In-law problems?

[janet88]

Buds,

As much as I try to sleep early, I get more panicky when I can’t. With exams coming up, I have problems sleeping.
Other than preparing breakfast and sending son to school, I do everything else. SO, what’s the big deal ?

Well, hubby bought the irobot so that I don’t have to slave myself sweating over vacuum. I resisted but hubby insisted.

[hquek]

buds:

MIL does not like the idea of her son doing housework. She has this
mentality stuck in her brain that \"I\" MAKE HIM DO housework and it
is not MAN to be that kinda husband. She will carry the tales of
me making him do the housework to my sister in law when she visits
them and says i'm very un-thoughtful... oredi my hubs has to work to
support the family... on rest days... i make him help out when it is MY
job as the the wife to do it. She go on and on with... my poor son..
with wife like that... (etc) ...

During one of our clean ups which i can vividly recall, she suddenly
became so frustrated with our routine fun cleaning... came to me
from the kitchen (while hubs was cleaning the toilet)... blatantly
shouted behind my back (while i was cleaning) amidst the loud
playing music & this was what she said... \"You sure know how
to \"train\" your husband. My son never liked to do housework
and definitely never enjoying it like he is now... singing and
whistling... You're good.\"

Wow, I do envy you for your hubs. Perhaps you should have gently told her and smile, please dun tell sis in law, else she may be jealous and sad HER own hubby don't help her.

[janet88]

I just told hubby I’ve had enough of his family members :x …his sister and sister-in-law who can give me problems when I do not STEP on their feet. Can you beat that ? Can die. Wow lau, his sister-in-law can call me out of the blue and yell at me for nothing. I asked her what the hell is going on. SH!@


Told him his sister needs some discipline…even if having pre-natal blues, she doesn’t have any right to be rude or call names.

[buds]

hquek:

Wow, I do envy you for your hubs. Perhaps you should have gently told her and smile, please dun tell sis in law, else she may be jealous and sad HER own hubby don't help her.

SIL's hubby (BIL) is also the take initiative kind. :love:
Just that SIL is more of a neat freak than i am...
and plus she has her own mother to take care of
her children. Her house is hardly messy and also
they do not cook very often.

[hquek]

janet_lee88:

I just told hubby I've had enough of his family members :x ...his sister and sister-in-law who can give me problems when I do not STEP on their feet. Can you beat that ? Can die. Wow lau, his sister-in-law can call me out of the blue and yell at me for nothing. I asked her what the hell is going on. SH!@

huh? you should get your BIL phone number and transfer call. Should call the bugger who got her into her predicament.

[buds]

janet_lee88:

Told him his sister needs some discipline...even if having pre-natal blues, she doesn't have any right to be rude or call names.

:whut:

I had PNB before... but strangely i may be the introverted blues kind. :laugh:

I sorta kept things to myself... get hurt easily... like can cry on demand kind. :laugh:

Like a bit :siao: like that lar..

Hmm.. :idea: .. mebbe that cud be the reason hubs bo-chap.
He doesn't believe in PNB crap. He thinks it's self-inflicted.
Hormones arh brader! Hormones! :lol: Come to think of it.... :idea:
If i don't hafta even face MIL any time soon after birth, i do
not think i'd get it at all in the 1st place. BIL so smart, told
my MIL even before EDD, his wife needs to rest. He'll call
them when they are ready to receive visitors. (which was
around 2 or 3 weeks after bb's birth)

Wow! Pei-fu! :salute:

He really knows how to jaga his bao-bei wifey.. He says if
curious to know how bb looks, ask youngest BIL to show
them the Facebook pictures. :faint:

So much for the bao-bei favourite son, hor.. :roll:
Look how he treats them.. worse than me.. the so-called
DIL from hell who can never do right by her. :roll: Hmm..
or mebbe there IS such a thing as early retribution? So
that she'd repent? :evil: ..... and... and perhaps finally
and sincerely be nice to me without any motives?

[jasmineong]

Hi buds,


Your MIL sounds like the one from hell…no wonder will have PNB.
I had a small dose of PNB and it also got better as DH did not allow anyone to visit…until I felt better…are you living with you MIL? Can you move away to be away from her?

[buds]

She is. :roll:


You should read from the beginning of this thread.
Yes, from Pg 1. :lol: Then, you'll know how i've
suffered... how my marriage has suffered from
all her nastiness and unnecessary interventions.

Aniwaes, we just shifted abt a mth ago to our own
place after 10 years. I'm lovin' it... :love:

Your hubby is so sweet and understanding. I'm
with #3 coming, my hubs will be more understanding.

[jasmineong]

I started reading and am still reading…it really sounds like a soap opera…I did not read till the part that your DH started to stand up for you, did it happen? I really really appreciate my own MIL and hubbie after reading your story. But now that you have moved out, I believe things will be much better!! I really could not believe it when you wrote about the incident about the cat fur and the one when she took your child out from the ‘blue light’. Aiyoo, my heart really aches when i read that!

[janet88]

I envy those wives who have loving and protective hubbies…protecting them from crazy sisters-in-law or their mothers.