Me Time!

[zac's mum]

I thought nowadays is Whatsapp status update…

[MrsKiasu]

I m very outdated. I asked my mom not to post my kids photos. I told my kids not use too much social media. Dd told me she just use it on normal stuffs. And yea, my mom knows some of her grandchildren movements through social media and update us sometimes.

[Funz]

Just as we are talking about keeping parents informed. Mum just called me to ask me how is DS.


DS is down with a bad cough again. I did not even inform mum about it but my sisters know as we chat daily and I told them I was at the clinic with DS on Hari Raya and I was complaining about the cost of the consultation at the 24hr clinic.

One of them must have told my mum and mum just called to ask if he is better.

I think that is how family should be like. Yes we get into each other’s business and sometimes we get onto each other’s nerves. But we show each other concern. Sometimes we pry a little, sometimes we push and prod a little. But we usually know when to stop and step back to give each other some space as well.

[MrsKiasu]

Hope your ds is better now, Funz.


Especially when we dont see each other very often, to keep ourselves updated of how each and everyone is faring via some forms of cross communication is comforting.

This morning, I was arranging with my mom only chat, to buy groceries then my sis talking to me of some news involving just 2 of us directly on our family group chat…my moms suggested that we bring it over to 2 pax chat as her hp keeps beeping.

[sharonkhoo]

I also believe in keeping family members informed of our doings. More details for those in the same household, but less for those living apart. I tell my parents whenever I leave the country, but not which days I won’t be home for dinner! I expect a certain level of info from my kids who live in my home - like whether they will be home for dinner (courtesy for the cook!) but they didn’t ask permission once they were past JC. Maybe I draw a more distinct line between info and permission - if I require them to inform me, that’s not asking permission. I may comment but no longer feel the right to forbid.

[MyPillow]

I was brought up to seek permission n to inform parents esp Mum . I think for girls , parents worry abt more : our safety, our friends , what type of male / female friends we hang with , what food we eat , healthy or u healthy etc

I felt “suppressed “ sometimes😆 I was happy to get married as I no need to inform when I will be home late after party . Or get naggings even at 26 yo!
But I think expectations for son got to be different.

How abt Dh? Does your dh keep his mum inform abt most things ? I will remind him to tell his mum abt our holiday trips n biz trips . To call his mum when he is back in sg after our holidays .

[MyPillow]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2132627\" time=\"1713067553\" user_id=\"43981:

I m very outdated. I asked my mom not to post my kids photos. I told my kids not use too much social media. Dd told me she just use it on normal stuffs. And yea, my mom knows some of her grandchildren movements through social media and update us sometimes.

Wow your mum know how to post photo in social media ?
We are kids friends in their SM acct , so far we just see n dun comment . We are under iPhone Family Grp , can see each other location., we are open n happy to keep it transparent. We told them for safety sake

[starlight1968sg]

Funz\" post_id=\"2132628\" time=\"1713068769\" user_id=\"6230:

Just as we are talking about keeping parents informed. Mum just called me to ask me how is DS.

DS is down with a bad cough again. I did not even inform mum about it but my sisters know as we chat daily and I told them I was at the clinic with DS on Hari Raya and I was complaining about the cost of the consultation at the 24hr clinic.

One of them must have told my mum and mum just called to ask if he is better.

I think that is how family should be like. Yes we get into each other's business and sometimes we get onto each other's nerves. But we show each other concern. Sometimes we pry a little, sometimes we push and prod a little. But we usually know when to stop and step back to give each other some space as well.

funz
you are blessed with a close knitted family. I wish mine is such.
Asking is a show of concern or care. We dont ask strangers how they are etc. Again, not all will think in this way.

[ChiefKiasu]

MyPillow\" post_id=\"2132638\" time=\"1713086505\" user_id=\"70594:

Wow your mum know how to post photo in social media ?
We are kids friends in their SM acct , so far we just see n dun comment . We are under iPhone Family Grp , can see each other location., we are open n happy to keep it transparent. We told them for safety sake

Uh... I think she meant that her mother monitors her grand kids' accounts like a policewoman...

We can try, but kids today, they will always come up with ways to defeat our \"security\"...

[sharonkhoo]

starlight1968sg\" post_id=\"2132639\" time=\"1713086571\" user_id=\"14025:

funz
you are blessed with a close knitted family. I wish mine is such.
Asking is a show of concern or care. We dont ask strangers how they are etc. Again, not all will think in this way.

Asking is not the same as expecting permission to be sought. I think kids do appreciate concern, but not efforts to control them once they are adults.