All About Full-Time Maids

[janet88]

There was once I desperately needed to get rid of the present maid and replace her with another as she was literally on my nerves. When the maid is sent back to agency, she is still considered under my employment…so my application for another maid was put on hold. I called MOM and spoke to an officer to explain the situation…told her that I didn’t want to face the maid anymore or she will drive me up the wall & I’ll be charged with maid abuse.

After this call, the agency told me at the end of the day that my application was successful and I sent the stubborn maid back. So very very relieved.

[Angelight]

Hi Minnie,


I learnt my lesson the hard way too. Despite giving my previous maid alot of chances despite her many careless mistakes and bad attitude, she still wanted a transfer and didn't even care to wait until I get a replacement. :x

But if you don't bring the maid out on weekends when you go out as a family, wouldn't leaving her at home be more worrisome cos you don't know what she would be up to, going thru your stuff etc.

And when you go on family vacations, where do you place the maid if you don't bring her along?

minnie2004:

I have learned my lessons not to treat them like family members ever since my first maid. No matter how well we treated them, they eventually left for greener pasture - all three of them left for Europe after just one year. So for our current one, we are giving her fewer perks such as phone cards, pocket money, and not let her sleep in our aircon guest room. We also don't take her out as often and go on holidays w/o her (partially it's b/c our kids r bigger now). They r after all, workers, not family.

[janet88]

Angelight,

I wanted to leave my maid at home whenever we went out but hubby was concerned she would be going through our stuff. Ok fine, bring her out but literally dragging her feet as she walked. :x I pretended not to know or see.

My friend didn’t have the habit of bringing maids out except to supermarket. Guess what, her maid told her she had stomachache or headache when she told her to go…because she didn’t want to carry anything.

[minnie2004]

Angelight:

Hi Minnie,


I learnt my lesson the hard way too. Despite giving my previous maid alot of chances despite her many careless mistakes and bad attitude, she still wanted a transfer and didn't even care to wait until I get a replacement.

But if you don't bring the maid out on weekends when you go out as a family, wouldn't leaving her at home be more worrisome cos you don't know what she would be up to, going thru your stuff etc.

And when you go on family vacations, where do you place the maid if you don't bring her along? .

Hi angelight, we left her at home when we go for vacation this time (even though she's been with us for less than a 2 months) as I don't want to feel like I have to take care of a 3rd child :P. When our kids were smaller, we used to take our maids to most of our vacations. Now that ds is 4 and dd is 6, we can cope w/o a maid. Bringing her along only adds extra burden for us. Also, we can finally enjoy some privacy
We make her a list of things to do like washing the curtains, cleaning the ceiling fan etc to keep her busy. Also, dh bought a camera which we can see what's going on in the house by calling a number. So she won't do anything crazy.

[jennykhots]

I knew a girlfriend (we happe to be working in the same office buidling)who hit the quota. She was a HK and I think she has very high expectations. I remembered her telling me that she only leave a loaf of plain bread for the maid to eat when she did not complete her household chores. Then again, I do not really know her well so I can’t comment much. But definitely we need to be very compassionate to our maids especially we are mothers of kids too. That’s all I can say!

[janet88]

jennykhots:

I knew a girlfriend (we happe to be working in the same office buidling)who hit the quota. She was a HK and I think she has very high expectations. I remembered her telling me that she only leave a loaf of plain bread for the maid to eat when she did not complete her household chores.

Hi, my gf who is presently staying in HKG told me HKG employers are very strict with their maids...they have high expectations and if the maid doesn't perform, OFF they go. Her neighbour there does not even provide a proper bed even though there is a room for a maid.
Maids in HKG are supposed to know how to do marketing (the stallholders in HKG are very fierce), bring children to and fro tuition and housework (very little since the house is small).

[skydreamer]

Hi everyone, recently husband and I are considering to put hidden camera(s) at home to monitor our maid. Our maid take care of our little baby. Are there cameras that are really hidden and won’t be discovered by maid? I don’t wish our maid to know that we are suspicious of her because we want to keep to good relationship with her.

[thinking]

Hi Skydreamer...


Same here...thinking of camera at home but need more information...u too, don't have adults at home to help supervise??? :shock:

[skydreamer]

I have my parents-in-law at home to supervise actually. But my parents-in-law are busy taking care of my elder one; they may not pay attention to my younger one. Sometimes they bring the elder one go downstairs to play or to the market and left my younger one at home with my maid. And my maid usually go into my bedroom to play with the younger one and close the door to bring baby to sleep.

[janet88]

skydreamer:

I have my parents-in-law at home to supervise actually. But my parents-in-law are busy taking care of my elder one; they may not pay attention to my younger one. Sometimes they bring the elder one go downstairs to play or to the market and left my younger one at home with my maid. And my maid usually go into my bedroom to play with the younger one and close the door to bring baby to sleep.

Your in-laws will usually attend to the older one while maid looks after the baby ? Does maid do housework when the baby is asleep or uses baby as an excuse not to do anything ?