All About Teaching Values

[hugeclaw]

How do parents handle peer influence? My son is in K2, I’m quite concerned abt the friends he hangs around with. He has this classmate whom he’s quite close to…and he relates this recent incident to me.

During the arts enrichment class…
This little friend is pretty restless and moves around too much, thus the teacher commented "______, I’m tired at shouting at you to stay still, pls sit down!"
His response "Tired? Then go and sleep lor!"
When my son told me abt this, I couldn’t help but laughed with him also. But after the joke, realised that other than telling him respect for teacher is very important, you can be cheeky but respect for people is the most basic manner one should have.
So far, my son still quite well behave but with the little naughty stories everyday, I just can’t help worrying abt the influence…haha!

[buds]

insider:

(then I went to ask one of the shop owners and he gladly told me can take and don’t need to ask. I took two boxes and went to aside, brought out a key to slice the tape to flatten the boxes. BTW, women working in the childcare line are usually very versatile and 'creative' people who can work as good as men. Bud will agree.)

YES! Hear! Hear!
Thick skin not so nice leh...
Wuakakakakakah! :lol:

We are not shy to ask for help
and also assistance for the benefit
of others, in our case insider... its
usually to benefit our children in the
centre at least cost or NO COST lagi
best. Now... \"asking\" - is the best thing
in life which is free.

insider... i can hear inside your son's heart
screaming... karaaaang goooonnneeee!

Btw, i do what you did with my girls too... when
the teachable moments arise. Those moments
are priceless. You never know when it will come
about again...

[jedamum]

hugeclaw:

How do parents handle peer influence?

to start with, a lot of work to be done on honing self esteem and creating a trusting and warm family for the kid to turn to is a way to play down peer influence (ie family's opinion matters more than friends).

all the while i had emphasize in my upbringing about the need to tackle peer influence at its initial stage (buying into cartoon merchandising is a form of peer pressure akin to idol-chasing). however, recently i read somewhere (Today's papers) that certain degree of peer pressure is actually good. the disregard of peer pressure on the extreme side will turn the kid into a low performer.

the key is to try to get the kid to mix with the 'correct' peers.

[buds]

I agree.


My girls especially the younger one,
can say our slogan well, \"family first\".

[RRMummy]

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Haloo KSPs, a little story on values to share with all..

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said, 'My son, the battle is between 'two wolves' inside us all.

'One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt,
resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.'

'The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence,
empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.'

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, 'Which wolf wins?'

The old Cherokee simply replied, 'The one you feed.'

:celebrate:

[ChiefKiasu]

RRMummy:

... One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people...

Wow... this is super chim. But I like! :love: Thanks for sharing, RRMummy!

[RRMummy]

good hor..glad u like it! I'll find chance to pass this story to my gals.. :love:

[Bowie]

Hi ALL,


Need some tips from u…

My gal is all what mi and my hubby wish for as a kid who is cheerful, outgoing and smart.

But she is rather strong headed (just like me) and do not admit mistake (not like mi) even though I know after my explaination, she know she is wrong.

The courage to admit mistake and moved on is a value I strongly hold. And knowing my gal soft approach is a better strategy to bring this idea across.

Any experience to share?

I am looking for story books which try to educate values to young kids. Any recommendation??

[Miracle Child]

RRMummy:

Haloo KSPs, a little story on values to share with all..


One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said, 'My son, the battle is between 'two wolves' inside us all.

'One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt,
resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.'

'The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence,
empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.'

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, 'Which wolf wins?'

The old Cherokee simply replied, 'The one you feed.'

:celebrate:

Hi RRMummy,

Thanks for sharing this story with us. Told it to my son and his behaviour seems to have improved i.e. he is demonstrating higher EQ these two days. :celebrate: Hope this continues.... :xedfingers:

[sesame]

Bowie:

Hi ALL,


Need some tips from u....

My gal is all what mi and my hubby wish for as a kid who is cheerful, outgoing and smart.

But she is rather strong headed (just like me) and do not admit mistake (not like mi) even though I know after my explaination, she know she is wrong.

The courage to admit mistake and moved on is a value I strongly hold. And knowing my gal soft approach is a better strategy to bring this idea across.

Any experience to share?

I am looking for story books which try to educate values to young kids. Any recommendation??

Hi Bowie
My DD is like yours. She doesn't like to say sorry when it comes to behavioural mistakes. However, she readily says sorry when accidents happens like she spills the water, she knocks into us etc. I think her pride was stopping her. I got her books, Blue's Clues \"I am Sorry\" to shown that saying sorry is fine etc. No much effect.

I used to get really mad and really go on and on abt her refusing to say sorry. That would get everyone upset.

Now, I explain to her the situation, I asked her what she should do and ask her to \"think it out\". She reacts better to this.