All About Full-Time Maids

[DesertWind]

duriz:

MIL treated one of our previous so well that when I tried to correct the stubborn mule's mistakes, she said to me:\"Ah Ma treats me like her daughter but you always scold me!\"

Hi duriz,

Agree that other family members should not treat the maid TOO well such that it spoils the maid and cause problems for the employer. For eg. my brother said we should let my 3-week old maid go out for off days, go embassy etc.. to \"look see, look see\" instead of never going out dunno anything. I replied the maid is not here for a holiday, furthermore we have already paid her in-lieu of off days. So long we are not ill-treating the maid no need to go overboard with certain things. Especially when new.

[janet88]

My first maid was from Central Java…she is a great cook although she can polish off a bottle of peanut butter and strawberry jam in 3 weeks all by herself. She worked for me for 1 1/2 years…the maids after her are simply hopeless…gossip mongers, out to enjoy life and compare with one another.


I agree with DesertWind that maids (esp new) should not be spoiled or they take for granted. Family members shouldn’t spoil the maid or the employer will have a hard time.

[hquek]

duriz:

Just to illustrate: MIL treated one of our previous so well that when I tried to correct the stubborn mule's mistakes, she said to me:\"Ah Ma treats me like her daughter but you always scold me!\"

well, if she dun do anything wrong, you wouldn't have scolded her. Gosh....she here to find 'gan-ma' izit?

[hquek]

LKVM:

I really wish gahman can allow us to legally have PT maid to come in the morning and go in the evening like work for 7-8 hrs then by the time we go bac they r no longer to give their face oredi.. guess we will have better lives no HP issues no bf issues :love: :love:

Very true. I really don't care if my maid falls in love and gets pregnant...NGO want me to treat her like adult (can fall in love etc) but gahmen say I will kena if she gives birth here. :?: :?:

[janet88]

Govt said maids are humans and so teach them to ask for rights…that’s why these maids ask for transfer the moment they are unhappy with their employers. Give Filipino maids off days, then if they pregnant and found out, they go home. Or else get involved with security guards at condos or Pakistani workers.

[kanyaramesh]

duriz:

LKVM:

[quote=\"fionong\"]Well..... I believe employing a maid depend all on our luck.

We spend so much time and money on them still should have lucky genes to have good maid :stupid:

Sadly.
We've had ONE good maid and 6 horrendous ones.
I cannot even begin to get into their \"antics\" here.
Nonetheless, we currently have a local PT maid come in the morning.
But she will be going away in December to help someone with her confinement, as she is a confinement lady as well. Cannot break her ricebowl, she does make more money being a confinement lady than helping us PT everyday.
I may very well quit my job and become a SAHM again instead of getting a new FT maid.
Just to illustrate: MIL treated one of our previous so well that when I tried to correct the stubborn mule's mistakes, she said to me:\"Ah Ma treats me
like her daughter but you always scold me!\" :x My retort: \"I hired youhere to work, not to have Ah MA fall in love with you and make you family. Do
you think I go out everyday for a massage and tea with the ladies? I go out to work so you can get your pay every month!\" :x[/quote]
I too had one good maid and six terrible ones. At present I am maid-less. Am so scarred by these maids I am terrified of getting another one. At present managing full-time work, ds and cooking. Dh keeps telling me to get another maid but I think I need to do a maid detox for a while. Does anyone have a good maid to recommend?

[janet88]

Honestly I prefer Indonesian ones than Filipino. Filipino die die must have off day. I had one good maid and 2 lousy ones during the 4 years...terribly scarred by the last one.


During those years when I had Indon maids, we ate mainly chicken since they can't eat pork. My brother even bought chicken pau and thought of them when we had meals outside...so what, these maids never appreciate. Agency always tells me, if we eat pork on days, tell the maid to cook noodles, or else fry an egg...also don't start the habit of giving them teabreaks or they will expect. It's SO true

[mrswongtuition]

My family treat all our maids very well, be it new or not.


The difference between a good maid and a not so good maid:
Good maids KNOW that they are treated well and appreciate it. They will work very hard knowing that we will be good to them. They will not want to change employers cos they know they may not meet a good one next.

Not so good maids will just laze around the house. Take everything for granted and take short cuts. If they ask to leave, just let them leave.


We prefer ex-Msia maids cos usually they are not treated very well in Msia. So when they come here, they are more appreciative. And after working in Msia, I would say most of them are very well-trained by the Msian families.

[janet88]

mrswongtuition:

My family treat all our maids very well, be it new or not.


The difference between a good maid and a not so good maid:
Good maids KNOW that they are treated well and appreciate it. They will work very hard knowing that we will be good to them. They will not want to change employers cos they know they may not meet a good one next.

Not so good maids will just laze around the house. Take everything for granted and take short cuts. If they ask to leave, just let them leave.

Very well said...so true.
My first maid really appreciated us. She deserved the bonus at the end. I also bought her an air-ticket nearer home so that she didn't have to travel so long...until now, she still keeps in contact with me...smses me on my birthday as well as other family members like my mum. :love:
This maid even cleaned my mum's place on eve of CNY without having to ask her.

Not so good ones will laze, gossip and take what they are given for granted. The Lampung maid I had goes to my mum's place...lifts up the pot covers to see what is cooked without fail :x after ironing my clothes at home, she disappears into one corner to sleep :x talks back every time :x and on eve of CNY asked me why is there a need to clean the floor.

[hquek]

janet_lee88:

Govt said maids are humans and so teach them to ask for rights...that's why these maids ask for transfer the moment they are unhappy with their employers. Give Filipino maids off days, then if they pregnant and found out, they go home. Or else get involved with security guards at condos or Pakistani workers.

All this honestly I dun care - why should it matter to me as an employer that a maid doesn't want to work for me, or if a maid wants to get preg by a boyfriend who happens to have a hometown hundreds of miles away? only problem is that employers have to assume at least 2-3K loan on behalf of the maid.

If this is taken away, honestly I am sure that no employer will put up with a maid that can't perform.

I know some pp say that employers should just pay all the maid fee...but then have they met any maid who just come here for holiday?