Club Only Child Club

[krazy]

it is very important to let our kiddo know that things / comfort / life / etc doesn't just drop off the sky.


Parents work (damn) hard for a lot of things that they are already enjoying and they should appreciate what ever they have. Some times, my girl needs to be reminded that a car doesn't come \"naturally\" with any families. Or not every family gets to go for holidays to faraway places so she is thankful.

[sakura_2009]

krazy:

it is very important to let our kiddo know that things / comfort / life / etc doesn't just drop off the sky.


Parents work (damn) hard for a lot of things that they are already enjoying and they should appreciate what ever they have. Some times, my girl needs to be reminded that a car doesn't come \"naturally\" with any families. Or not every family gets to go for holidays to faraway places so she is thankful.

Honestly I don't think my kid will really appreciate what he is enjoying right now...As parents, we can keep reminding them that they should appreciate what they have right now etc. But how can he really appreciate if he has it all in the first place?? :roll:

[krazy]

sakura:

it's possible. i show her videos on you tube. actually, my girl gets to use the materials that i plan for work / lessons... and i do not waste such opportunities.

eg :
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ONqWbFlxVwE

she doesn't know how to write out her emotions and thoughts yet but she can articulate. and she asked questions after the video. i still remembered, she paused after watching the video and said \"i have food to eat.\"

sakura_2009:

Honestly I don't think my kid will really appreciate what he is enjoying right now...As parents, we can keep reminding them that they should appreciate what they have right now etc. But how can he really appreciate if he has it all in the first place?? :roll:

[sakura_2009]

krazy:

it's possible. i show her videos on you tube. actually, my girl gets to use the materials that i plan for work / lessons... and i do not waste such opportunities.

eg :
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ONqWbFlxVwE

she doesn't know how to write out her emotions and thoughts yet but she can articulate. and she asked questions after the video. i still remembered, she paused after watching the video and said \"i have food to eat.\"

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Thanks! Actually DS had already seen this video several months back. Can't really remember what he said but it was something like: I'm so lucky I've food to eat or Thank God I've food to eat or something to that effect. In any case, he was the goody-good boy for the next few days after watching the video. Managed to finish up all his food with no wastage, helped me with the dishes, give me a hug and said 'Thank you' each time I prepare breakfast etc. But well, that didn't really last...He just reverted back to his old ways of taking things for granted after a while, + another 1001 excuses for not appreciating what he has :x

[krazy]

sakura:

kids will be kids and they need constant reminders. i mean, adults too, need to be reminded time and again.

the important thing is, our children learn to appreciate. and we must \"outlast\" them and never give up telling them , showing them the right things to do and say. then, values can be instilled in them.

sakura_2009:

Thanks! Actually DS had already seen this video several months back. Can't really remember what he said but it was something like: I'm so lucky I've food to eat or Thank God I've food to eat or something to that effect. In any case, he was the goody-good boy for the next few days after watching the video. Managed to finish up all his food with no wastage, helped me with the dishes, give me a hug and said 'Thank you' each time I prepare breakfast etc. But well, that didn't really last...He just reverted back to his old ways of taking things for granted after a while, + another 1001 excuses for not appreciating what he has :x

[Happy Mama]

Hello... We have only 1 child. She is very understanding and has never demanded for anything. Even as a toddler, she has never cried in public when we refuse to buy her toys. However, as the only child, we tend to want to give her the best and everything. Are we spoiling her this way? Will she not appreciate the value of money when she grows up? :?

[spunky]

As a mother of an only child, I say how we set our expectation determines how our child will turn out.


If we are parents with sound values, our child will turn out the same way as they will model our behaviour.

I am human and have many times been tempted to spoil my child as she is the only one. It takes a lot to not do that n teach her morally right values.

It has really paid off as many adults who have a chance to interact with her are suprise at her independence and maturity. Many were infact surprisedto learn she is an only child.

So we as parents of an only child don't be disheartened, as I am sure most of us here have all the right values system in us to impart to our only princess and prince

[kaitlynangelica]

Hi all,


I am the one who started the thread. But I’d like to say that I have learnt to be content and happy with just one child. I have learnt to count my blessings instead of comparing with others how come some can have 3 or 4 kids and God has only given me one. In fact, now that my dd is in P2, I have come to thank God that I have only one. Its really no joke to have to jaga the child all the time. So much homework, CCA’s, tuition etc etc. I used to feel terribly inferior about just having one child but God has been kind and blessed me with peace to realise that he knows best for me.

[spunky]

There is a reason for everything . The masses will always make us feel inferior . Don't we r blessed chosen few

kaitlynangelica:

Hi all,

I am the one who started the thread. But I'd like to say that I have learnt to be content and happy with just one child. I have learnt to count my blessings instead of comparing with others how come some can have 3 or 4 kids and God has only given me one. In fact, now that my dd is in P2, I have come to thank God that I have only one. Its really no joke to have to jaga the child all the time. So much homework, CCA's, tuition etc etc. I used to feel terribly inferior about just having one child but God has been kind and blessed me with peace to realise that he knows best for me.

[Ivy Ang Siow Kia]

As a mother of 1 child, I always feel that at least I can give him the best. :celebrate: