How to stop our kids from being 'rude'?
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Well, I tend to be matter of fact.
If the disabled person is/was within earshot I’d apologize to him/her. Then I’d walk off, and later explain to my DD exactly the truth. Eg. old age, born with disability, accidents, etc. I try to engage her EQ, where possible… and also explain that it is not nice to say out loud.
I don’t really see this as "rude" by the way. It’s a simple case of lack of awareness. Even we adults routinely demonstrate much "rudeness" due to lack of awareness, esp. with regards to religion, race, etc. -
Hi jedamum, thanks for the reminder. My gals are K1 (4.5yo) and N1(3yo). Both equally ‘curious’ but K1 was the verbal one in this incident.
ks2me, will try the W trick… hopefully she will remember… -
Sashimi, I do explain the truth to her and has reminded her many times that it is not nice to say out loud. And I do apologize to the person…
I just need an effective way for her not to repeat it once she sees a ‘new’ situation by letting her curiosity get the better of her… thankfully, when she sees a ‘previous’ handicap which she is aware of she does not comment directly already, but may make some comments when we have left the scene…
haiz… -
jedamum:
actually it is really helpful if we can state in our profile which year our kids are born in (under the no. of kids info - check out how i did it) so that we need not scroll to the newbie page everytime we need understand how old the kid is before commenting... (community getting bigger, you see.
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Great suggestion, jedamum! We have included optional fields for parents to state the sex and birthdays of their children, plus a mandatory field for parents to provide a quick intro of themselves, so this will make it much easier for others to understand better the context of each poster's questions. All new registrants will have to fill this in, and I would strongly encourage our old birds to voluntarily go in and fill in that info too. The User Profile or Accounts Settings page will become more and more important as we introduce new social networking features to KiasuParents.com. -
jedamum:
:celebrate: Hurray, Jedamum, u voice out wha I am thinking! ya is really troublesome if we keep scroll to the newbie page or keep asking again and again...actually it is really helpful if we can state in our profile which year our kids are born in (under the no. of kids info - check out how i did it) so that we need not scroll to the newbie page everytime we need understand how old the kid is before commenting... (community getting bigger, you see.
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so how old is your kid?
Cfkiasu, thanks for doing this for us! :rahrah: -
RRMummy:
In this case, if you ask me, you're both totally on the right track! Don't worry too much.... thankfully, when she sees a 'previous' handicap which she is aware of she does not comment directly already, but may make some comments when we have left the scene...
haiz...
Education of this sort takes a bit of time, it won't happen overnight. That's why there's this phrase \"growing awareness\".
At age 4.5 a child is only really just beginning to understand the concept of inter-social spaces (eg, that other people have feelings and needs). If she's already capable of what you say above, I'd say by age 6 she will be conscious of saying the wrong thing - maybe even overly so. I think you needn't worry too much. Keep what you're doing, and play by ear from case to case, after some time, the \"problem\" should go away.
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Thank you for the assurance, sashimi. Sure hope to get out of these paiseh situation soon..
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ChiefKiasu:
CKS ..... I just updated mine !jedamum:
actually it is really helpful if we can state in our profile which year our kids are born in (under the no. of kids info - check out how i did it) so that we need not scroll to the newbie page everytime we need understand how old the kid is before commenting... (community getting bigger, you see.
)...
Great suggestion, jedamum! We have included optional fields for parents to state the sex and birthdays of their children, plus a mandatory field for parents to provide a quick intro of themselves, so this will make it much easier for others to understand better the context of each poster's questions. All new registrants will have to fill this in, and I would strongly encourage our old birds to voluntarily go in and fill in that info too. The User Profile or Accounts Settings page will become more and more important as we introduce new social networking features to KiasuParents.com. -
Emelyn:
...CKS ..... I just updated mine !
Wah... your Profile describes yourself as... \"lady driver rushing through traffic\"... that's more scary than the ghosts I've been reading about. Better get out of your way! -
ChiefKiasu:
Bo bian.... everyday must rush here and there.Emelyn:
...CKS ..... I just updated mine !
Wah... your Profile describes yourself as... \"lady driver rushing through traffic\"... that's more scary than the ghosts I've been reading about. Better get out of your way!
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