Temper Tantrums
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What I do is just ignore. If still dun listen, I grab him and drag him to go. I'm very hard when it comes to discipline...cos I know he can cry for hrs, he can just whine and whine and whine. Until something or someone distract him. It is very frustrating. Because the occurrence is very frequent, one day, he can throw tantrum more than 10 times, and some are just very minor issue. And he can cry for nothing! I mean really nothing lor. Dun give him chocolate, he cry, dun give him cold drink, he cry. He can cry at the slightest thing. Now, when he cry, I just ignore him.
I'm hoping that one day, he will learn.
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This happened yesterday.
My DD2 who is 23 months screamed her head off at Jurong West Swimming Pool becoz she wanted to go into the pool naked. I explained that she couldn't go in unless she was dressed and she was screaming \"Open Pants!\" for a good whole 5 minutes. AFter entertaining the crowd trying to console a half-naked baby, we managed to persuade her to go and buy a new swim suit as we thought she was uncomfortable in her old one. After buying a new suit, my DD who is still half naked(bottom half, i covered with a towel ) got undressed. We thought it was because she wanted to wear her new swimsuit but she was reminded of her original plan of swimming naked :oops: . So here we were struggling with a naked baby, forcing her to dress up and she was screaming her head off\" I don't want!\"
AFter entertaining the crowd again for a good 5 minutes, MY DD2 decided she wanted in on the action and proceeded to run happily to the wave pool to swim. Btw my DD1 is only 3 years old. SO I SCREAMED for her to stop, she merely looked back, smiled and proceeded into the pool. My husband ran to stop her, so I was holding a cranky baby, screaming for my 1st baby and damn scared my husband would fall and not catch my DD1 in time.
He managed to catch hold of her only becoz my DD1 decided at the edge of the pool was the place to wait for her dad to join her...
My DD2 was consoled after i brought her to a wave pool and playing tricks with her and she was okay after that.
Fortunately, i am very thick skinned :oops: :oops: -
I would tell my son that we would go straight home should he throw a tantrum in public. And as parents, we must mean what we say, otherwise the threat is pointless. It drums in the fact that it’s his loss should he misbehave.
Tough love, and a ruthless heart helps. It is also imperative that at least one parent establish the "alpha dog" position. The kid must know who’s boss. There are too many "little emperors" in this generation. -
[quote]Tough love, and a ruthless heart helps. It is also imperative that at least one parent establish the \"alpha dog\" position. The kid must know who's boss. There are too many \"little emperors\" in this generation[/quote]
Well said! :hi5: -
When my boy throws a tantrum and yell, scream his head off, we will try all sorts of distractions ie. TV, humour, music, sing & dance around him etc... If he is fussy and unreasonable (bad mood), my maid will keep very quiet until he gets over it. If it is reasonable ie. he wants something to be done, she will do for him. Other times she will play with him and humor him.
My hubby is also super patient and will talk to him gently and try humor and reasoning on him - at home. Outside, once he started his tantrums, his daddy will carry him like a sack of potatoes or put him on top of his shoulders and walk very quickly! Usually it works to distract him and he will soon stop. If not, we are already at the car and home we go!
Me? At home ignore. I am good at that because I am either concentrating on TV or KSP at the PC (heh...heh...heh)! When I cannot tahan anymore at his unreasonable whining, \"piak piak\" his fat thigh will usually do the trick.
No wise advice here....
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Hi Desertwind,
I wish I can be like you - ignore when DD is throwing tantrums. I'm usually very affected by her screaming and crying especially the unreasonable ones. Usually end up \"piak piak\" her or order her to stand facing the wall. And she would then face the wall and sulk. After a while, when she has calmed down and I have cooled down, I would call her over or go to her and \"sayang\" her. -
\"Piak, piak\", then heart-pain, precious child, then manjar kid. Then tantrum, \"piak piak\" again...the cycle continues.
kee...hee...hee...
Angelight:
...Usually end up \"piak piak\" her or order her to stand facing the wall. And she would then face the wall and sulk. After a while, when she has calmed down and I have cooled down, I would call her over or go to her and \"sayang\" her.
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"Piak, Piak" works wonders. I find if I do it for the major things. Eg. when they dare to scream at grandma and after that explain to them why I had to punish them. They learn and after a while, they also know there is an invisible line that they cannot cross and they know the principles behind why they cannot do it. But at first when they are younger (1 - 3 yrs old), many times, they don’t understand the principle so just have to "piak, piak’ first.
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sorry posted twice :oops:
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concern.mum:
\"Piak, Piak\" works wonders. I find if I do it for the major things. Eg. when they dare to scream at grandma and after that explain to them why I had to punish them. They learn and after a while, they also know there is an invisible line that they cannot cross and they know the principles behind why they cannot do it. But at first when they are younger (1 - 3 yrs old), many times, they don't understand the principle so just have to \"piak, piak' first.
you 'piak piak', you child won't 'piak piak' you back?
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