Asian Mums are more SUPERIOR?

[csc]

Actually, for boys, the most 'intellectually demanding' place is not the university but in the army during their national service.

[Chenonceau]

2ppaamm:

Chenonceau:

I have a place in USA and US bank accounts. I buy everything through those. Is that why?

Not sure, because I have those too. They allowed me to buy from anywhere until last Dec.... I tried buying in Thailand and it didn't work either. I'd try again later and see. I don't have a social security number anymore, maybe should re-apply.

I thought SSNs don't expire? Your work visa expires but your SSN is forever.... or so I thought.

I could be wrong though...

[toddles]

csc:

There is an interesting write up today in the Review & Forum section of the Straits Times. It's written by a westerner titled \"Tiger Mother? Amy Chua's a wimp.\"


According to the writer, it is more cognitively demanding to be spending time at a sleepover than practising a piece of music for four hours.

He felt that managing status rivalries, negotiating group dynamics , understand social norms, navigating the distinction between self and group - impose higher cognitive demands than any tutoring session at Yale university.

Another enlightening thought is he thinks that the school cafeteria is more intellectually demanding than the library. I like this .

Good food for thought and reflection!

sleepover more cognitively demanding? hmm... I would say it requires more EQ. depends on what his definition of cognition encompasses.

school cafeteria more intellectually demanding? I suppose it depends on what his 'ideal' for his child is. In western society, high school is SUCH a difficult time because success = popularity. but to me, it's more important to do the right thing, to have the right character than to be popular. and sometimes, both are diametrically opposed.

so if my child can't navigate the school cafeteria scene too well, it's okay. So long as she's not obnoxious / arrogant / a total social misfit, I would say who cares? I don't need my kid to be some smooth operator and be king/queen of the social jungle in school.

[Sun_2010]

Chenonceau:

2ppaamm:

[quote=\"toddles\"]And the best part is that, Lulu probably got her stubborn streak from her mum!


so what can you say when faced with your own genes right?

I'd say, \"Why are you so much like your father (or grandmother or aunty)?\"

When The Daughter was 3, I once said \"When YOU grow up, I hope that you will have a daughter JUST LIKE YOU! Then, you will know what I am going through!\"

Her response \"But Mom, Daddy said yesterday that I am JUST LIKE YOU!!\"

:stupid:[/quote]Haha!
Cheeky one ur DD !

The look of glee on my moms face when I am struggling to handle my daughter says it all, sigh!

[csc]

Allow me to share my piece about piano learning.


I know nuts about pitch and tones and I have never sat down with my children when they are learning the piano. All I did was that nod of approval when they play a piece well.

It has always been a struggle for them to balance their demanding school work and piano exams. However, since last year, there has been a major breakthrough in my daughter's learning process.

She has been the playing the piano a few times a day, not in preparation for her next graded exam but simply playing her favourite Korean and Taiwan pops.

My son was soon influenced by her and also began to wind down his stressful week day by playing the piano too.

I am so glad to see this breakthrough and to me, the ability to apply their musical talent and interest in their daily lives is the greatest achievement so far for them! :lol:

[Chenonceau]

csc:

Allow me to share my piece about piano learning.


I know nuts about pitch and tones and I have never sat down with my children when they are learning the piano. All I did was that nod of approval when they play a piece well.

It has always been a struggle for them to balance their demanding school work and piano exams. However, since last year, there has been a major breakthrough in my daughter's learning process.

She has been the playing the piano a few times a day, not in preparation for her next graded exam but simply playing her favourite Korean and Taiwan pops.

My son was soon influenced by her and also began to wind down his stressful week day by playing the piano too.

I am so glad to see this breakthrough and to me, the ability to apply their musical talent and interest in their daily lives is the greatest achievement so far for them! :lol:

That's great!! Little Boy made up his mind in Kindy that he didn't like music. They sang in Kindy and he could neither hold tune nor follow beat.

In P1, he went for music class. In P2, there was again music class... and he had to SING!! SOLO!! In P3, they made him do it again. He came home and asked me why they keep making him do music.

I said \"Because some children may have talent for music, so all children do music just in case\".

He looked at me in disgust \"In P1, they made me sing. In P2, they made me sing. In P3, also... and I cannot sing and I told Teacher I don't like music. How long does it take them to LEARN that I don't like music?\"

When trying to improve his Chinese, I suggested to learn Chinese songs. He again looked at me in disgust \"I don't like music. What makes you think I will like to learn Chinese with music?\"

:stupid:

[toddles]

Chenonceau:

When trying to improve his Chinese, I suggested to learn Chinese songs. He again looked at me in disgust \"I don't like music. What makes you think I will like to learn Chinese with music?\"

:stupid:

He's got a point there though!

try other routes like comics for a start? boys like comics.

[csc]

[quote]When trying to improve his Chinese, I suggested to learn Chinese songs. He again looked at me in disgust \"I don't like music. What makes you think I will like to learn Chinese with music?\"

[/quote]This is a good one ! :rotflmao:

I am also hoping that my children will use their talent to serve..I know of a friend's teenage children who play the guitar at the old folks' home on weekends. This mum is no Tiger Mum or super mum but a great mum who can encourage her children to have a passion to serve the needy in society.

[phankao]

2ppaamm:

phankao:

You are amazing. And you have 2 pianos in the house? We have 8 persons living in a 1100 sq ft - no space for too many instruments. I thought your elder daughter did violin at NAFA? Thought was your no.1 & no.3 that did piano at NAFA.

We have now three keyboards in the house. #2 was in NAFA violin when #1 was doing piano in NAFA. We then had to move to China for a few months and did not take the internal exams. As such, both were out of NAFA. When we returned, NAFA took #1 back (first in history) but I didn't bother to ask for #2 to return, because I really couldn't help her much on the violin. The violin is so small, and I get a neck ache from playing and scrambling for the strings, and I was too stingy to buy a full-sized violin. She then asked me to teach her the piano. I did, until grade 5, even though I did not have any qualification. I then got #1's teacher to teach #2 and #3. By then, I had taught #3 to grade 3 as well. We didn't put any more children through NAFA, in fact, we stopped #1 attending NAFA regularly as well when he was asked to repeat a grade despite scoring a distinction in ABRSM. I felt it was a demotivational thingy but I understood that NAFA was trying to 'make the best out of him'. Sometimes, I wonder if that was the right decision, but it's not important to make the right decision. We RIGHT every decision and move on.

Haha - it's really up to the child! A friend who had one in violin nafa says piano in nafa is not the way to go - i'm not sure about the specifics. Anyway, hers had a really wonderful teacher who's not from nafa and she really plays beautifully and sensitively. Finished her dip at 11.

[phankao]

2ppaamm:

We had a thread we highlighted the boo-boos we made. I think no one could top mine. I forgot to register my oldest boy for primary school.... :!:

Nevermind - that time not compulsory schooling. won't get arrested. :lol: