In-law problems?

[AuntieKiasi]

24hr-mum:

my mil dun dare disagree wf her son (ie my hubby) when he around. but when he is not ard, will show displeasure to me.

when i came home, she nvr ask my baby to greet me. but when her son came hm, she will ask the baby to greet the daddy

sometimes when i greet her, i dun get response from her

I think your mil has forgotten something....YOU ARE THE MOTHER OF HER GRANDCHILD!!!!! :x What a dbl standard she is practising man!! If there is a best actress award for mils....all our mils would qualifiy Luckily, this month I am having a break of having her around the house. I told her to go and bother her daughter. When she is here she would always compare abt my ds & her dd's ds. Then she would go on rattling about how good her other grandson is blah...blah....blah....Worse still she would say how good her son-in-law is blah....blah....blah. :x :x

[janet88]

AuntieKiasi:

24hr-mum:

my mil dun dare disagree wf her son (ie my hubby) when he around. but when he is not ard, will show displeasure to me.

when i came home, she nvr ask my baby to greet me. but when her son came hm, she will ask the baby to greet the daddy
sometimes when i greet her, i dun get response from her

I think your mil has forgotten something....YOU ARE THE MOTHER OF HER GRANDCHILD!!!!! :x What a dbl standard she is practising man!! If there is a best actress award for mils....all our mils would qualifiy Luckily, this month I am having a break of having her around the house. I told her to go and bother her daughter.

I think you need to know that some MILs think their sons can 'reproduce' by themselves...they conveniently forget that their grandchildren are given birth by women. :?:

[24hr-mum]

its very true that they thot the house is theirs, the kitchen is theirs, the tv is theirs, and even their grandchildren are theirs! i always feel she treats mykids like her pets and last time she even wants to decide which primary school my girl goes to in p1! she wanted to stay in the same vicinity and sugg my girl goes to a neighbrhd sch when my gal qualifies for a sap sch cos i was old girl. crazy!


#1 (girl) was cared by her from birth cos i was wkg. #2 (boy) i take care of myslf cos i quit my job, tho she was still stayg wf me. #3 (girl) was mainly cared by my maid. she shows favoritism most to #1.

[janet88]

24hr-mum:

its very true that they thot the house is theirs, the kitchen is theirs, the tv is theirs, and even their grandchildren are theirs! i always feel she treats mykids like her pets and last time she even wants to decide which primary school my girl goes to in p1! she wanted to stay in the same vicinity and sugg my girl goes to a neighbrhd sch when my gal qualifies for a sap sch cos i was old girl. crazy!


#1 (girl) was cared by her from birth cos i was wkg. #2 (boy) i take care of myslf cos i quit my job, tho she was still stayg wf me. #3 (girl) was mainly cared by my maid. she shows favoritism most to #1.

Must have been tough on you. So is your daughter registered in your former school now ? These old ones rather jelak...want to control everything.
Today's ST mentioned that boys are still preferred in Asian countries...to the point that gender is terribly unbalanced in countries like India, China and Taiwan.

[24hr-mum]

of cos i wont let her decide where to place my child.

ya, my girl in my former sch

[janet88]

24hr-mum:

of cos i wont let her decide where to place my child.

ya, my girl in my former sch

yup...where children are concerned, the mothers have the right to decide for issues like names and schools.

[24hr-mum]

i feel that sometimes grandmothers are using grandchildren to re-live their motherhood…and deprive the real mothers of a chance to be mothers.

[Quintessential Mum]

janet_lee88:

Mine here can get Golden Horse and Oscar awards for her ability to wail, cry like turning on a tap...always thinking she knows everything and wanting everyone to listen to her. Never do her part as a grandmother and yet expect grandchildren to know and remember who she is to them.

My son hates it...I don't encourage it but I teach him how to reply her w/out being rude.

So true, My MIL favours her other grandkids over my DD since they were little. She even \"lost\" my DD once when she took her grandkids out as she was only interested in the other grand daughter. I was furious! She does not even bother to praise my DD for her achievements etc. The problem is that she was the \"controller\" in the family so her husband and kids dare not defy her. Ha ha too bad for her - coz a New Boss is in town! He he he! She loves to tell stories about her friends who have wonderful DILs etc. She behaves like a Matriarch and expects to be waited on hand and foot! She has this uncanny ability to cry/tear on demand! Amazing! Recently, her power has been curbed coz we can't stand her anymore. Only my DH still accommodates her! :x

[mrswongtuition]

Quintessential Mum:

She loves to tell stories about her friends who have wonderful DILs etc.

Usually, these ppl who HL about how good their DILs are... end up in the worst situations involving their DILs....

My aunt used to HL about her DIL... and now? Her DIL refused to let her see her own grandchildren! So, she has not even met the younger of that DIL's kids.

[buds]

24hr-mum:

i feel that sometimes grandmothers are using grandchildren to re-live their motherhood....and deprive the real mothers of a chance to be mothers.

Oooooh... :rubhands:
I love how you put this.

Another angle is actually there are some who want that 2nd chance to
do it right because of all the mistakes they've made in the past with their
own children... they'd be the ones who will tell you, don't do this or better
not... cos last time when XXX was little.... :roll: and the ones who lurrrrve
to say..... haiyah DILs these days dowan to listen wan. :roll:

We have eaten waaaaayyyy more salt than them. Dun listen some more
lah... suit yourself lah... then see wat will happen. :roll: They will ALWAYS
want things done THEIR way. Cheh. :roll: