Who just started having maid at home w kids without adults?
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luvmum:
Agree that maid thing is 'heng' or 'sway'. For me, I am also not comfortable to leave my kids with maid alone. However lucky for me, when my 2 older kids were 7 and 5 yrs old, I went back to stay with my mum and my mum's maid is very good. In the morning, everyone went out for work (including my parents), so I leave my 2 kids with my mum's maid.If this is giving you more worry than peace, you might want to consider either placing them at a good childcare or quit to look after. That happens to me and I choose latter since I've 2 children, one at childcare age, another student care age and I can't find a centre that have both... :?
I know one of my colleague have been leaving her bb to the maid since newborn till now. Her child is now 6 years old. Maid affair, is really 'heng' or 'sway'. I asked her before how she can do that, she replied 'No choice, just open one eye and close one eye so long as the bb is safe end of the day'. Not everyone can do it, need to assess on individual's comfort level though. :spank:
My mum's maid is still working for my mum now. My older girl still misses her at times. If now, want me to leave my youngest girl (2yrs) with her alone, I am perfectly o.k. My mum's maid is like a friend to me now.
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I would NOT leave my younger child alone at home with the maid, if I can help it. The reason is as a SAHM, it is so tiring and frustrating when my child refuses to take a nap, throws a tantrum or is just plain difficult. I shudder at what a maid (someone without blood relations) could do in such situations.
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My mum leaves the maid to care for my sis during the day. We have a cctv but switched the lights off. She was never told about the cctv, but doesnt do odd things, except yakking on our HOUSE phone allllll day long, no wonderour 4 handsets always run outta battery… i do not trust maids, but my mum does… cctv is still nevertheless used… 1 in liv’g room and one in their bedroom. There used to be one in mine but i got annoyed as i didn’t like the feeling of being "spied" on - i found it in a secluded spot, and my maid doesn’ really go into my room so there’s no point… just wasting electricity bills…
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Hi…a newbie here…
I have a helper and i leave my 2 kids with her while my hubby and me goes out to work. I understand and aware that this is a tough decision to make but we have no choice as we both do not have any mums anymore and other siblings are already so tied up with their own family. Called my home a few times a day to make all is well. The only thing we learn to make her keep on her toes is that we never inform her when we are coming home, when we are on leave, and others… If she knows the timing and our schedule, she will slack in between and god knows what will happen at home
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Hi Swit Cuppies
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Swit Cuppies:
The only thing we learn to make her keep on her toes is that we never inform her when we are coming home, when we are on leave, and others.. If she knows the timing and our schedule, she will slack in between and god knows what will happen at home
oh don't bank on that. Very soon, she'll learn to read your cues (like when you discuss holiday plans), and also learn your habits (what time to what time safe).
But yes, as much as possible keep her in the dark. I honestly don't see why she has to know so much. -
I did. Recently my maid told me she left the stove fire on and rushed off to fetch my kid from school. Almost there than remembered she did not switch off the fire! Yikes! Quickly fetch and rushed back thank goodness there was no fire, only the pot was burnt!
When she told me, I said good thing she decided to tell me otherwise I would have thought everything was OK and that she can do no wrong. But actually she may be keeping a lot of things from me.
If possible, do not leave your kids alone with a maid.
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Hi Swit Cuppies
How old are your kids?
My kids are 3 and 2 yrs old.. -
hquek:
lol..its so so true..Swit Cuppies:
The only thing we learn to make her keep on her toes is that we never inform her when we are coming home, when we are on leave, and others.. If she knows the timing and our schedule, she will slack in between and god knows what will happen at home
oh don't bank on that. Very soon, she'll learn to read your cues (like when you discuss holiday plans), and also learn your habits (what time to what time safe).
But yes, as much as possible keep her in the dark. I honestly don't see why she has to know so much.
But as my hubby's work schedule is hectic so he pops back home as and when he likes
Hence due to that she is unable to keep track of it.. -
Maids have to be kept in the dark, so that they cannot plan anything. But they are an intelligent lot…after a while, they will roughly know.
They are DOMESTIC maids & absolutely have no need to know so much. Oh yes, don’t tell your kids either bcos maids are good at extracting info from them, esp the younger ones.
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