Asian Mums are more SUPERIOR?

[toddles]

Alex001:

My Lord! I have never seen such strict parenting skills. Not attending a sleepover is fine, not playing computer games is okay, but not following their passion? I am twelve and I understand that the mother here wants to discipline her children well, but if she restricts her children to this extent, I believe that she has gone too far.


I agree with almost all her points, but depending on what the child is doing on the computer. Why not allow her children to be in a school play? So they \"won't be actors\" and lead \"horrible lives\"? Well, excuse me Amy Chua, but your dystopian rule over your children has gone too far. A revolution is necessary.

This is ridiculous. If the child could surf the web for reading on information, play another instrument other than a piano or violin, and choose their own extracurricular activities, then I'm fine. But she disallows all these. What is this hybrid regime? Is the mum trying to act 'superior'? I really feel like filing a lawsuit against her, for mistreatment of child, verbal assault and restrictions of freedom.

I am ashamed. Strict upbringing of a child is good. I would happily agree to do my homework, not watch television, let alone even play computer games. But I am simply shocked at the lines \"Or you'll have NO food\". Caning is fine, but no food?

I would continously reiterate this point - mothers must be strict, but allow their children to do what they want. I would love to see Amy Chua playing the piano for seven hours straight. I am a pacifist but I'd dearly wish for this brutal torture to be applied on HER. Her parents' upbringing of her should not affect her own upbringing of her children. Shocking, disheartening; does she even give a care for her children's passion?\"

At the least she must give her children one day off. Just a day, is that a lot to ask? She even has a comic on her character. I agree, children MUST get As. I myself targeted for As and got them true hard work. I'm having the angry vibes here, and I'm not going to stand this mistreatment of children.

Final verdict - give a day off, or GET YOUR OWN PUNISHMENT, Miss. Chua!

Sweetheart,

you must read through the rest of the links (her video on CNN, her actual bk if you're interested, her daughter's letter) to get a more balanced view.

when i read the first article she wrote, I reacted pretty much the same as you. But you'll soon realise that that's not the whole story.

She'd probably force herself to sit at the piano 10 hours anyway, that's how driven she herself is.

[jtoh]

When I read the first article, I had a different impression from the rest of you. I just felt she was telling her own personal story and not telling the rest of the world how all chinese mothers were, nor telling us how we should raise our kids. When I read the book, I found that she had a great sense of humour (as did her kids) and often took the mickey out of herself. I think the true story behind it is how she found out the hard way that her way was wrong and she almost lost Lulu because of her draconian ways.


The whole idea of the tiger mum was a marketing gimmick created by her publishers and it’s worked really well. Look at all the copies flying off the shelves. If the book had been marketed as one chinese mother’s struggle to raise her 2 girls, there would have been far less interest.

[2ppaamm]

jtoh:

When I read the first article, I had a different impression from the rest of you. I just felt she was telling her own personal story and not telling the rest of the world how all chinese mothers were, nor telling us how we should raise our kids. When I read the book, I found that she had a great sense of humour (as did her kids) and often took the mickey out of herself. I think the true story behind it is how she found out the hard way that her way was wrong and she almost lost Lulu because of her draconian ways.


The whole idea of the tiger mum was a marketing gimmick created by her publishers and it's worked really well. Look at all the copies flying off the shelves. If the book had been marketed as one chinese mother's struggle to raise her 2 girls, there would have been far less interest.

I think so too. Just a way people sensationalize this to make money. Nothing is new. In this case, very smart.

[Lock]

jtoh:

When I read the first article, I had a different impression from the rest of you. I just felt she was telling her own personal story and not telling the rest of the world how all chinese mothers were, nor telling us how we should raise our kids. When I read the book, I found that she had a great sense of humour (as did her kids) and often took the mickey out of herself. I think the true story behind it is how she found out the hard way that her way was wrong and she almost lost Lulu because of her draconian ways.


The whole idea of the tiger mum was a marketing gimmick created by her publishers and it's worked really well. Look at all the copies flying off the shelves. If the book had been marketed as one chinese mother's struggle to raise her 2 girls, there would have been far less interest.

I agree with you totally. It's probably all for publicity purpose. I am curious and interested to read the book only cos of all the intense debates going on.

[mum2b]

Chenonceau:

In the past, I used to wish that I could float out of my body and go observe how other people brought up their kids so that I would know exactly how to bring mine up well (by steering away from others' mistakes and learning from others' successes). Amy Chua's book is as close as I can get to such maternal espionage. Haha!

Chenonceau,
heh.. i too was and still am wishing every now and then, to be invisible to go see how others do their parenting to learn from others
but now this KSP forum does most of that (being \"invisible\" and \"learn from other parents\") :love:

[3Boys]

mum2b:

Chenonceau:

[quote=\"3Boys\"]In the past, I used to wish that I could float out of my body and go observe how other people brought up their kids so that I would know exactly how to bring mine up well (by steering away from others' mistakes and learning from others' successes). Amy Chua's book is as close as I can get to such maternal espionage. Haha!

3Boys,
heh.. i too was and still am wishing every now and then, to be invisible to go see how others do their parenting to learn from others
but now this KSP forum does most of that (being \"invisible\" and \"learn from other parents\") :love:

[/quote]This is bizarre, I have no recollection of ever writing that passage you just quoted me on! Probably included the wrong quotation marks.

[mum2b]

paiseh.. i think i quoted wrongly :oops:

corrected!

[Chenonceau]

mum2b:

Chenonceau:

In the past, I used to wish that I could float out of my body and go observe how other people brought up their kids so that I would know exactly how to bring mine up well (by steering away from others' mistakes and learning from others' successes). Amy Chua's book is as close as I can get to such maternal espionage. Haha!

Chenonceau,
heh.. i too was and still am wishing every now and then, to be invisible to go see how others do their parenting to learn from others
but now this KSP forum does most of that (being \"invisible\" and \"learn from other parents\") :love:

Yeah! You're so right!!

[Funz]

3Boys:

mum2b:

[quote=\"Chenonceau\"]
3Boys,
heh.. i too was and still am wishing every now and then, to be invisible to go see how others do their parenting to learn from others
but now this KSP forum does most of that (being \"invisible\" and \"learn from other parents\") :love:

This is bizarre, I have no recollection of ever writing that passage you just quoted me on! Probably included the wrong quotation marks.

[/quote]LOL. And why would you want to commit maternal espionage?

[ExpatMom]

Her kids may go to great schools and be able to play the piano beautifully… but I’m willing to bet they will never be able to write their own music or come up with their own ideas.


A strict life that disregards and stifles a person’s passion will only give you children who are very good at following rules, but not good at innovating or creating new ideas.