Club Only Child Club

[Brenda10]

Augmum:

Brenda10:

[quote=\"Augmum\"]yes, agree that the child has to earn his/her own $$$ when he/she grows up

but meanwhile, i feel that some impt information shd be made known to her
and that doesn't mean that she can be idling ard, doing nothing

in fact, she already worked out how much money she intends to allocate to us when she works

Hi augmum


Yes. We ever ask dd that in case something happen to us, who will she choose to stay with? also more important thing is life has to go on and don't live in the sadness and the past.

hi brenda
oh...that sort of question.....very sensitive, kids usually like to avoid by saying, \"dunno\" how abt yr child ??[/quote]Hi agumum

May be I consider this is a crisis training. She had told us what is her preference based on her observation she got from those uncles and aunts

[Augmum]

brenda, i think the answer shd be \" stay with mummy, right?\"

[Brenda10]

Augmum:

brenda, i think the answer shd be \" stay with mummy, right?\"

Yes. This is her first answer and those are just contingency plan. :lol:

[Augmum]

AuntieKiasi:

Good for you both.


Actually, our intention is for our only child to b financially independent. We have been telling him \"he has to earn his own keep\". He would also have to has his own savings. Hubby & I actually have an agreement. We would let him know abt all those $ stuff after he has his own family or b4 our last breath.

thks for yr sharing...
yes, the child still has to work and learn to save, despite parents already provided some \"basics\" for him/her......

[krazy]

it is very important to let our kiddo know that things / comfort / life / etc doesn't just drop off the sky.


Parents work (damn) hard for a lot of things that they are already enjoying and they should appreciate what ever they have. Some times, my girl needs to be reminded that a car doesn't come \"naturally\" with any families. Or not every family gets to go for holidays to faraway places so she is thankful.

[sakura_2009]

krazy:

it is very important to let our kiddo know that things / comfort / life / etc doesn't just drop off the sky.


Parents work (damn) hard for a lot of things that they are already enjoying and they should appreciate what ever they have. Some times, my girl needs to be reminded that a car doesn't come \"naturally\" with any families. Or not every family gets to go for holidays to faraway places so she is thankful.

Honestly I don't think my kid will really appreciate what he is enjoying right now...As parents, we can keep reminding them that they should appreciate what they have right now etc. But how can he really appreciate if he has it all in the first place?? :roll:

[krazy]

sakura:

it's possible. i show her videos on you tube. actually, my girl gets to use the materials that i plan for work / lessons... and i do not waste such opportunities.

eg :
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ONqWbFlxVwE

she doesn't know how to write out her emotions and thoughts yet but she can articulate. and she asked questions after the video. i still remembered, she paused after watching the video and said \"i have food to eat.\"

sakura_2009:

Honestly I don't think my kid will really appreciate what he is enjoying right now...As parents, we can keep reminding them that they should appreciate what they have right now etc. But how can he really appreciate if he has it all in the first place?? :roll:

[sakura_2009]

krazy:

it's possible. i show her videos on you tube. actually, my girl gets to use the materials that i plan for work / lessons... and i do not waste such opportunities.

eg :
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ONqWbFlxVwE

she doesn't know how to write out her emotions and thoughts yet but she can articulate. and she asked questions after the video. i still remembered, she paused after watching the video and said \"i have food to eat.\"

[/color]

Thanks! Actually DS had already seen this video several months back. Can't really remember what he said but it was something like: I'm so lucky I've food to eat or Thank God I've food to eat or something to that effect. In any case, he was the goody-good boy for the next few days after watching the video. Managed to finish up all his food with no wastage, helped me with the dishes, give me a hug and said 'Thank you' each time I prepare breakfast etc. But well, that didn't really last...He just reverted back to his old ways of taking things for granted after a while, + another 1001 excuses for not appreciating what he has :x

[krazy]

sakura:

kids will be kids and they need constant reminders. i mean, adults too, need to be reminded time and again.

the important thing is, our children learn to appreciate. and we must \"outlast\" them and never give up telling them , showing them the right things to do and say. then, values can be instilled in them.

sakura_2009:

Thanks! Actually DS had already seen this video several months back. Can't really remember what he said but it was something like: I'm so lucky I've food to eat or Thank God I've food to eat or something to that effect. In any case, he was the goody-good boy for the next few days after watching the video. Managed to finish up all his food with no wastage, helped me with the dishes, give me a hug and said 'Thank you' each time I prepare breakfast etc. But well, that didn't really last...He just reverted back to his old ways of taking things for granted after a while, + another 1001 excuses for not appreciating what he has :x

[Happy Mama]

Hello... We have only 1 child. She is very understanding and has never demanded for anything. Even as a toddler, she has never cried in public when we refuse to buy her toys. However, as the only child, we tend to want to give her the best and everything. Are we spoiling her this way? Will she not appreciate the value of money when she grows up? :?