How can I get my husband to buy me something?

[sleepy]

concern2:

Sleepy - and did it work?

Yes, at least he bought me gifts for my birthday.

[sleepy]

verykiasu2010:

every time i buy something my better half says why waste money.... so I stopped buying anything except big ticket items

MMM:

I observed that my hubby is the type that I have to gradually expose him to what I like and probably over time he accepts the idea and if there is a good buy, he would probably buy it for me. But I am also of the mindset that I can afford to buy whatever I like so I don't need to wait for him to buy it for me. It's a bonus if I get it as a gift from him, otherwise it doesn't really matter.

I'm SAHM so hubby paid for all my expenses. Perhaps that's why he doesn't feel there's a need to buy extra gifts since I'm holding supplementary cards to all his credit cards & can buy anything I fancy.

But the point is we ladies like surprises. Gifts need not be expensive :love:

[mummyjoyce]

I am sorry but my problem is HOW to stop my hubby from buying me things!!! He loves to buy me stuffs that I dont need:frustrated:

Bags, shoes, watches, handphones - I prefer to choose myself :x

[MMM]

sleepy:

I'm SAHM so hubby paid for all my expenses. Perhaps that's why he doesn't feel there's a need to buy extra gifts since I'm holding supplementary cards to all his credit cards & can buy anything I fancy.


But the point is we ladies like surprises :love:

To a certain extent, it's true. But in recent years, I also feel that we would ask each other what we want and we would feel that we already have everything we need. So we only ended up going for nicer dinner without presents. Probably our relationship has reach that level of complacency/ comfort or I've reach that stage in life where I am longer into romance :?

[concern2]

sleepy - you're a lucky gal!


My husband won't even remember mine! I have to remind him to buy me a birthday cake on the day itself (always gives him a chance that he'd remember) since I know my kids would want to celebrate birthday for me - they always ask when my birthday is after I celebrate theirs/my husbands'. (Aren't they sweet?) :love:

Well, the closest I had was last year's birthday when he came back with the kids with a bouquet of flowers (on top of the birthday cake that I made him buy for me). But it was the kids who chose the flowers, not him. It just feels different.

[sleepy]

concern2:

sleepy - you're a lucky gal!


My husband won't even remember mine! I have to remind him to buy me a birthday cake on the day itself

I sent email to his office to remind him to apply leave on my birthday, 2 months in advance

[concern2]

As if there’ll be a chance that I don’t like the item and he could just blame it on the person who decides on it? That kind of low-risk taker?

[concern2]

Sleepy! I know what you mean! I even thought have to put a reminder message in his handphone to remind him for this years! but it is still different..if you know what I mean...

[vicki]

How to??


For me, i will just ask dh for his atm card n i buy myself!!

[concern2]

Vicky, my husband shoves his credit card to me for all my shopping, but he never buys me a gift. That makes sense to you?


mummyjoyce, I know some men are like that. I once had a pen-pal who would send me gifts all the way from London, including jewellery, and I had to write him to stop. It is their love language, I suppose. I guess we just have to accept the way people are. But I can't help hoping that one day he (meaning my DH) would surprise me. When the day comes, I'll remember post a message here..