In-law problems?

[growie]

cherrygal:

The trick to stop pple from asking about you is to counter-attack them with more questions about themselves. That usually stops the kaypoh person from probing. Tried and tested.

Yes, a friend's sibling is like that....it's always like a Q & A session when you see her.
Gotta try this out....ask them plenty of questions in return right? Huh....that means brain must work super hard to ask and probe continuously...wah sounds so tiring already. Wonder where all these super kaypoh people have the energy to ask so much... :roll: yawn..zzzzzzzzzzz

[cherrygal]

growie:

cherrygal:

The trick to stop pple from asking about you is to counter-attack them with more questions about themselves. That usually stops the kaypoh person from probing. Tried and tested.

Yes, a friend's sibling is like that....it's always like a Q & A session when you see her.
Gotta try this out....ask them plenty of questions in return right? Huh....that means brain must super hard to ask and probe continuously...wah sounds so tiring already. Wonder where all these super kaypoh people have the energy to ask so much... :roll: yawn..zzzzzzzzzzz

No need to think. Just ask them back exactly what they asked. They will shut up immediately unless they don't mind to share. But usually these kaypohs are very scared of people asking them questions.

[growie]

Oh I see...just 'parrot' their questions!! Hmmm never really realized that these same people are afraid of people asking them. Thanks, I gotta try out and see what their replies & reactions are.

[janet88]

cherrygal:

janet_lee88:

Like you, I avoid them to the max...so that I won't get upset by them. Still, I get called names :x damn it. Just thinking of a CNY reunion with them makes me sick.

Yah man, since the favoritism surfaced, I have boycotted the weekly visits. Now, we only let our ds visit them once a month. I will not bring my baby there if I can help it. She also passed comments about me becoming a SAHM (thinks I am a burden to her son) and kept suggesting to me to get a maid like her favorite daughter-in-law.

I get stressed up with the thought of going for the CNY reunion dinner and visits. MIL even wanted to have a Xmas gathering this year but we turned her down. She never celebrated Xmas before so I dunno why she wanted one this year. Think she wants her 2 sons and families to \"be closer\". That will never happen especially when she shows such favoritism.

When I first turned SAHM, she also passed comments (thinks I am a burden to her precious son). When I had a maid back then, she tried to squeeze info from her...told the maid not to tell her anything other than her name and age. I don't have anything to hide, but I don't like her to ask about my family.
At my brother's wedding, she asked the maid to accompany her to the toilet. I asked my maid where they were going. Maid told me, 'Grandma asked me to go toilet with her.' After replying me, they didn't go to the loo after that.

She also wants her children and families to be close...but that will never happen. Fortunately the eldest SIL never started any Mother's Day, Christmas gathering or I would have to put up with MORE crap. :x

[janet88]

DUPLICATE

[janet88]

growie:

Oh I see...just 'parrot' their questions!! Hmmm never really realized that these same people are afraid of people asking them. Thanks, I gotta try out and see what their replies & reactions are.

Really ? This method will work ? I'll try it out then.
Then it will become meaningless to ask me anything.
My son hates it when she keeps asking him who she is...so I taught him to answer her, 'You are my daddy's mummy'. No wrong with that and not rude.

[kylene]

[quote]Really ? This method will work ? I'll try it out then.

Then it will become meaningless to ask me anything.
My son hates it when she keeps asking him who she is...so I taught him to answer her, 'You are my daddy's mummy'. No wrong with that and not rude.[/quote]haha. I love the \"you are my daddy's mummy\" part . lol. wonder how my MIL would react to that.

When MIL asks me too many questions about our family life, I would ask her questions about SIL instead. SIL is recently attached so there's lots of things to ask eg has she met her prospective inlaws , did her bf help her when she moved house etc. Yes, MIL wants to know about everything we do. where we ate, how much we spent, which friends we met.

[janet88]

24hr-mum:

if got any wkend my hubby travels i m actually happy cos no need go mil plc

Smart move.
I don't stop my hubby from visiting them...but please don't involve me. It's really painful and mood-spoiler facing her. Now I just can't wait for them to fly to US to look after their soon-to-be-born 2nd grandchild.

[kylene]

24hr-mum:

my case is like kylene's.

me n mil disagree over wat kids eat.
she likes to offer junk food, i m super health conscious.
crazy!

it's very annoying isn't it. here we are, trying our best to give our kids healthy food , trying to teach them good eating habits and someone sabotages it. Thing is, MIL is quite health conscious too, esp in the past 5 years when FIL discovered he has high cholesterol. She gives my kid junk food so that he would like her. and her defence? it's ok, he's still young. When I tell her about good eating habits starting from young, she accuses me of being over-protective.

[janet88]

kylene:

[quote]My son hates it when she keeps asking him who she is...so I taught him to answer her, 'You are my daddy's mummy'. No wrong with that and not rude.

haha. I love the \"you are my daddy's mummy\" part . lol. wonder how my MIL would react to that.

When MIL asks me too many questions about our family life, I would ask her questions about SIL instead. SIL is recently attached so there's lots of things to ask eg has she met her prospective inlaws , did her bf help her when she moved house etc. Yes, MIL wants to know about everything we do. where we ate, how much we spent, which friends we met.[/quote]It is so irritating...I don't know if she has amnesia or what but to keep asking the same question over and over again. I don't know what is she trying to prove either...but it's not wrong to tell her over and over again that she is daddy's mummy. I don't strike any conversation with her...bcos she will say '你听我说' again and again. :frustrated: