In-law problems?

[24hr-mum]

insecurity. her idea is her kids and grandkids must surround her everyday if possible. cant do things on her own. now she is better but when she was wf me, i had to bring her see dentist, buy shoes, etc if hubby not alone. she became my another ‘baby’

[janet88]

24hr-mum:

insecurity. her idea is her kids and grandkids must surround her everyday if possible. cant do things on her own. now she is better but when she was wf me, i had to bring her see dentist, buy shoes, etc if hubby not alone. she became my another 'baby'

If she appreciates all your effort, then it's worth it...some do not appreciate and take it for granted. Worse still when they talk behind your back :x in front of the other DILs.

[janet88]

AuntieKiasi:

auntieM:

Cheero AuntieKiasi :hugs: .. ..believe me...there are 'scarier' ones around.. :!:

Yeah..quite true... :gloomy: :gloomy: sometimes how I wish she go to all those old folks home & see for herself how lucky she is.....

Even if these old ones go to old folks home, they will never appreciate and know how fortunate they are.

[24hr-mum]

it was the emotional bondage i couldnt take it.

she fought with me over the kitchen, the household, the kids especially (how to discipline or handle them). and when my maid came she fought with maid, load me wif lots of unfounded accusations against my maid etc

she pampers my kids esp #1 who was cared by her from birth - buy clothes, water bottles , toys EVERY WEEK. and dont allow me to scold or cane them.

she only care whther they ate meat but nvr bother whr they ate veg or fruits。 #1 was constipated at 2.5yrs n its a nightmare to overcome that

[janet88]

24hr-mum:

it was the emotional bondage i couldnt take it.

she fought with me over the kitchen, the household, the kids especially (how to discipline or handle them). and when my maid came she fought with maid, load me wif lots of unfounded accusations against my maid etc

she pampers my kids esp #1 who was cared by her from birth - buy clothes, water bottles , toys EVERY WEEK. and dont allow me to scold or cane them.

she only care whther they ate meat but nvr bother whr they ate veg or fruits。 #1 was constipated at 2.5yrs n its a nightmare to overcome that

Sorry to say this, but that's tough to handle indeed.
I thought she was just 怕黑 and demanding your attention.
This kind of spoiling/pampering makes it difficult for you to discipline...sure to clash if need to. I really have to salute you for the courage to stay with her.

[24hr-mum]

i had no choice cos my hubby was the eldest, and at first she stayed with me becos she was takg care of #1 when i was workg, and even after i quit when delivered #2, she still continue to stay there. she has a younger son who was studying that time so both mil n bil was a package.

she doesnt like to go back her own house cos she n her own mil cant get along also, and when her own mil died, she moved to stay wif younger daughter to take care of grandchildren until i gave birth to #1.

it was living hell for me. when i preg wif #3 i was depressed cos i thot history repeating (my #2 was already old enuf for childcare and i thot i could go out n work but then i was preg with #3). when maid came, she everyday accuse the maid this n that, and it was so tough until i ｔｈｒｅａｔｅｎｅｄ　ｔｏask for a D, then her own daughter asked her to move out. my relationship wif hubb prior to that was so strained cos everday i wld sms him abt his mum. when i open my eyes or close my eyes, i only thot of how to handle her.

now life is heaven after she moved out…

[auntieM]

24hr-mum:

it was living hell for me. when i preg wif #3 i was depressed cos i thot history repeating (my #2 was already old enuf for childcare and i thot i could go out n work but then i was preg with #3). when maid came, she everyday accuse the maid this n that, and it was so tough until i ｔｈｒｅａｔｅｎｅｄ　ｔｏask for a D, then her own daughter asked her to move out. my relationship wif hubb prior to that was so strained cos everday i wld sms him abt his mum. when i open my eyes or close my eyes, i only thot of how to handle her.

now life is heaven after she moved out....

:!: Glad it's all over for you...

[janet88]

24hr-mum:

i had no choice cos my hubby was the eldest, and at first she stayed with me becos she was takg care of #1 when i was workg, and even after i quit when delivered #2, she still continue to stay there. she has a younger son who was studying that time so both mil n bil was a package.

she doesnt like to go back her own house cos she n her own mil cant get along also, and when her own mil died, she moved to stay wif younger daughter to take care of grandchildren until i gave birth to #1.

it was living hell for me. when i preg wif #3 i was depressed cos i thot history repeating (my #2 was already old enuf for childcare and i thot i could go out n work but then i was preg with #3). when maid came, she everyday accuse the maid this n that, and it was so tough until i ｔｈｒｅａｔｅｎｅｄ　ｔｏask for a D, then her own daughter asked her to move out. my relationship wif hubb prior to that was so strained cos everday i wld sms him abt his mum. when i open my eyes or close my eyes, i only thot of how to handle her.

now life is heaven after she moved out....

She couldn't get along with HER own MIL and yet giving you hell. In the early stage of my relationship with then-bf-now-hubby, the old one gave us hell too...each time we visited her, we would quarrel after that. I've had enough...just keep arms length from her now.

[AuntieKiasi]

24hr-mum:

it was the emotional bondage i couldnt take it.

she fought with me over the kitchen, the household, the kids especially (how to discipline or handle them). and when my maid came she fought with maid, load me wif lots of unfounded accusations against my maid etc

she pampers my kids esp #1 who was cared by her from birth - buy clothes, water bottles , toys EVERY WEEK. and dont allow me to scold or cane them.

she only care whther they ate meat but nvr bother whr they ate veg or fruits。 #1 was constipated at 2.5yrs n its a nightmare to overcome that

Wow :!: what a MIL!!! Sometimes, I wonder if they couldn't accept the fact that they are growing old? She would appear *vunerable & pathetic* until sometimes her own dd & me gets frustrated with her. Me, dh & SIL are always trying our best to understand what she want. When we gave her what she wants, sh would complain that we are wasting money & stuff like that :stupid: :x and when we don't bother, she will say *nobody cares about her* :x :? :stupid: :x :? :stupid:

[janet88]

Mine here can get Golden Horse and Oscar awards for her ability to wail, cry like turning on a tap…always thinking she knows everything and wanting everyone to listen to her. Never do her part as a grandmother and yet expect grandchildren to know and remember who she is to them.

My son hates it…I don’t encourage it but I teach him how to reply her w/out being rude.