All About Full-Time Maids
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If something did crop up she could have called.
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Ya, I think it was already the maid’s intention not to return. This happen to a colleague of mine. She let her go back annually. On the third year, the maid went back and never returned. My colleague could not reach her maid. Agent finally managed to find maid’s brother who told her that maid went back to get married and does not intend to come back. The maid is also a Filipino.
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this is pretty common for maids to break their promise.
some years ago, mine didnt show up at airport, didnt call. after nearly a month of searching. finally found her and realised she was hospitalised, went for appendx op. her family was unable to contact me cos’ she never told them my house and hp no. but she did returned to us eventually after adequate rest.
dont forget, during this period of missing in action, we are still paying for levy cos’ we dont know if she is coming back or not or shoudl we go hire another one. but we can always claim back the levy so no issue there. just that the anxiety and uncertainty of our next move is a big headache. -
jtoh:
Well if a worker doesn't want to leave singapore, she could run away, claim abuse and make your life miserable. My imagination also makes me wonder if she will refuse to check in etc.
hquek, you mentioned that things might get hairy if the helper doesn't want to leave. What might happen?
So if yours does not want to leave, you should make sure you are 'whiter than white'. Don't let her have any means to frame you for anything you didnt do.
Eg, although my maids left happily, I would still draft out a note stating very clearly how much they earned and how much was passed to them. They will view it, agree and sign on it. This copy I keep - JUST in case.
If you don't like scenes, then consider hiring an agency to do the escorting for you. they will make sure she walk through the customs...and then you should be absolved of any responsibility for her. -
Hiccup:
The only way probably is to talk to her and chit chat - and then slyly feed her information about unscrupulous agents, naughty maids (who stir up trouble etc...and then see if she can wake up to good ideas.Agreed! My new maid of one month told me that the maid from a few houses away always talked to her and asked her how is her ma'm. I think she is trying to stir up trouble cos I recently sent my maid home for stealing money and for wearing my clothes. Maids tend to share gossips behind our backs. Any advice on how to handle this?
I'm frank to my maids about what I like about their work and what I didn't like about the previous maids. Hope to give them some motivation and where they are doing the right thing, to encourage them further.
But I heard that my current maid - whilst ok to work for another 2 years, will not be wanting to continue thereafter. Me being paranoid since she's only here less than 6 months. Will see if I can keep her for a longer time. Didn't imagine that staff retention is also an issue I have to face.
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hquek:
Thanks hquek.
Well if a worker doesn't want to leave singapore, she could run away, claim abuse and make your life miserable. My imagination also makes me wonder if she will refuse to check in etc.jtoh:
hquek, you mentioned that things might get hairy if the helper doesn't want to leave. What might happen?
So if yours does not want to leave, you should make sure you are 'whiter than white'. Don't let her have any means to frame you for anything you didnt do.
Eg, although my maids left happily, I would still draft out a note stating very clearly how much they earned and how much was passed to them. They will view it, agree and sign on it. This copy I keep - JUST in case.
If you don't like scenes, then consider hiring an agency to do the escorting for you. they will make sure she walk through the customs...and then you should be absolved of any responsibility for her.
I have no intention of sending my maid home right now. She's a little silly, naive and emotional, but other than that quite alright. Right now I'm reading up to find out what I need to know in case anything happens in the future. Thanks again. -
Hiccup:
Hiccup,Peapot wrote
Actually you can't hide the newspaper from the maid. When they meet other maids outside, they will also talk about it. Unless, your house don't subscribe newspaper, you don't let her go out to run errands and she has no off day, and you dispose the rubbish yourself then maybe it's possible to hide from her.
Agreed! My new maid of one month told me that the maid from a few houses away always talked to her and asked her how is her ma'm. I think she is trying to stir up trouble cos I recently sent my maid home for stealing money and for wearing my clothes. Maids tend to share gossips behind our backs. Any advice on how to handle this?
I have spoken to my maid and even shared the newspaper article with her. We also discussed on the underaged maid who threw the 12 years old girl down. She can tell me that the maid was underaged and cannot cope. The news was in the paper before she joined my family. See how good their grape vine is.
My ex-maid used to tok to all my neighbours maid via windows (frm upstairs, downstairs, opposite, nxt door, opposite downstairs), slowly all maids were sent bak n i did the same to my ex maid.. soon we realise it was the maid nxt door to my unit (door nxt to door) tat was the 'Tribal Chief'.. she's wif neighbour for 10 over yrs.. and frequently there will b diff maids coming to her plc.. n the owner's ILs who r china ppl complains but can't do anyting abt it.. coz they say SIL say maid is gd help..
So when i hired my new maid, who juz arrived on 31 Jan.. DH told her that she shldn't tok to any of the maids except our own family members maid.. n if she did and start doing tings tat is wrong, off she goes.. He told her nxt door maid is the Tribal Chief, those maids ard tat tok to her.. all was slowly sent off.. so if she wants to go bak.. she can start doing tat..
My maid told DH, she understand and she wont.. hope it stays tis way.. -
jtoh:
Talk about emotional. I'm not sure if it's personality or nationality.
I have no intention of sending my maid home right now. She's a little silly, naive and emotional, but other than that quite alright. Right now I'm reading up to find out what I need to know in case anything happens in the future. Thanks again.
My 2 previous Indo maids all will start eyes red red, tear a bit when I tell them this is not correct (note: I NEVER NEVER scold them stupid or what, just tell them this is not correct and this should be the way).
But the current Myan maid will just go \"Orhhh,\" and look like a lightbulb lit up inside; occasionally also add \"Sorry\". No tears (this only when she calls home...and according to her it's tears of happiness). She may not be the brightest of bulbs (somehow my kids clothing still mixed up) but at least I don't have to deal with crying. -
ElasticGirl:
A few maids ago, my former maid did the same thing.my maid went on home leave 2 months before end of contract with her promise to return back and work for another 2 years.. But she never turned up at the airport on the date of arrival .
we felt so cheated as we had in acceded to her request to go back so that she could celebrate her father's birthday and in good faith loaned her a luggage & purchased return tickets & some pocket money .
if anyone out there are considering hiring a maid named Felgelyn Regidor from the Philippines .. BEWARE .. !!. :x
I told her from the start of her 1 month home leave, that if she does not want to return back to work , then she should let me know early. After 1 week, she called and sounded cheerful and said that she will definitely return. On the day of arrival, she sms me and said she would not be returning!
She did not have anything to lose as she took all her savings with her home.
Later i realized from other maids that she borrowed between $10- 50 from each of them and even from my mum- in- law! -
hquek:
My maid's Filipino. Very emotional. But i suspect half of it is wayang to gain sympathy.
Talk about emotional. I'm not sure if it's personality or nationality.jtoh:
I have no intention of sending my maid home right now. She's a little silly, naive and emotional, but other than that quite alright. Right now I'm reading up to find out what I need to know in case anything happens in the future. Thanks again.
My 2 previous Indo maids all will start eyes red red, tear a bit when I tell them this is not correct (note: I NEVER NEVER scold them stupid or what, just tell them this is not correct and this should be the way).
But the current Myan maid will just go \"Orhhh,\" and look like a lightbulb lit up inside; occasionally also add \"Sorry\". No tears (this only when she calls home...and according to her it's tears of happiness). She may not be the brightest of bulbs (somehow my kids clothing still mixed up) but at least I don't have to deal with crying.
Not the brightest of bulbs is okay. Most of them aren't. Too bright the bulb comes with its own problems.
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