All About Full-Time Maids

[KS_me]

cookiecreature:

Your ex maid of 7 years believe was from philippine and were new when you took her right.
This current one must be very experience. If she is not happy and you are not happy… if there is no solution… I really suggest that you let her go and find her 'greener pasture'. No point keeping her and yet cannot keep her heart.

No. My ex-maid was from Indonesia. I got her as fresh. This current one worked in Saudi before and it's like killing me softly... everyday! :x

[KS_me]

mummyjoyce:

I have the same problem and my maid is already 3 years - she dont smile, dont talk to us unless it is necessary. She can go out once a month and has mobile phone. Actually there is not much to do in my house except to cook dinner, clean my apartment (very small one) and most imptly take bus to my child's school daily and take a bus back with her. My child stayed in school for lunch due to ECA and extra classes.


There is not much communication between us. Of cos I wish to fire her as her behaviour is really bad sometimes - however this is easy to say then done. My hubby travels due to work alot and I am working full time. It is difficult to train a new maid to take bus, look after my child.

Also, I feel that she is also bore at home most of the time and I can see that she is really looking r my child well.

Hands are tight and it is really frustating - my hubby is not willing to risk changing a maid without us at home most of the time. My only hope is one day she wants to go back to Indo.

Woah, I am in the same exact situation like you! HB travels alot. Maid fetch my P1 boy to and from school, cook and house chorre. I'm a full time working mum and I will send my younger boy to cc early morning before I go to work and fetch him back after work....

Hiaz... life is so hectic..

[KS_me]

hugeclaw:

Something brief to share...this morning my mum sent her maid (finished 6-year contract) to the airport. My mum is super 'meticulous' when comes to checking their luggage coz she has more than 20 yrs of experience, ha! But this morning, when the maid reached the airport, a friend was waiting for her to bid her farewell and gave her a big cake. My mum told her that the customs will not accept food entry, thus advised her to throw it away or eat it before boarding...and she got anxious, say she needs to go toilet and insists of bringing the cake with her. Of course, my mum got suspicious and demanded for the cake, she borrowed a knife from nearby cafe and cut it. My gosh, there're 2 rolex watches and some jewellery pieces in the cake! Funny thing is they dun belong to my family...nevertheless my mum still called the police and let them investigate the case. These maids are so resourceful in settling their loot..never trust them too much no matter how many years they work for you.

:!: :!: :!: gosh!!! I hate maid steal thingsss but how can we stop them since they r staying with us??

[mummyjoyce]

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Hi,
My current maid is leaving soon and planning for a replacement. It is a good thing since my current maid is already showing loads of bad habits.

I want to start well for the new maid and myself. Does anyone has a timetable/schedule mapped for the maid to share?

Thanks!

[cmm]

Hi mummyjoyce,


Tamarind has a very good blog on managing maids. I've learnt a lot from it. Here's the link.

http://singaporemaid.blogspot.com/2007/07/how-to-manage-maid.html

I've also learned from my mistakes and changed certain aspects of how I manage my new maid (now almost 1 year with us, so far so good).

Good luck with your new maid!

[jedamum]

hi mummyjoyce,

There is also a http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=903&start=0 all about maids. some mummies do have a timetable, although you may have to contact them separately (via pm) for details if you wish. Hope it helps.

[mummyjoyce]

Many thanks for the replies. Appreciate and YES I do need the luck now.

[kiasu_pig]

My current maid (let call her "X"), after a heated augement, wanted to go back to philiipines after working for a few months with us. Before she left, we did a thorough check of her luggauge and found notes of ten dollars and 1 dollar coins stuffed into her jeans and blouses. She even made a small pouch to store the 1 dollar coins. We took video footage of her while she confessed her crime. Afterwhich we sent her to the polic station. The policeman advised us that if we want to press charges against her, she would be taken in to custody and lockup for at least 2 weeks. She pleaded and we decided to send her back to the airport instead.


The subsequent two maids after X were terrible (the last one even has a life-theatening illness that need long-term medicine and would faint without notice). Later, we heard from the agent that X had wanted to come back to S’pore to work, so we talked to her again over tele, and decided to take her back again. So, in the end, it is one big circle back to X again.

But we never create or allow opportunity for the maid to be alone with my kids. And at times will check our toddler for bruises on his body for signs of abuse.

[hquek]

huh? kiasupig, you sure it’s a good idea to take one with ‘unclean’ hands back? I heard from friend that her maid stole money from the family - but they continued with her (cos she was a good cook). but seems like her habits didn’t die.


Just be careful where you place your valuables. Good luck!

I really hate if they tell lies or if they steal. if trust is lost, how to continue the working relationship?

[MMM]

Hi,


I’ve the same reservation as well that old habits die hard. As it’s not possible to be on your guard 24 hours a day.

Recently my sil’s indo chinese maid stole her gold jewellery. On top of that, she told my maid that she used the chopper to point at the children (my niece and nephew) that if they misbehave, she will use the knife to chop them up :!: She has only been with her for less than 6 months. I don’t like her as everytime when we’ve a family function and she comes to our house, iso helping out like the other maids, she will follow my maid around, pretend to help but she is actually talking to her and trying to avoid work. Worse of all, my maid is already so busy so my maid also dislike this maid.

They sent her back for good 2 weeks back. I found it scary as it’s like living with a time bomb.