All About Full-Time Maids

[minnie2004]

janet_lee88:

fionong:

From my point of view, I definitely won't lock my maid at home and will give her certain amount of freedom as long as she notify us her whereabout. Pardon my impudence, Maids are here to work for us we have no right to \"imprison\" them. It all depend on the maids attitude and how we \"brainwash\" them.

I wouldn't say I'm imprisoning my maid. She has a job to do and that is to do housework and look after kids/aged. That is not imprisoning her. My hubby picks/sends kids to school. We brought her out whevever we go.
What reason does the maid have to be out of the house, unless she has to go marketing and sending/picking kids from school. If not, there is absolutely no reason for her to leave the house.

Agree there's no reason the maid should leave the house unless she has jobs to do. But it's hard to monitor if she's left alone at home. During the school holiday, we went on vacation and she was left at home. How would we know if she's not out every day to chat with her friends? One day my DH came back from golf and my maid wasn't in the house. He called her and she said she's downstairs chatting with one of the maids :x

Can we actually tell her specifically that she can't leave the house without our permission :?

[janet88]

minnie2004:

janet_lee88:

[quote=\"fionong\"]From my point of view, I definitely won't lock my maid at home and will give her certain amount of freedom as long as she notify us her whereabout. Pardon my impudence, Maids are here to work for us we have no right to \"imprison\" them. It all depend on the maids attitude and how we \"brainwash\" them.

I wouldn't say I'm imprisoning my maid. She has a job to do and that is to do housework and look after kids/aged. That is not imprisoning her. My hubby picks/sends kids to school. We brought her out whevever we go.
What reason does the maid have to be out of the house, unless she has to go marketing and sending/picking kids from school. If not, there is absolutely no reason for her to leave the house.

Agree there's no reason the maid should leave the house unless she has jobs to do. One day my DH came back from golf and my maid wasn't in the house. He called her and she said she's downstairs chatting with one of the maids :x
Can we actually tell her specifically that she can't leave the house without our permission :?[/quote]Yes you can tell the maid she is not to leave the house without permission but after doing so, she not shiok already. But you have every right to tell her so.

[MintyMin]

Mine lagi worst… as my unit’s door and neighbour’s door is side by side, maid will open wooden door pretend to clean door n yakking wif neighbour’s maid… once my mum appeared… v bz wipping door while my youngest girl was at the gate… the neighbour’s maid will quickly greet my mum loudly to prewarn my maid tat my mum is here…


so i think even if u stop them for gg out, they will find means n ways to chat lor…

[gumiho]

** Without Prejudice **


Perhaps my point of view are different from others.

I agreed there are maids who are here for an eye opening or have fun however there are also maids who are here to work hard for their families. If our maid is a self-discipline person, I see no reason why she cannot chit chat with other maids. This also depend on the bonding and trust. My maid will always share with me what other maids told her.

Well.... I totally agree that the maid shouldn't step out of the house without any reason. But if she need to go marketing or send our kids to school, do you forbid her from talking to other maids ? If I put myself in her shoes, I will not stop her from talking to other maids and if your maid is a self-discipline person I don't think she dare to chit chat with other maids during your presence. I feel that everyone needs friends, someone to share our happiness or pour out our woes. Even we can get emotional sometime and so do they but who can they speak to ? I don't think by letting them calling their family once a month for merely 30mins to 1hrs are enough for them to pour out their heart.

Frankly speaking, we are also afraid that our maid will gossip with others about our family affair. There a saying \"Don't wash dirty linen in the public\". But we can only refrain them from doing so but we can't stop them. Sometime we also gossip with others about our maids.....so vice versa. I find that locking the maid at home will only make her more emotional and might lead to her create havoc in your house. Because she got no one to speak to heartedly therefore she outburst.

Kindness beget kindness. :celebrate:

[DesertWind]

Agree.

:goodpost:

fionong:

** Without Prejudice **

Perhaps my point of view are different from others.

I agreed there are maids who are here for an eye opening or have fun however there are also maids who are here to work hard for their families. If our maid is a self-discipline person, I see no reason why she cannot chit chat with other maids. This also depend on the bonding and trust. My maid will always share with me what other maids told her.

Well.... I totally agree that the maid shouldn't step out of the house without any reason. But if she need to go marketing or send our kids to school, do you forbid her from talking to other maids ? If I put myself in her shoes, I will not stop her from talking to other maids and if your maid is a self-discipline person I don't think she dare to chit chat with other maids during your presence. I feel that everyone needs friends, someone to share our happiness or pour out our woes. Even we can get emotional sometime and so do they but who can they speak to ? I don't think by letting them calling their family once a month for merely 30mins to 1hrs are enough for them to pour out their heart.

Frankly speaking, we are also afraid that our maid will gossip with others about our family affair. There a saying \"Don't wash dirty linen in the public\". But we can only refrain them from doing so but we can't stop them. Sometime we also gossip with others about our maids.....so vice versa. I find that locking the maid at home will only make her more emotional and might lead to her create havoc in your house. Because she got no one to speak to heartedly therefore she outburst.

Kindness beget kindness. :celebrate:

[moonee]

DesertWind:

Agree.

:goodpost:

fionong:

** Without Prejudice **

Perhaps my point of view are different from others.

I agreed there are maids who are here for an eye opening or have fun however there are also maids who are here to work hard for their families. If our maid is a self-discipline person, I see no reason why she cannot chit chat with other maids. This also depend on the bonding and trust. My maid will always share with me what other maids told her.

Well.... I totally agree that the maid shouldn't step out of the house without any reason. But if she need to go marketing or send our kids to school, do you forbid her from talking to other maids ? If I put myself in her shoes, I will not stop her from talking to other maids and if your maid is a self-discipline person I don't think she dare to chit chat with other maids during your presence. I feel that everyone needs friends, someone to share our happiness or pour out our woes. Even we can get emotional sometime and so do they but who can they speak to ? I don't think by letting them calling their family once a month for merely 30mins to 1hrs are enough for them to pour out their heart.

Frankly speaking, we are also afraid that our maid will gossip with others about our family affair. There a saying \"Don't wash dirty linen in the public\". But we can only refrain them from doing so but we can't stop them. Sometime we also gossip with others about our maids.....so vice versa. I find that locking the maid at home will only make her more emotional and might lead to her create havoc in your house. Because she got no one to speak to heartedly therefore she outburst.

Kindness beget kindness. :celebrate:

I would say....\"different strokes for different folks\" In my case, my past and present maid/maids woudl definitely be a better person if they were locked up. :lol:

[janet88]

My maids are never locked up in that sense. When we go out, she goes along. She will then have chances to chat with others.

As for talking about our family affairs, we can't stop them. There's nothing we can do about it.

I had a maid who washed my car while having another maid's company. That maid stayed on 3rd floor and so they had to shout to be heard. I was pissed because my maid's voice could be heard.

The one and only maid who didn't gossip with others was my first maid. She doesn't want to mix with others because they brainwash her and ask about my family and teach her to complain and compare. She is the one maid who is the most sensible I've ever had. :love:

[hquek]

Weighing on the issue of chit chat, I agree it’s impossible for us to control the maid until she cannot speak with others - such a maid may think we’re stupid to try.


My maid don’t have to do marketing etc but she did have a friend from downstairs with whom she’ll chat. I find it ok as long as that friend don’t come into the house.

We need to chat with others to relieve pressure, to offload stuff. I rather have one that chat (don’t have to tell me what they talk about) than one who quietly turns crazy.

My ex-maid, I thought she didn’t have friends. Somehow she manage to chat with next door maid when she hangs clothes outside…they have ways and means to chat if they want to.

[janet88]

hquek:

Weighing on the issue of chit chat, I agree it's impossible for us to control the maid until she cannot speak with others - such a maid may think we're stupid to try.


We need to chat with others to relieve pressure, to offload stuff. I rather have one that chat (don't have to tell me what they talk about) than one who quietly turns crazy.

I'm not against them chatting...they are humans too. But as long as they do so nicely like not shouting across and hogging the handphone, I'm fine.

[hquek]

janet_lee88:

hquek:

Weighing on the issue of chit chat, I agree it's impossible for us to control the maid until she cannot speak with others - such a maid may think we're stupid to try.


We need to chat with others to relieve pressure, to offload stuff. I rather have one that chat (don't have to tell me what they talk about) than one who quietly turns crazy.

I'm not against them chatting...they are humans too. But as long as they do so nicely like not shouting across and hogging the handphone, I'm fine.

Agree, I think the shouting part is a bit OTT. Very funny to watch also.

I've not seen my maid in action, but she would have been talking diagonally downwards 1/2 floors. Not sure if they use sign language or something, but I don't think it's very loud type.