Vexed.... wat to do?

[northernstar]

recently, i was disturbed by my colleague.


once, an unpleasant incident happened but no one knew. that day, i was wearing a white blouse with a faint stain near my chest. mebe 2 him, it was obvious he made a comment on it. i felt so uncomfortable cos tis meant he was lookin at my chest....

now, he was worse. he called mi 'Darling' when no one was in office. if tis was a joke, sori i could not take it cos to me, tis was very disgustin. he said such a greetin is 'qing qie'. oh pls... nonsense!

tis mornin, he said 'gd mornin' to mi. i ignored him and he continued 2 ask whether i was moody..

he was married with children who are teenagers.

i dunno wat to do... how 2 tell my boss or other colleagues? i was e oni ger in e office. ignorin him seems 2b useless but i do not care if our relationship turns sour since we have no work interactions.

[tankee]

Tell him how you feel. That he is getting too friendly and you are not comfortable about it.


No reason to tell your boss or anyone else at the moment.

[northernstar]

hi tankee,


i already told him his words are er xin but he still continued… he also always tries to get my attention when i’m doin work and looks at me thru my office window in e mornin…

[tankee]

Perhaps he did not get your message. Maybe he thought you meant it in a joking or even teasing manner.


Tell him again in a serious tone.

[northernstar]

yes, i was serious and pullin a long face lol.

[northernstar]

or tok 2 his superior…? haiz…

[MMM]

Does he also behave like that to other people???


There are some ppl who likes to behave like that but they actually meant nothing. I think it might be good to ascertain to ensure that you are not over sensitive before talking to the boss. Otherwise it might not reflect well on you as well.

Do you have other female colleagues who are close to you who can help you to make that observation?

[northernstar]

hi MMM… i’m not sure he will behave like that to other female collics at other sites but a close fren also dun hv gd impression of him and said he’s sarcastic. he’s oso a kpo type… as a colleague, we should treat each other with respect rite? some things are sensitive and should nt take as a joke… or mebe i’m not open enough…

[kaka]

He might be enjoying irritating you. Either ignore him or shout out next time he does irritating things, hopefully this will embarrass him.

[northernstar]

yes kaka u r rite… i did try embarrass him but he’s thick-skinned lol. i dun shout at him cos later i gif others bad impression