Do your kids still sleep on your bed?

[kai]

hmmm.. interesting topic to rant on.. my ger who is 4 this yr stil slps between me and hubs but guess it started off as she was the first child den & i wanted to bond more with her before she slps as im a FTWM & she spent the whole day with e caregiver already.. now my #2 boy i started him off having him sleep in his cot alone & having the cot at the same room with the caregiver next door.. everything worked out fine & was even planning soon i can get my ger to shift out of our room too.. but lately the weather starts to get humid & we had to utilise the air con (which we usually dun as both my kids have super dry skin & adding to hubs having asthma).. when its bed time.. we had to 'chase' the lil boy out of the room n tel him its bedtime.. i started to feel bad.. of not having him around in the room too wif us.... hence lately i gave in.. lost the battle.. & now.. wat i get is.. punches & kicks & backaches coz our bed is just not enuff for 4 of us.. & yesh.. it was my own choice.. so..

[schellen]

Chief, I understand your pain, literally. My DD actually slept in her own bed in her own room from day one back from hospital. Somehow, can't remember actual cause now, she ended up sleeping with us most of the time. I think it was partly cos I breastfed her and we'll just fall asleep together.


Then, since she is such a giant, I started getting assaulted in my sleep and having sleepless nights. And this was when she was 2-3 yo. My DH was spared cos no matter how much space he gives her, she always rolls over to my side and steals my bolster or use me as one. If she turns the other way and has her feet next to my face, I'm doomed. Worse is when she turns perpendicular to me. :shock: I don't even know how she finds the space to do that!

Finally, at about 5 yo, my DH convinced DD to sleep on a mattress on the floor next to our bed. She would be moved over after she fell asleep cos we don't go to bed as early as her (8+ p.m.). If we don't do this, she'll wake up at night and cry, and my DH will have to go over to soothe her, a few times each night. I gave in to the \"mattress idea\" after suffering from cranky DH syndrome for a few weeks.

Luckily, I think rearranging the furniture in her room plus big new child-friendly bed and me telling her how me and my sis slept on our own from young did the trick. I also gave her the ultimatum, sleep on your own and stay in your room till morning before you start P1 or be treated like a baby by me. Soon after that, there was success, and it has stayed that way ever since. Thank goodness!

P.S. Now, if she crawls into our bed on weekend mornings, she will not stay long cos it's uncomfortable due to lack of space.

[MLR]

Hiya


I just came across this topic. Right from the day DS came home from KKH, he sleeps in his own cot in another room. I sleep on single bed next to his cot for 1st 2 mths. It was tough cos need to wake up pick him up from cot, feed him and put him back to sleep every 3 hrly. By 3rd mth, managed to regulate his feedings to 11pm, 3am and 7am. He also sleeps very well after a full feed, which i was indeed very blessed. By the time i wean him off breastfeeding (around 8 mths old), he no longer needed the nite feed. It was just 11pm and then 7am.

When i went back to work after 3.5 mths of leave, it was very tough for me since I was the one who had to do the feeds, so i asked my boss to allow me to go in half an hour late. At that time I stayed 4 bus-stops away from workplace, which was superb. After the 7am feed, DH would take him to IFC so I could go back to catch 40 winks b4 waking up at 8am to get ready to leave home by 8.45.

Now, after his last bottle, brush teeth, say his prayers and DH or I will spent about 15 to 30 mins max with him singing or just laying next to him, he will fall asleep. At times, he does wake up and drag his pillow and dinosaur to squeeze in with us. On weekends, he will join us to "lai chuang" and have his morning milk in our bed.

After hearing from friends and cousins and sister, we decided that it is best to start from day 1, rather than having problem getting them to sleep on their own at a later stage.

It wasn’t an easy time for us, especially me. DH knows that he is very lucky to be spared doing any nite duties, except when DS was sick and needed nite watch. He is doing his part too, which during weekends, hes the one who has to take care of DS almost 80%. We think it was worth the few months of effort to prevent years of fustrations and tantrums.

[buds]

ChiefKiasu:

Everytime I sleep on the same bed with my children, I get kicked in the face, stomach, and finally off the bed. It's worst than a football match.

Couldn't have said it better myself..

[lovejesus_2005]

Both my children sleep with me while Daddy ends up in the children's room. Tried putting my elder (now 3 yo) in his \"own big bed\" for a period of time, but was difficult cos he kept waking up in the middle of the night crying for me! And my younger (now 14 m) sleeps with me cos she hates her cot.....kept waking up (even from deep sleep) everytime we try to put her down.....so we gave up after a while.

Every once in a while, I'll ask the elder whether he wants to sleep in his own big bed, but he usually says \"yes, if mama also sleeps with me\".
Sigh!
Still, I shall persevere! Maybe I need to re-do the room a bit and make it more friendly for the 2 of them to sleep in.....then my hubby can finally sleep in his \"own big bed\"!

[MLR]

Hiya lovejesus_2005


Are you breastfeeding your 2nd child? If you are, most probably its your smell that she find comforting/secured. You can try leaving one of your worn shirt next to them. One of my friend tried this and it works for their 2 yo. You can start off with nap time, then you sleep with elder in his bed and when he falls asleep, then you leave. Let your DD sleep with you and then move her to her bed with your shirt.

Hope it works for you. :celebrate:

[buds]

MLR:

Hiya lovejesus_2005


Are you breastfeeding your 2nd child? If you are, most probably its your smell that she find comforting/secured. You can try leaving one of your worn shirt next to them. One of my friend tried this and it works for their 2 yo. You can start off with nap time, then you sleep with elder in his bed and when he falls asleep, then you leave. Let your DD sleep with you and then move her to her bed with your shirt.

Hope it works for you. :celebrate:

The smell of a breastfeeding momma's breasts/chest is
intoxicating to a bb definitely, thats why they like to cling
to the nipple even after they are full. Ouch. Dun miss the
biting! Yikes!

[lovejesus_2005]

Thanks MLR and buds...

I actually was b/feeding til Feb....and even tried the \"sneaky ways\" as suggested!
For elder, I usually tuck him in and lay with him til he's asleep, then I sneak off.
For younger, I wait til she's asleep before putting her down in her cot together with my blanket (which I used while b/feeding....so got the power-smell).....
But in both cases, my son will wake up in the middle of the night calling/crying for me.....while my daughter (at that time she was still b/feeding) will wake up for her feed, find me not there, and cry like crazy!

Sigh! So it had been very hard trying to get them to sleep apart from me.
But we are going to try putting them on a separate bed with us in the same room.....and let the 2 of them sleep with each other a bit first and see if that works...and maybe slowly advance them to sleep in a separate room, but on the same bed.....
At least, that's what my DH suggested....so we shall try it out for this weekend and keep our fingers crossed!



Anyone with better suggestion??

[Luvkid]

Hi all,


Juz to share my story here. This has never come to my mind yet as there is no spare bedrooms. We have the master bedroom (imagine how squeezy can that be, with 4 of us sleeping together, with our and kids wardrobes, dressing table, and little this & that), the other 2 bedrooms have been occupied by tenants (to have extra income). I have always propped up this question \"when to give up a room for the boys\" to my husband, he will always says LATER,LATER,WHEN THEY GET OLDER....

One fine day, somewhere last year, my son in K2 then, asked me when can he have a room by himself :? I got stuck then and said wait till u get older. What age will that be? When time to come? Anyway, at then he still can bluff bluff a bit. and i :siam: from the question.

Somewhere this 2 months, my son came to me and asked,\"Can u clear the store room and let it be my own room? Clear all the stuffs and OPEN a window for me,so it will be much airy\" I got :!: He knows my tenants are taking up the other 2 rooms for extra income and he aims store room as his bedroom.

Oh, till now, look like my husband is still siamming thsi question. I also wonder can my boys adapt to sleep alone? My elder boy might have no prob, but not my younger boy who is still clingy to me. As now i sleep with on the mattress on the floor, he will wake up sometime to check is me whom sleep with him, instead of his papa or ker ker. He will even chase them off and insists me to be with him. Well, see how, when it is time.... :roll:

[sesame]

My 5yr DD sleeps in same room with us since birth in her own cot/mattress. Ever since I shifted her to a singel bed parked next to ours, she camped nightly in our bed. Doesnt help that hubby is back late nightly/ watches telly late into the night. Even if we shift her to her bed after she fell asleep, she seems to have her parking sensors glued to me. She can roll over her dad just to stick her face to a part of me. :?


Now that my 1yr old DS is outgrowing his cot, :stupid: i really dunno where to park him.

Hubby is travelling frequently these days... so i guess the kids are a company to me more than vice versa. It is contridicting actually... we want our freedom, but yet scared to let go. When will it be when they rather sleep alone then next to us all snuggled up?

anyway, my DD just declared that \"after i married, you STILL must sleep with me.\"
I asked:\"Then what abt your husband?\"
DD:\"Sleep with Daddy in small (single) bed lor. :!: Didi can still sleep in his cage (cot)\"