Any Mommies in mid-late 30s or over 40 with small children ?

[tamarind]

duriz:

tamarind:

I am also fine if children call me auntie. But if people in their 20s start to call me auntie, then it is a little depressing

Aww, no lah.
I'm positive you're still young and beautiful.
Young people nowadays very silly, don't take it to heart.
They really only know how to \"interact\" with PCs and HPs, not real people. Thus their social interaction skills very limited.
I'm 41 and rightfully an aunty

Thanks for your comforting words

[tamarind]

tree nymph:

tamarind:

Just have to expect 4 big candles on the birthday cake hahaha

I thought I will have my menopause soon, asked my gynae and she said its only when I am over 50 years old :oops:

Let me tell you all one joke.

A few years ago, I noticed that my period was very short and light. that continues for a few months. Short and light means i prob only use one pad and that's it. Was a bit worried so I went to a Chinese Medicine Hall and ask if I should take something to 调理. Thought maybe I should take 白凤丸. When I descripe my conditions to the sales assistant, she told me i have to take the special 白凤丸, I asked why, she told me that based on my description, I'm most likely having menopause liao. I was so :shock: :shock: ! Told her I'm mid thirties and I asked her if she has heard of anyone like that. She told me in straight and serious tone - yes, nowadays women are getting their menopause earlier and earlier. So its no surprise that you are having menopause... :!: :!: I was a bit alarmed, and immediately called my gynae to see him the next day. When I told the gynae my conditions and asked if I'm having my menopause, he :rotflmao: and assured me with tears in his eyes that I'm definately not having menopause. Just that the lining is thin and I may not be able to have kids anymore. :roll: :roll:

3 months later, I'm pregnant again... :roll: :roll:

Some sales people like to use \"scare tactics\".

Once I went for a facial, the staff said my skin looked very bad and asked if I had been ill. Her purpose was to make me sign up for the expensive package. I was so angry I never went back to that shop.

[tamarind]

phankao:

DesertWind:

[quote=\"phankao\"] The point is - if you have amnio, what are you going to do if the results are not what you want to hear?


I did not do any tests for our 4th baby (nor our earlier 3 either), but I went one step further. I requested for no scans as well.

Wah Phankao,
You very brave leh!
:celebrate:

Why Brave??? Takes more effort to go for all these tests, leh. Going to see OB/GYN already a very *sian* thing for me. i would stretch my visits so that i see him only every 6 weeks or so.[/quote]
When I had my second boy, I was also at the age where the amnio test is recommended. I chose not to take the test because I was scared of the needles !

[fav_giraffe]

hi i am going to be forty this year :shock: and have 2 kids (DS: 4 years old and DD: 1year old). Wanted to have no 2 earlier but took a long time to conceive..


Am a FTWM with maid.. Always feel tired out every day and my greatest wish is to strike toto and retire and spend time with my kids...

[shine_fs]

tamarind:

When I had my second boy, I was also at the age where the amnio test is recommended. I chose not to take the test because I was scared of the needles !

The amnio test was recommended to me when I had my 2nd boy too. I struggled dunno want to do or not. Finally, I chose not to.

Cos I scare of the result and the % of miscarriage. F.Y.I, I had twice miscarriage.

I was very hard that my bb is normal.....so stress

[Funz]

I went for amnio when I had DD but not DS. The triple test showed that DD fell into the high risk category. I remember going blank and then crying buckets after receiving the call from my Gynae’s nurse. She was not tactful at all. I was in a middle of a meeting with a client when I had a few missed calls. When I called back, the first thing she said was your triple test results shows positive for Downs so you need to come in as soon as possible for an amnio. When I met with my gynae his explanation put me more at ease. He said the odds are on my side as the result shows a 1 in 200 chance. He then explained the risks of amnio and his track records (no mishaps due to amnio). He did say more often then not, most amnios come back showing that the babies are normal. The decision whether to go for the procedure or not is ours and he will respect our decision. We opted for the procedure. But after the procedure, I ended up crying as well, to DH’s alarm. But the gynae was very reassuring, telling DH it is very normal as there will be fear and worry so it is good to just let it out. Amnio at that time takes at least 4 weeks to get a result so we were on tenterhooks for 1 whole month. On the 1 hand praying that we won’t get an earlier then expected call but on the other hand needing and answer.


For me, there was no real question about going for the amnio. I believe in knowing and being prepared rather then leaving things to chance.

[LOLMum]

i took the test as well for ds. i prefer to have it done because i wwant to be well prepared for any decisions we make.


even though the result is good news, i still read up on down syndrome and other illnesses. i dont want to wait till the baby is born and realise that there is something wrong and be ill prepared for everything.

[mickeyhmh]

I took amnio tests for both pregnancies. 1st time was recommended as I was over 35 & I wanted to be sure & prepared. JIC.


Originally didn’t want to do for 2nd pregnancy. However, during the detailed scan, gynae was worried that one of the twins may have problems, so recommended it. Wanted to make sure & be prepared, again. 2nd amnio took shorter time for results, if I wasn’t mistaken.

[Augmum]

Thank you for all mummies who have shared yr stories on the aminocentesis

Me too, I belong to the grp who believed in mentally well-prepared for any unexpected birth defects rather than leave to nature........
(though i din go thru the test as i stopped at 1.... )

Augmum:

For those mummies giving birth after the age of 35,
i wonder .....did u all go for the amniocentesis test???

my cousin who had her 4 th child at the age of 40, her gynae persuaded her several times to go for the test,
but she refused (she is a devoted christian), saying that
whatever the outcome, she would not abort the child as it is God's gift........

do u all agree on her saying.....???

[cups_muffin]

Hi

I m a SAHM of 3 (5,2,5mths). Recently facing a v strong willed boy entering his terrible two stage and I am pulling out my hair trying to get him do things like sit and eat, shower....

I am more active at another forum, was directed here by tam, thanks I din know there is a similar thread here.