room. Other students play e-games.
5. BGRs - this is the most delicate time for most girls. Only a small number escape involvement with bgr and majority don’t last & many go home broken-hearted when long-distance relationships don’t flourish. But guess that’s part of growing up. I wld allow for some space for that part of maturing into adulthood. What we need to sensitize is for our young ladies to learn to be emotionally strong & build resilience & learn to protect themselves. I must point out that peer pressure is gonna be very strong. I had once a whole unit of 6 girls harbouring bfrds overnights for months (only sorting out ‘cleverly’ to position the boys as visitors in living rooms when dormitory mistress do her monthly checks)! Nighttime groaning are very disturbing for those in nearby units! Hahaha, I lived to tell such stories.
Generally, girls are more vulnerable when exposed to overseas & different cultures & when navigating greater adjustment curve.
No development in this aspect thus far.
Just share only a small part of my observations. -
Rgdg whether ready for overseas studies, i guess a simple way is to take a vacation with DH for a long weekend (maybe weekdays during school term even better simulation) and then let the teen manage everything alone at home. A trial run of sorts.
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Estéema\" post_id=\"2124570\" time=\"1702101410\" user_id=\"66413:
Was just having a conversation with a dear frd with 2 special needs girls & youngest going to Melbourne & he’s really concern for her.
I highlighted a few points :-
1. Help the young person build some life skills to function independently ...
Very important. Think about what they will have to do unaided, and make sure they get some practice at home first.
Set a request for regular calls to be initiated by yr young individual. Always stay in touch but don’t over-demand. It’s a good chance for the young person to find their independence & navigate their life. Just occasionally pop in.
We set a time (adjustable) for a weekly Skype with us and her sister. And WA at any time was a great boon.
2. Have conversations of difference in culture ...
My daughter grew up overseas and was used to cross-cultural friendships and customs. And she knew what we would and wouldn't approve of in terms of behaviour! Of course, we couldn't impose and monitor, but I think she respected and shared our views enough.
3. If yr child hv no driving skills, get them to use their time to learn now. ...
My daughter got her licence in Singapore, but we strongly advised her not to drive overseas as she didn't have much practice. In the UK, most universities don't allow undergraduates to park cars on campus, and the distances are usually not so great. My daughter wasn't confident to cycle either, so she just walked everywhere. Most things were under 15 mins walk away. I guess in Australia or US, driving may be more necessary, and parking may not be a problem.
4. If yr young is studious kind, hopefully will develop good company. The last thing yr child wants is to feel lonely in a big place & yearn for company & no end with all sorts of activities that’ll distract her fr studies. ...
We encouraged her to be involved in university groups, and in the end, she was most involved in 2 Christian groups and a singing group (and other Singaporeans). No problems with loneliness, or bad company.
5. BGRs - this is the most delicate time for most girls. Only a small number escape involvement with bgr ...
We talked about this a lot beforehand, even while she was in JC. In the end, she met her boyfriend through one of the groups - and he's Singaporean.
Generally, girls are more vulnerable when exposed to overseas & different cultures & when navigating greater adjustment curve. Just share only a small part of my observations.
Not sure about this. Personality accounts for a lot? My daughter's close girls friends mostly managed very well - in various universities in UK and US. Some of the boys had harder times. -
Hi ladies, for discussion. This seems like a good local alternative to do IBDP. Fees are $37k per year (similar to what MKS quoted $17k per semester at HCIS?) but not full international school campus so no need CCA and whatnot. Ratio is a lot lower too, plus they have networks to help with overseas uni applications.
Welcome your opinions on this.
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My friends either (i) start kids with international schools or the local international schools; (ii) go boarding school in upper primary; (iii) transfer to local international schools after/around sec 2 or sec 4; or (iv) attend foundation studies overseas.
Hi ladies, for discussion. This seems like a good local alternative to do IBDP. Fees are $37k per year (similar to what MKS quoted $17k per semester at HCIS?) but not full international school campus so no need CCA and whatnot. Ratio is a lot lower too, plus they have networks to help with overseas uni applications.
Welcome your opinions on this.
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Kids in arrangement (i) will usually be self-taught or have tuition in the local curriculum in parallel - have to practise on assessment books too : )
Reason given for kids in arrangement (iii) is exposure and fit.
If no CCA requirement by school, it may mean that parent/student will need to DIY? Or they will help with linking up with the relevant partners?
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