All About Life Without Maids

[Mrs Ang]

janet_lee88:

Some people get maids to look after their young children at home or else the old/disabled...a pity this very idea of hiring maids backfires sometimes. These 2 groups of people are the most vulnerable...they cannot complain or tell anyone if they are bullied.

Hubby told me his colleague got a Filipino maid to look after the 4 month old after maternity leave is over...I really pity the baby.

My DH thinks that it is easy to train a maid so I have been telling him no. We currently still can cope without maid...heehee...just need to close one eye on the mess and dirt. But I won't know how to cope if there is number two. How do I teach my maid when her Sir do the opposite? My DH will use the cloth for wiping floor to wipe the table :stupid:

[janet88]

Hi Mrs Ang,

The stressful thing teaching a maid is everything must be done correctly from the start...or else the maid will pick up all the wrong stuff.
I woke at 530am for 2-3 weeks when my maid just arrived.

Had maid bcos of #2. It's best you don't let the SIR train a maid, or else you will be very stressed when maid uses the cloth for wiping floor to clean bb's face. :stupid: :?: :!:

[SullyM]

Mrs Ang:

My DH thinks that it is easy to train a maid so I have been telling him no. We currently still can cope without maid...heehee...just need to close one eye on the mess and dirt. But I won't know how to cope if there is number two. How do I teach my maid when her Sir do the opposite? My DH will use the cloth for wiping floor to wipe the table :stupid:

oh den it can be a challenge - sir can do but she cant. 1 of my previous maids use the same pail to mop floor & soak clothes. i found it by accident 1 day! :x
to them wats the big deal? they stay in atap houses with soil floor & ease themselves at the river. a pail is a pail so the cloth is also multi purpose :!: if no patience, better not take one... it will certainly strain family relations. i heard fr my ex-agent, one wife always arguing with the husband over the maid. so in the end they returned maid. not worth it. tats my 2 cents worth.

[lostbunny]

Mrs Ang:

How do I teach my maid when her Sir do the opposite? My DH will use the cloth for wiping floor to wipe the table :stupid:

I have the same issue. MY DH also uses the clotyh for wiping floor to wipe the table. Sometimes he even uses DD's nappy to wipe the floor :stupid: When you tell him off, he will tell me \"What's the problem, the cloth will be washed anyway!\" :stupid:

Recently I keep hearing my mum scold the maid for not being able to cook a proper pot of rice after 5 months of training. DH thinks that why do we make a fuss over a pot of rice and he actually said \"Mayb maid is not interested in cooking.\" :x

hai.. headache teaching maid when DH is around.

[janet88]

Ladies,

I agree that maids can strain the relationship between the couple...not only that, between employer and her mum.

Since I do the housework and the FUSSY one at home, I told hubby he is not to get involved training the maid or else there will 2 very diff standards. He agreed and hands off...or else you will hear 'why sir can, why I cannot ?' Maids can ask you questions like that. :stupid:

Teaching maids to be CLEAN is the hardest, esp when there is a bb.
Ironically, when I have no maid, I argue less with hubby...bcos to him :x , having a maid around means I am very free, just have to tell maid to do this and that.

[Mrs Ang]

janet_lee88:

Ladies,

I agree that maids can strain the relationship between the couple...not only that, between employer and her mum.

Since I do the housework and the FUSSY one at home, I told hubby he is not to get involved training the maid or else there will 2 very diff standards. He agreed and hands off...or else you will hear 'why sir can, why I cannot ?' Maids can ask you questions like that. :stupid:

Teaching maids to be CLEAN is the hardest, esp when there is a bb.
Ironically, when I have no maid, I argue less with hubby...bcos to him :x , having a maid around means I am very free, just have to tell maid to do this and that.

Can never understand what these men are thinking. I always need to check on those dishes washed by DH thus I try not to let him wash. Those dishes at my in-laws house are never clean so this is norm in their family. Hope my DD won't have these \"good\" genes!

[janet88]

Mrs Ang,

I don’t wish to enter into the topic of in-laws in this thread but just a quick one…they do not practice hygiene…told my son if he is staying in my house, he better not be dirty. If he wants to, he can be in his OWN house in future. Bathe when he has to, and not wear his overnight clothes the whole day and laze around the house. Yucks.

The men don’t get it, do that ? Hygiene is so impt now, with SARS, HFMD and whatever illnesses which were never discovered. It’s too late to regret. I see kids rolling about on the playground outside and wonder if they bathe after they reach home.

[Charmaine_chong]

Hi All,


I will be going maid-free on 1st week of 2011.

How those full-time working moms cope with household chores, teaching kids, sending to enrichment and cooking?

I have 2 young kids, will be turning 5 and 2.5yo in Jan 2011.

I feel restless even with a helper. She basically helps me a lot in coaching my 2yo girl. She teaches her loads of stuff.

My dad is our private cheft. He does all the cooking and marketing whereas my maid is more on household chores and taking care of my 2yo girl.

I don’t intend to have maid, hope i dont need one in my life anymore.

My phobia is how well i can cope with the daily chores and most importantly is to teach my kids.

I can see it can be very challenging.

[Leanne]

Just curious, what type of mop that mummies here u used?am hoping to find something that can pick up hair at the same time.


Thank you.

Leanne

[janet88]

Leanne:

Just curious, what type of mop that mummies here u used?am hoping to find something that can pick up hair at the same time.


Thank you.

Leanne

Hair usually sticks to mop. I usually vacuum up the dust/hair before mopping...usually the mopping is to remove the stickiness.