How can I get my husband to buy me something?

[concern2]

sleepy - you're a lucky gal!


My husband won't even remember mine! I have to remind him to buy me a birthday cake on the day itself (always gives him a chance that he'd remember) since I know my kids would want to celebrate birthday for me - they always ask when my birthday is after I celebrate theirs/my husbands'. (Aren't they sweet?) :love:

Well, the closest I had was last year's birthday when he came back with the kids with a bouquet of flowers (on top of the birthday cake that I made him buy for me). But it was the kids who chose the flowers, not him. It just feels different.

[sleepy]

concern2:

sleepy - you're a lucky gal!


My husband won't even remember mine! I have to remind him to buy me a birthday cake on the day itself

I sent email to his office to remind him to apply leave on my birthday, 2 months in advance

[concern2]

As if there’ll be a chance that I don’t like the item and he could just blame it on the person who decides on it? That kind of low-risk taker?

[concern2]

Sleepy! I know what you mean! I even thought have to put a reminder message in his handphone to remind him for this years! but it is still different..if you know what I mean...

[vicki]

How to??


For me, i will just ask dh for his atm card n i buy myself!!

[concern2]

Vicky, my husband shoves his credit card to me for all my shopping, but he never buys me a gift. That makes sense to you?


mummyjoyce, I know some men are like that. I once had a pen-pal who would send me gifts all the way from London, including jewellery, and I had to write him to stop. It is their love language, I suppose. I guess we just have to accept the way people are. But I can't help hoping that one day he (meaning my DH) would surprise me. When the day comes, I'll remember post a message here..

[concern2]

hahaha! It just hit me, why didn’t I choose to marry my pen-pal instead? Well, I just didn’t love my pen-pal the way I love my DH…

[foreverj]

concern2:

Foreverj, over the years, I have 'showered' him with little gifts here and there, non-expensive ones since we are both budget conscious. He values them, and I know he feels deeply when I do when he hugs me :love:

but he never returns that gesture...

He's ever mentioned to me that he was afraid I wouldn't like what he buys, but I told him it doesn't matter, but he would still end up bringing me to a shop or departmental store, which really, to me, defeats the purpose. I'd usually turn and go without anything. Really such a low-risk taker, is he, huh? :x

hmm, maybe your dh just needs a knock on the head :lol: (just kidding)it seems actually what u need is very simple. just a surprise present chosen by him, doesn't even need to be expensive. he must be quite \"dazed\" not to understand that. if its my dh, this kind of \"no need spend a bomb also can make wife happy\" kind of thing, he sure do one.

dun mind me, is your dh an engineer?

[foreverj]

sleepy:

I'm SAHM so hubby paid for all my expenses. Perhaps that's why he doesn't feel there's a need to buy extra gifts since I'm holding supplementary cards to all his credit cards & can buy anything I fancy.

me SAHM for a while and now income not substantial. so no longer has the ability to buy little gifts for him now and then. i dun use supp card from him since i stil hold on to my own credit cards - my last bit of pride n sign of independence for myself :roll: but every mth, if accumulate too much credit, wil pass the bill to him

sleepy:

But the point is we ladies like surprises. Gifts need not be expensive :love:

absolutely! but come to think of it, since we had dd n she's become more matured these days, my priviledge has been diverted to become hers

[foreverj]

mummyjoyce:

I am sorry but my problem is HOW to stop my hubby from buying me things!!! He loves to buy me stuffs that I dont need:frustrated:

Bags, shoes, watches, handphones - I prefer to choose myself :x

haha, mummyjoyce, luckily nowadays can sell secondhand stuff off on internet..