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    All About Life Without Maids

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    • janet88J Offline
      janet88
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      AuntieKiasi,

      If the maids miss their kids and put their love on employer’s children, that would be nice. But the scary thing which some maids bring with them are witchcraft nonsense…like putting urine into our drinks so that we will like them. If angry with employer bcos of being scolded, they pour soap powder into our food or milk powder. :x
      There was a case of the maid putting soap powder into the formula so that the babies fall sick and then parents would be busy caring for their sick twins and ignore what the maid is up to. :x

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        AuntieKiasi
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        Janet_lee,


        How true.. all those sadistic stuff they do. I came across a maid a few days ago, who all of a sudden started to undress her young charge in public. She was helping the kid get changed into pre-school uniform!! :stupid: What was on her mind??!!! :stupid: I mean in a void deck leh!!!! I really pity her employers...I think they do not know. Poor employers!

        Anyway, I believe maids also cost not cheap right?

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        • janet88J Offline
          janet88
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          AuntieKiasi:
          Janet_lee,


          How true.. all those sadistic stuff they do. I came across a maid a few days ago, who all of a sudden started to undress her young charge in public. She was helping the kid get changed into pre-school uniform!! :stupid: What was on her mind??!!! :stupid: I mean in a void deck leh!!!! I really pity her employers...I think they do not know. Poor employers!
          Anyway, I believe maids also cost not cheap right?
          Maids cost a BOMB to hire, on top of that, a torture to train. Just when they are slightly better after 3 months, maids think their wings are hardened. After 9 months or when their loans are over, their true colours show. How to hire them ?

          Take new maid, almost have to hold their hands and teach them to work and tell them which is salt, sugar, and oil. Then teach them to do housework and cook same few dishes everyday. Bear in mind, they don't give attitude problem or resistant to learn. If getting maid with experience, she thinks she is damn smart and not willing to listen.

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            AuntieKiasi
            last edited by

            Actually, there are a variety of services in sg, that we don't even need to

            consider hiring maids.

            eg. childcare centres (some even offerinfant care), student care services(some even offering services up to Sec 4), elder care services.

            The kids will receive everyday care (tuition included) & the old will have people their age to talk to in all those places. And better still, got govt subsidy. 😉 And also you need not worry whether they eat or not as these ctrs will make sure their charges have their food.

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            • janet88J Offline
              janet88
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              Some people get maids to look after their young children at home or else the old/disabled…a pity this very idea of hiring maids backfires sometimes. These 2 groups of people are the most vulnerable…they cannot complain or tell anyone if they are bullied.

              Hubby told me his colleague got a Filipino maid to look after the 4 month old after maternity leave is over…I really pity the baby.

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                Mrs Ang
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                janet_lee88:
                Some people get maids to look after their young children at home or else the old/disabled...a pity this very idea of hiring maids backfires sometimes. These 2 groups of people are the most vulnerable...they cannot complain or tell anyone if they are bullied.

                Hubby told me his colleague got a Filipino maid to look after the 4 month old after maternity leave is over...I really pity the baby.
                My DH thinks that it is easy to train a maid so I have been telling him no. We currently still can cope without maid...heehee...just need to close one eye on the mess and dirt. But I won't know how to cope if there is number two. How do I teach my maid when her Sir do the opposite? My DH will use the cloth for wiping floor to wipe the table :stupid:

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                • janet88J Offline
                  janet88
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                  Hi Mrs Ang,

                  The stressful thing teaching a maid is everything must be done correctly from the start...or else the maid will pick up all the wrong stuff.
                  I woke at 530am for 2-3 weeks when my maid just arrived.

                  Had maid bcos of #2. It's best you don't let the SIR train a maid, or else you will be very stressed when maid uses the cloth for wiping floor to clean bb's face. :stupid: :?: :!:

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                    SullyM
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                    Mrs Ang:
                    My DH thinks that it is easy to train a maid so I have been telling him no. We currently still can cope without maid...heehee...just need to close one eye on the mess and dirt. But I won't know how to cope if there is number two. How do I teach my maid when her Sir do the opposite? My DH will use the cloth for wiping floor to wipe the table :stupid:

                    oh den it can be a challenge - sir can do but she cant. 1 of my previous maids use the same pail to mop floor & soak clothes. i found it by accident 1 day! :x
                    to them wats the big deal? they stay in atap houses with soil floor & ease themselves at the river. a pail is a pail so the cloth is also multi purpose :!: if no patience, better not take one... it will certainly strain family relations. i heard fr my ex-agent, one wife always arguing with the husband over the maid. so in the end they returned maid. not worth it. tats my 2 cents worth.

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                      lostbunny
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                      Mrs Ang:
                      How do I teach my maid when her Sir do the opposite? My DH will use the cloth for wiping floor to wipe the table :stupid:

                      I have the same issue. MY DH also uses the clotyh for wiping floor to wipe the table. Sometimes he even uses DD's nappy to wipe the floor :stupid: When you tell him off, he will tell me \"What's the problem, the cloth will be washed anyway!\" :stupid:

                      Recently I keep hearing my mum scold the maid for not being able to cook a proper pot of rice after 5 months of training. DH thinks that why do we make a fuss over a pot of rice and he actually said \"Mayb maid is not interested in cooking.\" :x

                      hai.. headache teaching maid when DH is around.

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                      • janet88J Offline
                        janet88
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                        Ladies,

                        I agree that maids can strain the relationship between the couple...not only that, between employer and her mum.

                        Since I do the housework and the FUSSY one at home, I told hubby he is not to get involved training the maid or else there will 2 very diff standards. He agreed and hands off...or else you will hear 'why sir can, why I cannot ?' Maids can ask you questions like that. :stupid:

                        Teaching maids to be CLEAN is the hardest, esp when there is a bb.
                        Ironically, when I have no maid, I argue less with hubby...bcos to him :x , having a maid around means I am very free, just have to tell maid to do this and that.

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