1 in 10 S’poreans do not have close friendships

[singingforzara]

im lucky 2 hav my girlfriends who r oso fellow mummies

sometimes my children drive me crazy and there r things i cant share wif my husband. having them helps keep me sane haha

[thebottomsupblog]

@singingforzara It’s great you have close friends to talk to!

Just curious — for you and everyone else who’s posted here. Are you closer to your parent friends now, or do you have close friends who are not parents, or single?

I don’t really gravitate to just parents alone. Sometimes I want a break from talking about parenting haha! I’m quite used to switching gears to just talking about what suits the group.

[Wonder-ful]

@thebottomsupblog - As we grow older, the number of truly close friends often fits within one hand. Life naturally pulls people in different directions as marriage and children take priority, yet in certain relationships there is a quiet, unspoken understanding — that this person will be there when it truly matters.

I’m grateful to have a friend like this for over 50 years. Even though we haven’t met in a while, there’s a strong sense that we have each other’s backs when the occasion arises. This has been proven before, and I’m confident we can count on it again.

Familiarity and frequency don’t always define longevity — not every relationship stands the test of time when it matters most.

[thebottomsupblog]

Wondering if anyone here is open to such community initiatives, to meet new friends?

Or, do you feel that you have enough friends already?

https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/community-space-stranger-conversations-blossoms-as-a-library-of-human-stories-and-life-experiences

A gf (fellow mom) shared this with me last year, and I follow their socials but haven’t found time to actually attend yet. Am keen though!

[thebottomsupblog]

Bumping this up, as the people around me seem to be talking about friendships lately!

My husband has been thinking about the friends in his life — the close friends that he barely sees, the groups that he’s in where no one’s keen to meet up.

Another gf was saying she would probably use Bumble BFF to make some new activity friends. She’s tried it before: https://bumble.com/en/the-buzz/what-exactly-is-bumble-bff

How often do you meet your friends? I have friends that I see monthly or even twice a month. Sometimes a new shared interest (like pickleball or taking classes together) means that we meet more often. Otherwise maybe once in 2-3 months is more of the norm?

One positive trend that I’ve noticed in the last 1-2 years: people say yes/no to meet-ups very quickly now! Sometimes a date/time is fixed within minutes, unlike say 10 years ago where we all wanted to do was laze at home and binge videos or doomscroll