If you could, would you decide on a 3rd child?

[bebe]

Gecko:

Me and the wife just had a third about 8 months ago.


It is a joy but tiring. My aging knees are not up to the strain (can't get up after squatting and bathing the kid .. bwahaha :lol: )

She came a year later than we would have liked (elder kids are 8 and 5) but important thing is that she is here. We wanted a bigger gap between the first two and the third.

Financially, we can just about do it but we watch what we spend carefully.

Will no. 4 come? Unlikely but one never knows ....

Gecko

Yr #3 is of the same age as mine..my first 2 are 8yrs and 7yrs..so definitely a big gap between them and #3, who somehow came along when we least expected it. Nonetheless, he is the precious of our family as all of us simply adore him.

Mentally tired as age is certainly catching up on daddy and mummy, but luckily the older siblings are able to take turn to entertain him.

Financially do-able..not as if we get to buy branded stuff, dine at expensive restaurants, but certainly hv to be frugal a bit, and spend wisely.

Like you..not sure if we will go for #4, but for now, we are contended and feel blissful..

[rainrain]

WaWa:

I would love to ....

But don't dare ....

Cos I am sooo afraid of getting another special needs child .... so very afraid

I think in general if your love for children is so much and if you like to see a big family gathering when you are old.I will say go for it.. That's how I convince myself. As I'm born being so in-secured, I often find myself worry about this worry about that.actually financially we are ok, but we are first time parents, so we do not know what is ahead of us.. And Im the type I want to give my children the best. Eg.piano class, tuition, oversea studies if can't get into Singapore uni.. etc...so I will be very sad if I can't provide these for them..

This is what heard somewhere from a friend, if u hVe five kids they might be able to play recorders,four kids maybe guitars, three kids piano, two kids cello.. But if one kid, he can be a conductor .haha...sounds funny but in a way quite make sense too!

Hi wawa,

What is your child diagnoised? If it's autistic, mr brown first born is autistic
but their second and third child are extremely health and bright.

[buds]

Gecko:

Me and the wife just had a third about 8 months ago.

:congrats: Gecko and wifey! :celebrate:

Hubs and i just had our #3 too... last month.
It was unplanned... or rather... :idea: ... it WAS planned by hubs all along!

Gecko:

It is a joy but tiring. My aging knees are not up to the strain (can't get up after squatting and bathing the kid .. bwahaha :lol: )

Age is catching up with me too.. :lol: Had a tougher and more challenging
delivery and still recuperating from the pain of childbirth and of course the
joy... of which one of the joys is ... of waking up three hourly.. :laugh:

Hubs doesn't dare say a word of complaint (yet!) :lol: for he asked for
it! :laugh: Our son would wake up and give a smile seemingly to indicate,
\"I'm wide awake now...\" And everyone would no longer feel sleepy no
more. :rotflmao:

Baby is so far guai & very cute... so i suppose it's nice having a new baby
around the house especially with our girls quite big oredi... elder one
coming 10yrs old and younger one coming 8yrs old by the next half
of the year.

Gecko:

She came a year later than we would have liked (elder kids are 8 and 5) but important thing is that she is here. We wanted a bigger gap between the first two and the third.

Yeah.. important is she is now here. While there are quite a few advantages
of bigger gaps btwn children, women have to come to terms of having to start all
over again (all the breastfeeding and baby routine thingies) after already settling
down with the older kiddies.

Gecko:

Financially, we can just about do it but we watch what we spend carefully.

With only hubs' working for so many years, we have managed fine so far and even
got to travel short trips within the year.. with #3 now, i guess we'd still do okay,
but yes, i do agree that we do watch what we spend on these days.

Gecko:

Will no. 4 come? Unlikely but one never knows ....

Gecko

:siam: I siam first orh.. :siam:

Yes, ultimately... no one will ever know.

[Gecko]

Dear Buds,


Many thanks and many :congrats: to you and the hubs.

:udawoman:

I would like to add that our third is a girl. Honestly, that was great because she won't have to do NS and would be working for a couple of years by the time I finally retire. Just right!

The pregnancy was tough on the wife. Spent a month plus in hospital from about wk 29-33+ due to some bleeding. Damn expensive stay that was. All said and done, DD2 is doing well.

The wife is on no pay leave at the moment. The big decision is whether she wants to quit her job a not. I am personally okay with whatever she wants.

I never thought I would be a father of 3 but it is a great (but tiring) ride so far.

Gecko

[Funz]

While others are considering whether to have #3, I am coming to terms with not having #3.

[janet88]

Funz:

While others are considering whether to have #3, I am coming to terms with not having #3.

I won't even consider...it's just too challenging to have #3, the education is just too challenging and expensive.

[buds]

Gecko:

Dear Buds,


Many thanks and many :congrats: to you and the hubs.

:udawoman:

:thankyou: Gecko for your wishes. :celebrate:

Our first two are girls and finally now comes a boy for our #3. Phew!
I sooo hard that this should be finale of the finals lor, no more
accidents! :rant: I want to close shop!

Gecko:

I would like to add that our third is a girl. Honestly, that was great because she won't have to do NS and would be working for a couple of years by the time I finally retire. Just right!

Gawd! :faint: You just hit me with another... :clubmyself:
Guess how OLD i'd be when my boy goes for national service.. http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php

Gecko:

The pregnancy was tough on the wife. Spent a month plus in hospital from about wk 29-33+ due to some bleeding. Damn expensive stay that was. All said and done, DD2 is doing well.

Sorry to hear that.. but great that it's all good now, aye? :hugs:
Mine was challenging too... of all the three. Old oredi lar.. engine
inside need overhaul liao.. :roll: .. We had many scares and once
we thought, we lost the baby liao. Hubs didn't speak much almost
the whole time... until our gynae confirmed the baby's still very
much alive and kicking.. literally.

Gecko:

The wife is on no pay leave at the moment. The big decision is whether she wants to quit her job a not. I am personally okay with whatever she wants.

I've been on no pay leave for the last uhmmm... :idea: ... a decade mebbe.. :laugh:
Naaah.. a little less than that lar. But i'm not complaining. Nothing beats getting
to sleep in. Dun know if i can do the 9 to 5 oredi now.. Well, i do have $$$ to
spend, short trips to chill, occasional girls' nite out or till mornings if with my bros...
and i get to sleep with the boss! :laugh: And look what it got me into, uh? :lol:

I'm the opposite. I'm itching to go back to work..

Gecko:

I never thought I would be a father of 3 but it is a great (but tiring) ride so far.

Gecko

GOSH! Neither did i! http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php

But we take as it comes lah yah? :celebrate:

With bb #3 at this age, the heart cannot take too much excitement..
Must slowly a bit.. :lol:

Psst, Gecko... when i squat, my bones go *crack* and likewise when i try to get
back up.. sooo... :idea:... like the Michael Jackson song goes... Youuuuu are not
alone.... I am here \"like\" youuuuu....

[buds]

janet_lee88:

Funz:

While others are considering whether to have #3, I am coming to terms with not having #3.

I won't even consider...it's just too challenging to have #3, the education is just too challenging and expensive.

Thankfully for us, janet_lee88... the girls have managed fine without external
help and i it lasts... but hor i seriously think by the time i have to go
thru' my third PSLE with my son... http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php... my brain jammed liao... and super rusty.

Oh gawd, did i just say go thru PSLE 3 times! :!:

http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php I might be senile by then... cos i might have to calculate \"U\" scores instead
of \"T\" scores when the time arrives. :politebleah:

[AgnesMM]

I have one and only daughter (8 yrs of age) and I don even dare think of a second one!!!

[twinklejoy]

buds:

Gecko:

Dear Buds,


Many thanks and many :congrats: to you and the hubs.

:udawoman:

:thankyou: Gecko for your wishes. :celebrate:

Our first two are girls and finally now comes a boy for our #3. Phew!
I sooo hard that this should be finale of the finals lor, no more
accidents! :rant: I want to close shop!

Gecko:

I would like to add that our third is a girl. Honestly, that was great because she won't have to do NS and would be working for a couple of years by the time I finally retire. Just right!

Gawd! :faint: You just hit me with another... :clubmyself:
Guess how OLD i'd be when my boy goes for national service.. http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php

Gecko:

The pregnancy was tough on the wife. Spent a month plus in hospital from about wk 29-33+ due to some bleeding. Damn expensive stay that was. All said and done, DD2 is doing well.

Sorry to hear that.. but great that it's all good now, aye? :hugs:
Mine was challenging too... of all the three. Old oredi lar.. engine
inside need overhaul liao.. :roll: .. We had many scares and once
we thought, we lost the baby liao. Hubs didn't speak much almost
the whole time... until our gynae confirmed the baby's still very
much alive and kicking.. literally.

Gecko:

The wife is on no pay leave at the moment. The big decision is whether she wants to quit her job a not. I am personally okay with whatever she wants.

I've been on no pay leave for the last uhmmm... :idea: ... a decade mebbe.. :laugh:
Naaah.. a little less than that lar. But i'm not complaining. Nothing beats getting
to sleep in. Dun know if i can do the 9 to 5 oredi now.. Well, i do have $$$ to
spend, short trips to chill, occasional girls' nite out or till mornings if with my bros...
and i get to sleep with the boss! :laugh: And look what it got me into, uh? :lol:

I'm the opposite. I'm itching to go back to work..

Gecko:

I never thought I would be a father of 3 but it is a great (but tiring) ride so far.

Gecko

GOSH! Neither did i! http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php

But we take as it comes lah yah? :celebrate:

With bb #3 at this age, the heart cannot take too much excitement..
Must slowly a bit.. :lol:

Psst, Gecko... when i squat, my bones go *crack* and likewise when i try to get
back up.. sooo... :idea:... like the Michael Jackson song goes... Youuuuu are not
alone.... I am here \"like\" youuuuu....

that's :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
:udawoman: to all mummies with 2, 3 or more kids! :celebrate: :rahrah: :rahrah: