toddler staying overnight at other's place?

[chatelaine]

My hubby has been the \"bad guy\" but somehow my DD still wants him to make her go to bed instead of me = (

janet_lee88:

Hi w_y_chung,
Regarding discipline, I've been the 'bad guy' since my kids were born. As a SAHM, I've got to be the baddie. However, hubby & I have the same stand.

[janet88]

My hubby gets to be the good guy, and he has to stay that way…ie if he raises his voice, the kids don’t quite accept it bcos he has always been their playmate.


Personally I don’t quite understand why w_y_chung’s daughter is willing to sleep with her uncle and his wife. Usually kids are sticky to their parents come bedtime. My daughter will stick to me at 9pm…refusing everyone.

[Fettuccine]

chatelaine:

I totally agree with carebear opinion.


I wouldn't want my girl to spend the night sleeping with err... man/couple. Who knows what they will do to her.

carebear:

hi wy chung, i personally do not like my kids to spend the night at anyone's house even if it is a relative's. I would definitely disapprove of a toddler staying overnight at someone's place as it is unlikely that the decision is hers and for all the reasons that you have mentioned, especially she is a girl! It is definitely unappropriate for her to share the bedroom with the married couple as you won't know what the couple did in the room, even if they did nothing to her.

I just read your discussion here, I too, think that its not right for a young toddler to stay overnight with other people including male relatives.
Toddlers are still too young understand and tell you anything in case if abuse occurs.

[janet88]

Hi w_y_chung,

Can I suggest you have a talk with your MIL regarding staying over ?
Since your wife is unable to decide, it’s best that you have a heart-to-heart talk with your MIL. Honestly, I find it difficult to accept a toddler sleeping on the bed with a married couple other than her/his own parents.

[atrecord]

Now that I read the parts that:


- the kid sleeps with a couple
- the aunt bathes her

then yes, actually not too appropriate.

My kids would sleep on their own, whether at home, or at my parents’ place. We have conditioned them to sleep on their own from about the age of 3.

They can actually bathe themselves since they do so at the childcare, but we bathed them until about 5 yr old. we still bathe them if they are not feeling well, just in case they catch a chill.

[janet88]

It’s inappropriate that the kids sleeps with the couple and aunt bathing her…well, I understand w_y_chung is upset for the right reasons.